She sat me down and told me that her decisions about her job were confusing her, that she had thought what it would be like to be with other people. We live apart (she lives about 50 miles away due to her job and we have been together on/off for 8 years, it is an extension of a teenage romance) and there is a new male flatmate I am pretty sure has taken her interest. However she then told me that she loves me, she likes the thought of me being the father to her children and that she loves me too much, saying that if I cheated on her she would probably take me back (I replied to this by saying that I would not put her in that position - this is the truth as I love her so much and constantly think about her being the mother to my children). She then came up to mine at the weekend and we had a really nice time, going out with my friends and hanging out, sex was good but lacked a little intimacy. However when I talk to her on the phone she is very guarded but then says I love u at the end?
2006-11-06 23:46:28 · 4 answers · asked by orangutan1001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hmm, that is a very confusing situation! I mean the way she says she wants to have your babies and that she would take you back if you cheated on her does say something and I dont think she would say things like that if she didn't love you! I think you need to speak to her and tell her exactly how you feel and try sort things out! I think you will both be happy in the end. Good luck!;)
2006-11-07 00:03:45 · answer #1 · answered by Motti _Shish 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
8 years? She is telling you she loves you and is dependent on you. She is also telling you that she is thinking of leaving because you have not married her. Get to it man, why the delay?
If you cannot see yourself married after 8 years why are you still pursuing her. Quit being so freaking lazy. Of course she seemed distant. You will not commit. The next guy is in the wings, if you are not ready,I'll wager he is. Get on with it or get ready to get cut loose. Wake Up. That you had to ask here shows you have little clue. Set the date and do it soon.
2006-11-07 08:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading the answers,I have to add this...Why aren't you living with her if you and her have kids together...If she needs to be close to work,thats one thing, but aren't you there with her sharing in the flat....This is a no brainer...If you love her and she loves you...Talk to her about you moving there and spend the quality time together...Or,is it maybe you like your freedom that much and prefer this arrangement...
2006-11-07 08:49:57 · answer #3 · answered by Frank D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be confused too. From what you say it sounds as if she has not made up her mind. If you want to wait, if its worth it to you, then wait. But if your not sure you might explore other things as well.
2006-11-07 07:55:29 · answer #4 · answered by riscrispy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋