I've been cheating by my wife?

Question

I recently just found out that my wife has been cheating on me. This is the second time in one year, the first time when I caught her I forgive her everthing and re-build my trust. Then suddently I found out again that she cheat on me. I really don't know what to do. I really want to find the out. can somebody out there please help me i am alone and don't know where to talk to please i really need the answer as soon as possible. These days my life is not thing different from living in hell

Answer 1

Divorce her! Once a cheater, always a cheater!

Answer 2

I honestly went through the exact same thing. I forgave her 3 times I know for sure she was cheating because I was the dumbest thing on the face of the Earth. It went on for 2 years until she actually left me saying my lack of trust was what made her leave. It was her parents who told me she was doing this and we are still good friends. I'm drifting here. If it has happened twice you know of, as awful as it sounds she has no respect for you or your relationship and you have to put an end to your life together or you will lose everything. It's really tough but you have no choice. No one should be treated as you are and if it's happened twice in a year then her concern of you leaving is of no importance.

I'd say the same thing to her if you were doing it so don't look at this as a good ole' boy thing where we stick together. I don't like anyone cheating.

Answer 3

First, from the first time she cheated on you, you should have left her. Second, if you forgive her, think why you did it, because you didn't want to loose her, or did you loved her too much. After you discover your reason, think back and remember if at any time she has forgiven you for something, and forgive you for the same reasons you did. For last my lonely friend, you are not ALONE. If she doesn't care about you, your feelings and your marriage, maybe it's time for you to stand up and decide what's best for YOU, because it seems to me, that she is only thinking in what's best for HER. Follow my advice, and you'll discover that there's more to life than bad people hurting your feelings. Go out there and find someone that LOVES YOU, RESPECTS YOU and of course CARES ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS. I hope you find the answer for your question.

Answer 4

In my opinion i would divorce her because she clearly has no RESPECT for you or your feelings or your marriage vows.
After what you went through the first time and then forgave her and had to rebuild your trust in her again and then she can destroy it like that she is clearly telling you that she has no respect for you.
I really feel sorry for you because it always seems that the guys get a bad rap for cheating but women never do.
I hope that you can find the courage to tell her to get her belongings and take the highway so that you can have time to heal from such an awful upset and start to move on with your life.
Good Luck and Take Care and if you ever need to talk please feel free to email me or instant message me at [e-mail]

Answer 5

i had an affair last year and myself and my husband split up, i moved out but three months ago we reconciled. we had been having marriage problems, we did not talk or let the other know how we were feeling. After we got back together i knew i had a fantastic man but we had to work to keep the marriage alive. I can say quite confidently that i will never cheat on him again after what we all went through the last time. i dont think your wifes heart is in the right place if she has turned away from you again. going to be very hard for you but i think it is time to let her go and try to move on. The best of luck.

Answer 6

1.It’s so sad, I'm so sorry to hear that. You know what’s the answer, divorce... Second time this year? It’s not going to stop! You forgave her the first time, first time in a marriage it’s already very bad! Get a lawyer, that’s the best you can do and go to a Psychologist, you must do this; it’s the best thing you can do for yourself. One thing you mustn’t do is to fall for her again; woman can break men, especially if they are as nice as you. If you have parents talk to them and if she has parents talk to them to, you can’t keep this for yourself, please remember this is not your fault; you are the one that needs to repair your heart and go on with your life. It’s really not a good idea to try again, she is not worth it. Get out of the house/ department your living in, start a new life... take this as a learning step for yourself, take this heartbreaking story and turn it into something new and good, Take care of yourself. Good Luck.

Answer 7

Everyone deserves a second chance.
The third chance is a stretch.
It is obvious that she is having trouble staying faithful. You've already lived the pain. No reason to keep going through this.
Throw the biitch out with the clothes on her back. Let the other guy support her for a while.

Answer 8

Here's the answer that came to me when I was cheated on and wanted to get out but wasn't sure how or why I lacked the strength to move on: "Cheat on me once, shame on YOU. Cheat on me twice, shame on ME." It hurt when I learned of his cheating the first time. The second hurt worse. Not because he did it twice, but because I allowed it to happen the 2nd time around. Reminding myself of this quote allowed me the strength to realize that I deserved more and that I was in control of my happiness, not them. You are a good guy wanting to keep the marriage together and you're even a better guy for putting trust back in her. It was her choice to cheat but it was your choice to stay. My advice to you is this: use this quote as a reminder that you deserve better and will therefore not allow yourself to go through this with her a third time and that you need to get out. Once you realize this as fact, you will walk away and know that you are the better person for having trusted her. It's her who should feel the pain...and believe me, one day she will. It's a weird thing (life) but it always comes around...one way or another she'll realize her wrongs. You just won't be there to know when it happens. My best to you...

Answer 9

Its hard for an out-sider to tell you what to do. But if its her second time I would suggest you get rid of her. She obviously cant be trusted. Once would be hard enough to forgive but could you ever really trust her again after the second time? To me it looks as if she has a problem with commitment. She doesnt seem to be suited to married life. If she was she wouldnt be playing up like she is.

Answer 10

You need professional help and counseling. I would start with a Pastor or counselor and then head over to the local lawyer. Divorce seems like the way for you to get out of hell.

Answer 11

If your wife has been cheating on you, and she has done it once already it don't seem like she cares for you or your feelings or your marriage.. Maybe first thing is to suggest to your wife that the two of you could seek a marriage couselor if that dont work I think it's time for a seperation.. Give her an ultimatum, It stops now or the marriage is over.. It just seems to me that if she loved you she wouldnt cheat on you...