I have actualy heard parents say they regret having their children. I don't have children but ...?

Question

Is there anyone out there with children who feel that way?

Answer 1

I wouldn't feel that way ... I'm 26 with no kids .... so I have spent my youth doing what I want ... if adn when I do have kids ... I think I'm prepared to concentrate on them and their mommy

Answer 2

I don't have children. Fact is, although I believe that children are a gift and a blessing, they are also an important responsibility. I do not think I would wish that much responsibility. Don't get me wrong, if I ever get to have children, I'll do my best to become a good parent. But because I do not have any, I am sort of wondering why would I want to bring a child into the kind of world that we have today. I hope this doesn't sound so pessimistic or negativistic. I am just being realistic. But never in any circumstance should any parent tell their kids that they regret having them. These kind of words stays in the mind of a child forever.

Answer 3

if they do they should never have had them or adopt them out to someone who will love them. i have a friend whose mother used to say this to her kids all the time even when they were little but also as adults. i was with this girl at a family get together and the some one was talking about abortion and this woman said yeah if it had been legalized back when i was younger i would have gotten rid of all my kids. of course her daughter, my friend was sitting right there. i can't even imagine how that felt much less growing up being told you weren't wanted....i asked my friend about it and she just shrugged it off like it was no big deal. no wonder her mother and her children had little contact and no relationship. its a selfish, awful thing to say and words can hurt as much if not more than hits.

Answer 4

Sometimes when parents are under pressure they say things they really don't mean. In today's world most adults are lesson-ed in the ways of displacement. I would say that it was worse 20-30 years ago because of ignorance. I know first hand that it is a terrible feeling to feel unloved and unwanted. One of my nephews best friends was telling me how his dad doesn't like him at all. I explained to him that he shouldn't dwell on the sad fact that his father most likely was an asshole. Unfortunately the world is full of them. The poor kid has drunks for step parents and he has had health problems.

Answer 5

I have an 11 yo and I wouldn't have changed a thing. I think that people who feel that way are pretty selfish and unsatisfied with their life and think that the children are the cause of this. They should look inside themselves for the answer rather then blame the kids.

Answer 6

Not at all, they are the best thing that happened to me, although most of the time they get on my nerves,, but I never regret having them, and I have a feeling that later on I will regret having only two.

Answer 7

well even though i am not a parent yet, but i definitely will not regret to hv children. some regret ,well, maybe they hv financial and family problems to deal with.. however, i am sure thats not the point as long as u love ur kids, u will definitely will not regret at all

Answer 8

I regret being born sometimes, because of the world we live in today. I want kids though, and wouldn't regret them being born, unless they were really hard to look after, and were so naughty they were more work than fun.

Answer 9

No way!

I had my son quite young, so sometimes I feel like "I wish I could go out tonight" - when I can't...

But it is just a different life, and an amazing one at that!

I'm pregnant with my second now - so no regrets!!

;-)

Answer 10

Those who say they regret them are just being selfish and not taking responsibility for their own actions. Maybe they should have thought a tad bit more before procreating...