My ex died two weeks ago in a tragic hunting accident. He was engaged to marry someone else and even though we still "hooked up" every now and then he was going to be married soon before his passing. I wasn't really seeing anyone but have a male friend that I've known since high school. He recently professed to me that he's been in love with me for years and we have started seeing each other. I just want to move on and try to find some happiness. Is it too soon? Am I doing the right thing? I need some help from my friends at polls & surveys.
2006-11-07 01:21:49 · 28 answers · asked by lovelee1 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I didn't feel guilty about hooking up with him because he was with me when he met the girl he was engaged to. We have a son and he was the only person I was comfortable with. But sleeping with him did hold me back from persuing my own relationship. I guess I was hoping he would change his mind. Now I just feel free from all that drama, relieved at times. That's when I start to feel guilty. I really did love him. His passing has really made me look at my life and I want to be happy for however long I can be.
2006-11-07 01:38:29 · update #1
It was your X so move on.
Coach
2006-11-07 01:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by Thanks for the Yahoo Jacket 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone deserves to be happy and if you feel you are ready to move on then that is what you should do. If someone really cares about you then they would understand. Feeling guilty will only make you sad. If he was going to be married soon then you can just see his passing as he is married and it is time for you to let him work on his marriage and not "hook up" with you anymore. And it's time for you to find "the one" for you. Good Luck! and I'm sorry for your loss.
2006-11-07 01:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your exboyfriend was engaged to be married although it appears that you still have feelings for him and obviously felt that you were in a relationship with him because of the occasional hook ups YOU WEREN'T! He was ENGAGED!
You need to be asking yourself if you truly have feelings for the male friend you've known since highschool since you obviously feel guilty about seeing him. I understand that you just want to be happy but I'm sure that he'd want your feelings to be mutual and not just comfortable and convenient!
2006-11-07 01:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by mentalchallenge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think that you are hurting just think what his actual fiancee is going through. You may still care for him but you should let him go since technically you have NO claim on him. I know that this may sound mean. I went through the same thing earlier this year except mine didn't die. We dated for three years and then he told me that he did not want to get married or have kids because he couldn't go through losing another child. His oldest daughter passed away in january. He went back to her mother and still wanted to see me. I let him know that he had to make a choice either me or her. Well we are back together and he does want to get married and have kids now.
Anyway what i am trying to say, since you can't go back to him you need to move on. You can't live in the past. If you have found someone that will Make you happy then go for it.
2006-11-07 01:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by Pamela P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not to soon you got to look at like this your ex got over you soon enough becaus he was engaged so you move and be happy and put him in the past but still a lil friendship love for him
2006-11-07 01:30:22 · answer #5 · answered by HIS CHICK FORVER 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why should you feel guilty? Move on, it's not going to do anyone any good if you stay stuck in a rut emotionally. Just remember the good times you shared and be thankful for them. Best of luck with your new romance.
2006-11-07 01:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by mizzsquitz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should feel guilty I mean you weren't with him at the time he died its not like you cheated on him i think as long as you are happy and you morn your friends passing that things will look up for you
2006-11-07 01:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't bring your ex back & you will never forget him either. Sounds like you both had moved on in relationships before he died. You should move on & you deserve to be happy. Go for it!
2006-11-07 01:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by Dylanne 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
apparently you still had feelings for this person or at least enough to continue in you r mind a relationship so after what you think is an appropriate time of mourning then continue on with your life as you see fit
2006-11-07 02:06:21 · answer #9 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry for your loss. It is soon after your loss and I would take things very slow!! You don't want a rebound relationship that wouldn't be fair to neither one of you. I honestly think you should take some time for yourself, allow yourself a grieving period alone. You don't have to cut your friend off if he really cares for you (and it sounds like he does) he will be patient with you.
2006-11-07 01:36:46 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going through the mourning process. If you are religious, light a candle/incense for him and offer a pray. Put flowers on his grave. Meanwhile, still get on with your life. After all, he would want you to be happy
2006-11-07 01:25:58 · answer #11 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋