i finally have got a great boyfriend and my kiddie is doing well at school but i just cant seem to accept this. for the first time in my life things are great but i cant seem to become secure and live the dream ive wanted. please dont say that it probably isnt for you then, because that not my problem. How can I put my crappy past behind me and love my present and my future?
2006-11-07 01:44:24 · 13 answers · asked by caramel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
oh you guys! THANKS FOR THAT! just had a few tears at work but you'll have cheesed me up xxxx
2006-11-07 01:54:14 · update #1
Simple - you tell yourself that you deserve it!
Youve been faced with crap circumstances in the past - and you came through it - its made you a stronger person and now you can take a deep breath and realise that life is for living and enjoying!
You are totally entitled to being happy - prob more than most depending on your past circumstances - you've been lucky enough to have a great kid and now an even better boyfriend - sit back - appreciate and enjoy life and make the most of it!
Wishing you all the best and a continued happiness! xx
2006-11-07 02:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be possible that because you've been hurt so many times in your past relationships, that you are subconsiously trying to sabatoge this relationship, so you don't get hurt again. It's very normal, but damaging. If you truly believe this guy might be the one, then you need to communicate your fears to him. Let him know that you're afraid and why, and explain some actions you've recognized that might break the relationship. There is no easy way to get through it. But talking about it will help. Your heart will heal in it's own time. In the mean time, while you're healing, keep your child safe. Meaning, if there is a chance you may sabatoge this relationship, I would suggest not letting your child get attached to this man.
2006-11-07 01:48:00 · answer #2 · answered by kari w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time to move on, just be patient. Don't give up on what you have, if it's worth keeping. Try and be more social maybe, like hanging out with friends and having a good time. My friends have helped me through tough times, and I've grown alot form their perspectives. Don't let your past haunt you, trust me. Let go; anyway you can find some relief will be helpful. Don't let yourself sulk, either. If you're feeling bad, go out and make some new memories that you can treasure.
2006-11-07 01:51:46 · answer #3 · answered by Symmict 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to really do a lot of introspection. Find out why you feel the ways you do at this point in time and work toward repairing yourself.
Counselors and therapists are good at helping facilitate this.
2006-11-07 01:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the past is a closed chapter in your life. reminding yourself of what you didn't use to have should make you feel good coz it may all disappear in near future. you have a great family, why let your past get to you? you yourself said that it's your "crappy past", which means it's all over and done with. start afresh, look around you, your kid and your bf. remind yourself how much you had to go through to get to now.
2006-11-07 01:49:05 · answer #5 · answered by pee_bag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just put it behind you.Don't dwell on it.If this relationship is worth the TRUST then let go and give yourself totally to make this relationship work.Seek professional help if you need to in order to get over your past psychologically and emotionally.
2006-11-07 01:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by ivy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing you have to understand is that everyone has a past. what make you a hero/heroes is forgetting the past and move ahead. my dear you past should not ruin your present.they should just be a guide.without your past you wont be where you are today so your past make up your future.ok. to forget your learn to enjoy or do what you enjoy most ok. give your heart to you are doing and be committed to it in order to bring out the best, not just the best but that all concern or around will love what you do.
2006-11-07 01:57:09 · answer #7 · answered by eyereneada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your probally a bit afraid to relax incase it all gets taken away from you. Don't stress to much and take each day as it comes. Just enjoy your new found life on a day to day basis.
2006-11-07 01:49:10 · answer #8 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to take each day at a time and not worry about what might be, or you will miss out on enjoying the moment.
2006-11-07 01:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by Annie M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do it.
You can change your life everyday
you can change the way you look at life everyday
you just have to do it, there is no quick fix.
just be happy, its a state of mind.
2006-11-07 01:47:15 · answer #10 · answered by speedball182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋