I have been dating this wonderful man for about 2 1/2 months. I feel like he is the one for me. He makes me feel special. I have never had a man to treat me like him before. I am falling in love with him. He wants to get married. I want to but I don't know if its too soon. What shall I do? I really want to spend the rest of my life with this man. I have never had anyone to make me feel like this before. I also have 2 kids and he wants to be a father to my kids. So what shall I do? I am confused can anyone shed some light on my situation.
2006-11-07 02:38:46 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You say you're "falling in love" with him....so you don't love him. Under no circumstances should you marry someone you don't love...please wait...
2006-11-07 02:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by Cindy S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first instinct was to say no, it's not too fast because I had a fast engagement myself. But then I saw that you have kids. So yes it is moving way too fast. Don't know what happened to the father of those kids but if mistakes were made, then you need to take a good look and make sure you're not repeating those mistakes.
Your responsibility to your children has to take top priority. Having fathers drift in and out of their lives can be very damaging. You and your guy need to think through the implications of him being a father and husband because your children deserve someone who will stick around for the long haul. Slow down- what's the rush?
2006-11-10 09:00:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be the man for you, but two months is not enough time. If you are meant to be together, you should spend more time getting to know each other. The true test of a relationship is time. It is easy to be crazy about someone when you are still in the initial phase of learning new things about one another; that is a very exciting time in a relationship. You need to see how you feel about him after that phase has passed. You may find that you were right all along, and he is the right guy for you. If that is the case, there is no harm in waiting at least another 10 months.
2006-11-07 02:49:03 · answer #3 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm....make sure you REALLY know this guy. I know that there are people that have gotten married after a week, but you just never know. I would wait longer only because you have kids and want to look in their best interests. You never know about some guys and kids. I would say give it more time to see how he is with your kids. He may change in a few months. Also look for him getting edgy and pushy about you guys getting married. There may be another reason why he would want to do that. IF hes ok with waiting and is not pressuring you, I would wait.
2006-11-07 02:43:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my honest opinion, you do not know enough about someone in 2 1/2 months to make that decision. Additionally you have the children to think about as well, so do not make a decision in haste and later regret it. If the two of you are talking about marriage, talk about a date for say, 10-12 months from now. That will give the two of you to plan for it, and get to know each other better. If he is not willing to wait that long, then you need to ask yourself why...
2006-11-07 02:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have doubts about it being too soon, then don't rush it but there is no harm in being engaged!
Get engaged and begin planning, just plan for a date that is a bit out there, maybe a year or so and see how the relationship grows in that time.
Miss Cris
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2006-11-07 02:42:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally feel that if this is the man that God has sent you then you should wait and get to know him a little better. If he is God sent then he will understand your wanting to wait and will respect you for it. But if he is in a rush to get married and doesn't respect your feelings on wanting to wait then you should just let him go. Don't be in a rush to make a mistake. Good luck
2006-11-07 02:44:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like you are rushing. It has only been 2 1/2 months...give it time. I bet there is still so much you have to learn about eachother. You said you are "falling in love" with him, not that you are in love with him. He sounds like a good guy but you should definetly wait and make sure it's right. No need to rush :o)
2006-11-07 02:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by TJ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I you feel he's the right guy, if your kids like him, and if he share your feelings, then go ahead ! Marry him !
I met my bf in may 2005, we were working together.
In December 2006, we started dating.
In February 2006, we moved in together.
In March 2006, he proposed to me, and I said yes !
We'll be married in June 2007.
You know, what I feel for him is very very strong, and we both feel the same. So we think it's the right choice. And we're very happy together !
2006-11-07 02:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by tokala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to spend the rest of your life with him, what's the difference if you wait until you're together a while longer. I liked mostly everyone I dated for only a few months! You're talking about the rest of your life.
2006-11-07 02:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey its your life he's messing with and marriage is a big step im sure u r aware of that but its like this..if u think its too fast then it is..if u really love this guy and he really loves u and ur not ready just tell him...if he's god wretching in love with u too then he'll wait until u r ready..and if not then it wasn't meant to be....there are plenty of guys out there whow would probably love to spend the rest of their lives with u too.. and father ur children..good luck on whatever u decide...just remember if he loves u he's not going anywhere and he will tell u if he feels so.
2006-11-07 02:49:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋