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Recently my step daughter who is 24 years old told us her car was stolen, and reported it to the police and to her insurance company as stolen. The car had been in an accident and the car was totaled. The insurance company settled with her and paid her $2,700.
Now I come to find out-- Her boyfriend and her were drunk and had the accident and fled the scene, and reported the car stolen. Since she is my husbands daughter, I dont know what to do about it...If she werent my step daughter i would report her for sure. What is your advise?

2006-11-07 02:17:20 · 9 answers · asked by multipure417278 3 in Politics & Government Law & Ethics

My husband knows about it of course. But he would never turn her in for it. She has decided to stop talking to us, for whatever reasons she has. I have a feeling she's into drugs, and is digging a deeper hole than she knows.

2006-11-07 02:34:51 · update #1

9 answers

Tell her how this act has changed your opinion of her in a negative way and how disappointed you are. Then leave it alone. Treat her accordingly and don't lend her your car or give her any other responsibilities and tell her why every time.
She's irresponsible and can't be trusted to tell the truth.

2006-11-07 02:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by vmmhg 4 · 1 1

Tough call,I sure wouldn't want to have to make that decision.Just remember though,it is people like this that makes everyones insurance rates go up.If she reported it to the police,she has also made a false police report.Sounds like this girl needs some help,she is heading for trouble.

2006-11-07 04:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by stellablue1959 5 · 0 0

why does it make a difference that she is a relative?
that is the direction you should look.
would you not report your hubby if he murdered someone?
why does it make a difference if there is a relationship?
do you fear there will be an impact on your marriage?
would you change what you do as 'right' because it will impact relationships?
i'm not saying this is wrong but you have to examine your principles and what is really important to you.
and even if you don't report her (and if you do also) you need to confront her and tell her what you think andhow you feel about it and how it impacts your relationship with her and your respect for her. try to get her to report herself. give her that chance before you narc on her. if she won't turn herself in, then you can.
how does it benefit her by getting away with this behavior.
in the long run?

2006-11-07 02:27:31 · answer #3 · answered by Sufi 7 · 2 1

The difficult part is knowing what you know and you are in the middle of this mess. I would mention it to my spouse and consult with them about it. It is always best that husband and wife talk and keep each other in the loop! Whatever you decide to do make it a joint decision between you and your husband!

2006-11-07 02:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by no one here gets out alive 6 · 1 0

confident, it particularly is criminal and no it particularly is no longer insurance fraud. Step-dad does not prefer your permission to have your daughter further to his insurance. it particularly is easily fairly cool that he does, nonetheless, with the aid of fact it expenses him money and he does not ought to do it. And on a similar time because it particularly is courtroom ordered which you carry scientific insurance for her, it particularly is no longer courtroom ordered that she will't have the different insurance via anyone else. many people have twin insurance. (it particularly is your daughter's concern.) many of the time while people have twin insurance the provider charges the substantial insurance and then charges the secondary insurance for in spite of the substantial insurance did no longer conceal. it particularly is criminal with the aid of fact they are actually not "double-dipping", yet purely accumulating monies to cover the excellent value of the care given. with or with out your SS#, your insurance may be used if she's on it. (maximum insurance firms easily placed your SS# on your card and that of your dependants lined via your provider and coverage.) they do no longer ought to apply it to invoice your insurance employer. They have already got it. and you will call the step-dad's insurance all you prefer. no longer purely will they no longer talk over with you considering you're actually not a member, yet in spite of in case you have been, they are prevented from discussing your her wellness care with you with the aid of fact of HIPAA rules. wellness care is a style of areas the place mum and dad do no longer consistently have the final be conscious while it comprises the care of their minor toddlers. At 11, confident...you ought to nevertheless be recommended of in spite of is going on...yet via the different be sure, nonetheless.

2016-10-03 09:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

If she got away with it, then leave it alone. You shouldn't be trying to cause problems for her. I understand that what she did was illegal, but would you rather her get arrested, get a hefty fine, and possibly ruin any chances of her getting a great career because of it. Was it your insurance? probably not. Don't get involved. Don't call nobody. You are just going to get in between father and daughter. If you don't like her thats one thing, but purposely trying to get her in trouble is another. If her father don't care, then why do you? Mind your own business. If you don't like her, don't bother with her period. Don't go talking **** to her father b/c eventually he's going to find himself without a daughter b/c of you.

2006-11-07 02:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0 1

Oh they both sound like *lovely* people (yes, that's sarcasm.) You have a duty to report her. They are both irresponsible and dangerous! What if they had killed somebody that night? Would you report her then? Or would you still feel bad because it's your husband's kid?

2006-11-07 02:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by Demon Doll 6 · 1 1

Don't do it - let your husband decide. You have to be selfish here to preserve you marriage as healthy. She is 24 - if it's a fraud she will be held responsible. You are not an investigator, can't know for sure and you are not responsible for her actions! Besides, you are family!!

2006-11-07 02:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by Alexandra M 2 · 1 2

That's a tricky one, does your husband know? If you tell the cops and she goes to jail or whatever happens, will your husband hate you? Is $2700 really worth the hassle?

2006-11-07 02:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

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