We live in india, studying in da same college. His parents are very supportive, but mine, they are the orthodox kind will not approve of such a marriage... I am scared they may take extreme steps to stop us getting married...Please help me... Really confused.
2006-11-07 01:34:03 · 16 answers · asked by confused_1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get married first and then tell ur parents , atleast I did that because I didnt want any caos in my marriage, if u love him marry him otherwise u will remember him often
2006-11-07 01:39:00 · answer #1 · answered by emily 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Very simple solution, because thank God, you are the girl.
See, you can get married to him under the special marriage act 1983, where neither he, nor you need to change their respective religions. As you are the woman, you are supposed to go ahead and live in his house, with him and his parents, and they are already supportive to you, so you can always do that..
In future, if you find interest in christianity, you can always become a christian or remain a hindu and still be his wife. India is now a modren society and there are thousands of such marriages happening, thats why this law has been enacted.!
2006-11-07 01:49:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hindu girl loves a Christian boy. You should have known that a cross marriage would pose problems. Now that you are committed you have to take a stand against your own folks so that you can marry the guy you want. Talk to your parents they may be orthodox but they love you and would like that you have a successful marriage But before you do that look at your guy with a microscope if you find he is an excellent choice go for it without any doubts in you mind. It is not a crime to love. Try to get the boys family to agree conducting Hindu rites for your marriage. if your parents can take an extreme step so can you Sanguta was Hindu she eloped with Prithviraj in front of armies. So have courage
2006-11-07 04:00:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well the first thing you have decide is whether you are courageous enough to go against your parents.You have wrote you are scared.If you are afraid of your parents so much then it will be difficult for you to go against them.But if you are serious about your relationship, then you have no other option but to go with him,no matter what.
But before doing it think really well whether you actually want to do it. Remember, if you end up in some problems later in your life you may not get the support of your parents.Thats one disadvantage of love marriages.His parents are willing.So thats a good thing.But still you will need your mom and dad in many situations in your life.
So what you have to do is think about all aspects of the problem.Think whether it really worth going aginst your parents' wishes.If you are sure that your love is more precious than anything else then dont hesitate.Go for it.But you shud not repent the decision later.This is what I have to tell you.All the best
2006-11-07 01:47:09 · answer #4 · answered by Manu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey listen, in this case I dont know whether you are above 18 or the guy you love is above 21 or not. If it is YES then I would suggest you to go ahead with the court marriage and once you are through with the marriage then inform your marents. Need any help in Delhi or Kolkata do let me know. My email ID is chakraborty.upal@gmail.com
2006-11-07 02:09:40 · answer #5 · answered by Upal 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to clear your confusion - either be with your parents or with your love. Have a clear conscience and act accordingly. It is foolish to advice on such matters.
2006-11-07 03:58:33 · answer #6 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading whole situation, it seems to me, you are really a true soul for the Hindu girl. It is true in indian subcontinents whether a Hindu or Muslim family. Answer of your query is yes! You must win her. As you told you would never cheat her, so nothing can stop you getting her. What you need to do is: you need to do is put effort to win the whole family's faith. It will be very difficult if you are not tactful. Firstly: Win Mother of the Girl's faith. Be polite and gentle, show her your truthfulness. "Indian mothers want what ever, where ever there kids are, should be happy". If you somehow could manage her (Mother of bride) she will play vital role for you. Be careful, it will take time to get mindset of the (Mother of Bride), Don't be too rush, hurry. Have passion win the game. Trick: Express her (bride's mother), as "Maa" or " How your girlfriend call her?" Never say in English way. Try to explain your values. Secondly: Tell the father "I have no God unless I can make you happy", "My parents are my God!". "After marriage you will be my God", In my belief, Only one God Who ever is either "Jessus Christ" or "Lord Chrisna" will be happy to me unless I make your family happly". I have heard one Movie from my friend called "Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayengee", same problem with cultural differences. Finally the boy could win the family's heart. Please watch with your girl friend, there are some German, English versions available. watch the movie, try to understand the family. Apply your technique, I am sure of your win. Thanks brother Sayem
2016-05-22 07:18:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many marriages do not last.The so called love and affection and care you think you feel for each other may not last long.Dont think that your parents are stupid and you are so much smarter than them.Listen to their concerns.......and if you are a college girl,why so many childish errors in your question?
2006-11-07 01:44:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
run and get married like the rest of Indian do when they parents don;t agree on they marriage and they will forgive you after 2 years for sure but parents are right most of the time to it up to you now
2006-11-07 01:47:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Parents have best interest of their child at heart so do not rush allow some time.
2006-11-07 02:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋