2006-11-07 02:01:42 · 14 answers · asked by Darren A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have two children 1boy of 10and a girl of 8. my ex wife is one nasty piece of work who split our marriage up four and a half yrs ago.. then she moved 220 miles away to chaester.
my point is i am re married and she is engaged to another man,and when she gets married i will still pay for my kids even tho its thru ther nose and i only see them for 1 and a half days a month.you cannot if you feel anything for your kids let another man adopt them.we dads who care for our kids dont have many rights as it is..think long and hard they will be adults for a lot longer than they are kids.my new wife wouldnt have it any other way either.. kids arent stupid they dont miss anything.. i sleep well at night knowing my children know i love them and i am dad. you bought em into the world now enjoy it and do right by them
2006-11-07 08:02:47 · answer #1 · answered by rich k 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be very careful about allowing this man to adopt your daughter, once he is her legal parent, you loose all rights, this includes being able to see her, your ex-wife can stop you seeing your child, do you really want to risk that.
I don't think you do have to pay child support, after the adoption, but it shouldnt stop you, buying your daughter the stuff she needs, clothes and such.
You need to also think about how your daughter is going to think, when she is older or now even, she may accept what you did and understand, on the other hand she may feel abandoned, that you no longer love, she may think she has done something wrong, these are things that can actually affect her in later life.
I hope you have seriously considered all the reasons, and feelings for doing this, as once done it cannot be reversed.
I really do hope your daughter understands.
2006-11-07 09:23:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want somebody else to adopt your child? You are obviously in the financial position to support a child, which you have done so far, so be a father and love your child and don't allow the stepfather to adopt your child. Once adoption is complete, you no longer are responsible for that child neither financially or emotionally. You will no longer have a place in her life and will not have a say ever in anything that happens to that child. I wounder what made you make such a life altering decision...??
2006-11-07 03:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by ribena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you would no longer be financially responsible. But she can't be adopted unless you agree to this. Think about that for a minute. I understand that he wants to adopt her but she already has a father that is paying child support for her. He can still take care of her without adopting her. Unless he's rich and want to include her in the inheritance. Just think about it before you give her up. Once he adopts her you have no parental rights.
2006-11-07 02:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In Canada once the mother has married a man, and he formally adopts the child, the paternal parent is no longer obligated to pay child support. She is on the other hand your child and you should be happy to support her.
2006-11-07 02:04:22 · answer #5 · answered by alysinvunderland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it should matter what part of the world you are. It's YOUR DAUGHTER. Sound like you've been waiting for the oppotunity to get her off your hands and save some money. When she graduates from her mother's and step-father's support ONLY, are you going to show up to help her recieve the prize. I think not.
When and if you do that you sir, you'll be teaching your daughter that it's quite already to her relinquish her responsibility once some-one else steps on the job.
2006-11-07 02:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by Snow Brown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you allow your daughter to be adopted by someone else, you don't have to pay anything more, but you also have NO rights to ever see your daughter again! If you ever want to see her again, pay your support and fight the adoption.
2006-11-07 02:23:51 · answer #7 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will still pay until the adoption goes through even though i don't understand why you would want another man to support your daughter.
2006-11-07 02:05:04 · answer #8 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the stepfather will automatically become her legal parent which means he is responsible 4 her.you should know this as you ave to sign all your parental rights away for him to adopt her.speak to your solicitor if you have any doubts,because once you have signed over alrights you no longer have the right to see your daughter anymore,is that what you want?
2006-11-07 02:17:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why r u giving up your rights to your daughter? must not like being a dad...no you shouldn't have to pay child support. Still why? don't you love her?
2006-11-07 02:09:42 · answer #10 · answered by mmh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋