Do you think that it is possible for two people to be married without one not loving or even liking the other ?
Is it possible to be tolerant and live under the same roof ? Does that make for a good marriage ?
I mean marriage is just two people spending their lives together, havin kids, and solvin issues right ? wha does love have to do with any of that ?
Thanks.
2006-11-06 23:36:52 · 13 answers · asked by Ice B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hey i know that it SHOULD be about love, honour, respect etc etc.. but I dono one single couple who epitomise these values. Am more concerned about what it IS like.
2006-11-06 23:53:00 · update #1
yes i have experienced true love with my childhood friends and boyfriend of 6 years, until he died in a car accident.
2006-11-06 23:56:17 · update #2
Wow, I think love is the part that allows one to tolerate the little things that the other person does that are less than perfect. Yes, you need love in a marriage. Getting married and planning on spending ones entire life in a loveless marriage sounds like being in a prison. Good luck and God bless
2006-11-06 23:39:55 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does love fade...
Disillusionment—"This Is Not What I Expected"
Many movies, books, and popular songs paint an unrealistic portrait of love. While courting, a man and a woman may feel that they are experiencing a dream come true; but after a few years of marriage, they conclude that truly they must have been dreaming! Anything less than a storybook romance might make a workable marriage seem like an utter failure.
Incompatibility—"We Have Nothing in Common"
Conflict—"We're Always Arguing"
Apathy—"We've Given Up"
Loveless Marriages—Some Other Factors, Money, Parenthood, Deceit, Sex
But it can work if both people want it to work.
2006-11-07 10:25:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love has everything to do with marriage. Why would you want to be in a relationship forever without it? You'd be nothing more than room ates without love. Yes, you have kids and solve issues, but marriage when you love each other is so much more than that. You have to love each other to be able to stay together so long. Besides, why would you want to have kids with someone you don't love? Why would you want to do that to the kids? Granted, it may work for a little while (maybe a month or two, but it will get old quick and then you'd be stuck in a personal hell you created. And divorced sucks whether you loved them or not, especially if you had kids.
2006-11-07 07:48:00 · answer #3 · answered by sahmommyoffour 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. I guess if you want a meaningless, loveless life with another person it's ok but that's not what marriage should be like. It should be between 2 people who love, honor, respect & cherish each other. 2 people who have made a commitment to be life partners & share the good & bad times together. Partners who think about each other before any decision is made. Being in a loveless marriage sounds terrible to me. I would rather be alone than to be in a bad, lonely relationship. If you're happy living this way then that is up to you.
2006-11-07 07:45:09 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd rather be alone than with out love.
A loveless marriage is sad. very sad..... it's what I had at one point.
being able to solve problems and issues, raising kids-- love is what makes each individual in the relationship glow-- it makes the child rearing, the chores, easy and effortless.
what are your children growing up to learn about relationship??? I once heard the best thing a father can do for his children is love their mother. I would do a little research about love..... and then revisit the question....
Have you ever been in love? really??? because once you've experienced that then I would think you may view things differently too.
2006-11-07 07:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by who me? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on the PERSON. if from the start they agree to those things without any emotions then they can. a good marriage is defined by what you want from the marriage. but how could one live with a person he/she doesn't even like much more live with that person under the same roof? there has to be something felt but not necessarily romantic feelings...
2006-11-07 07:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by justine b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not describing marriage, you are describing being ROOMMATES with someone. It is possible to be tolerant and live under the same roof. But that is not marriage.
2006-11-07 08:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why have a marriage without love? Life is short. Try to get what you really want out of life. This is all we get. There are no "do-overs".
2006-11-07 09:07:09 · answer #8 · answered by Beth T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, especially in a capitalist society, people are livig together without love, dedicated 25 years of their life to a mortgage, they are bound together by convieniece rather than love
2006-11-07 07:40:41 · answer #9 · answered by Intellithug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after being thru what you mention if talk cannot solve it i guess that big word D.I.V.O.R.C.E come to the party it is better not to be with a partner than to put her or him through the constant hardship of being in the same company as each other or to laid in bed beside someone you care about but they do not care for you no find someone else
2006-11-07 08:15:58 · answer #10 · answered by wombat4412 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋