I have been with my girlfriend for forever and a day. I love her. she is the most perfect woman for anyone (athletic, intelligent, no games, tells it like it is, perfect body(size 4-6, 35C-25-36) and knows how to get herself off in bed.) Then why do i have feelings for her best friend?
She is the polar opposite. (not athletic, kind of a slob, and she is a bbw (size 14-16, 34DD).
the things i like about her: she is sarcastic, a great mother to her daughter, beautiful face and eyes that pierce the soul. I like the fact that she allows herself to be frail (emotionally and physically). Over the 10 years I've known her I think i have fallen in love with her. She makes me nervous when i'm around her and i find myself doing the little things that a boyfriend should do for her.
the things that i do: i pay attention to the little needs she wants. late night ice cream, monthly chocolate desserts for that time of the month and nightly footrubs till she falls asleep.
2006-11-07 00:41:08 · 7 answers · asked by Mr. Cellophane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Normally, I would just cut off ties and ignore this woman. But I have a close relationship with her since i am the godfather of her daughter and have taken the father role in place of a deadbeat dad.
I understand that relationships grow and I am in the point of my relationship with my girlfriend where we've past the lust stage. the needs in our relationship is facing toward marriage and soft bliss that comes with commitment. But I can't stop feeling these things for her best friend. I want to stop. Is it an obsession? Am I scared of commitment? Please give me advice on how to stop feeling these things.
2006-11-07 00:45:51 · update #1
u have put your self in a tight situation.you can not have any type of relation (sexual) with this female. remain a godfather and friend.u are talking about long time friendships and relationships.think about how badly this will affect u,girlf, gfbestf,and most important your god child!!!!!!! you need to stop putting so much taught into her. what if your girl where to find out about these foot rubs etc... Start going out and doing some romantic things with your girl or most important communicate. Find out how she feels about the relationship but no matter what you guys may come to U CAN'T DATE THE FRIEND!!!!! If you feel your girl is perfect my best bet would be to stay with her (the grass is never greener on the other side).
2006-11-07 01:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by 2b-nice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to break up with your GF and RUN away to the farthest desert island and be alone. This is a no win situation. You cannot break up with the GF and get with the best friend, that will never work. And if you marry your GF with feelings for someone else-that will never work-so remove yourself from this situation. You aren't gonna win.
2006-11-07 09:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by blonde_bitch_norris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thanks for the description but I hardly see what it matters. You are obviously not in love with your girlfriend anymore but you are playing with fire as far as being "in love" with her best friend. Nothing good can come of that. I know you aren't going to follow any ones advice about this, if you get the chance to be with her you will but I hope you are prepared for the consequences.
2006-11-07 08:49:08 · answer #3 · answered by momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless they are both willing to share you equally, you're pretty much up s h i t creek! If you dump your current g/f for her best friend, then they will both most likely despise you! If you truly love your g/f, then let her friend know that although you enjoy her company, she really needs to limit her amount of time around you (especially alone) because it causes you emotional anguish.
2006-11-07 08:49:16 · answer #4 · answered by grizzly_r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you have grown up and so has your taste in women...but in the end you will have to decide for yourself who you want to spend the rest of your life with...do you have children with your g/f now? are you wanting children? is she willing to have children? the other girl already has a child so if you decide to be with her you will also be a care giver to the child also..its all up to you and what you want in the end..you have alot of thinking and questions to ask yourself and the both of them
2006-11-07 08:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you admire your girl but you are just having fun with her because she's great and independent but those things also pushes you away from her.
i think you want a girl you can take care of. i think taking care of her makes you feel more manly. you like it, don't you???
2006-11-07 08:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude foot rubs, that's a little far. You better tell your girl, and pic. You cant have your cake, and eat it too. )O(
2006-11-07 08:45:32 · answer #7 · answered by Witchy Woman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋