Please, I need some advise.?

Question

I have 2 best friends who I worship, but sometimes I feel like they don't quite want to be my friend anymore. They both have little sisters who my sister likes to hang out with, and whenever my little sister hangs with one of their sisters, my two friends hang out witout me. I get sad, and lonely, but I never confront them or ask them about it in fear that they will tell me that they really don't like me. I am so sad, because one of these girls has been my friend since I was 5 and I am almost 14. The other is just a super fun person to be around and I have known her for a while. I can be really fun and excitable and enthuistic and sometimes I can be a little down and sad when I am around them and feel left out. I havent talked to them in about 5 days, I have emailed them, but I didn't go to school yesterday because I was sick and didn't see them there. I would be very heart broken if something ever seperated me from my best friends. They know me the best!!! Can someone please help me??

Oh yes, and I know about the odd and even number thing, I have also consitered ignoring them (not really truely ignoring them, but like, stop IMing them and calling them and emailing them for a while) I figure that if they were really my friends, they would worry about me and see what is wrong, other wise, I will have to try a little harder to fins some new friends.

Answer 1

Dear Liss:
From what you have described of your situation, the one thing that stands out more than anything else is that you are "afraid" to confront your friends; afraid they might tell you something you don't wanna hear. The sad part, Liss, is sooner or later, you are gonna have to face whatever truth there is from your friends. The way you handle this situation now is the way you'll handle a similar situation tomorrow or a year from now or 10 years from now. Learn from this. Let your friends help you to become strong. If they don't wanna hang with you any more, hear it, cry about it, fall apart, then pick your almost 14 year-old self up off the floor and go on. Life is still there and you'll be alright... eventually. You may see yourself as fragile now, but confrontations like the one you're avoiding will help to make you stronger and give you the courage to face other challenges that will come to you in the future. Learn from this, Liss. Learn from it and make yourself stronger. Try not to let yourself be a victim of friendships. Learn from it. I'll be somewhere rooting for you, Kid. Face the music and learn the song.

zeke

Answer 2

What you must realize when friends are together there must be an even number present. Odd numbers make one person feel left out. everyone needs a person to converse with.
Do not be afraid of losing friends or being alone. In your life you will make so many more friends it will be wonderful.
It is nice that the little sisters hang out but that shouldn't be the bond between you and your girls.
The strength and bond should be similar interests, likes, dislikes, hobbies, movies , music etc.
You can't make a friendship work if you are two totally different people.
Don't be so hard on yourself, just because you have different lives doesn't mean yours doesn't count as much as theirs. Give yourself some credit... you will find new friends that are more like you and really be happy. But remember the rule even numbers.....

Answer 3

I hope this will help you GET OVER IT!!! I'm not tring to be mean but really you are going to have so many more friends and disappointment is also part of lifes lesson better to learn it now and move on.

Answer 4

if they are your real friends,u should talk to them.talk straight.think first what u want to talk about,then do it!
I'm sure if u think they are your real friends everything will be ok.
If they dont want to talk to u,or stuff like that,thats the sign:
go ahead girl,everything will be fine!have no fear!

Good Luck!

Answer 5

GIVE THEM A PHONE CALL .
TALK WITH THEM .
I AM SURE THEY ARE YOU FRIEND