My spouse told his ex (who cannot stand him) about a recent argument we had and all the details. His justification is b/c of their daughter (he could not get the child during our disagreement). I think this is totally wring, but he disagrees w/ me.
2006-11-06 23:08:56 · 12 answers · asked by me2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I meant to say that I this he is wrong (not wring!!)
2006-11-06 23:11:14 · update #1
You have made the greatest mistake of your life.
2006-11-06 23:13:34 · answer #1 · answered by Vas 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
1st thing ur spouse did wrong was let a disagreement between the two of u affect his time with his daughter.. thats the first thing he did wrong, shows that ur arguing is more important then her.. which sorry but that should neverrrrrrrr be the case.. and just so u know, im the mother of 3 and step mother of 2 so know where u fit in in this situation..
2nd, yeah it was none of her business knowing that the two of u arent getting along.. all it did was make her happy knowing that the two of you are fighting, but at the same time, she probably went back and not only told family and friends that u were fighting, but the fact that your fighting caused him not to spend time with his daughter, so not only portraying an unstable marriage, but portaying him as a crappy father in the process.. so she got her digs on both sides of the coin so to speak ur marriage and him as a father..
She should neverrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr see either of u sweat.. u should atleast seem like the happiest couple in the world even on ur worst of days.. AND NEVERRRRRRRRRRRRRR should an arguement between u and him cause him not to see his daughter..i mean if u both had say 3 kids or more between u would u send ur own kids away just because u were in an arguement?????? more then likely not..so why does she have to stay away??? time to get things in check and priorities straightened out, even if u both hardly speak a word to each other while his daughters there, she should never feel that she is put on the back burner for ANY reason..especially an arguement.. arguements come and go , they always find a way of working themselves out eventually.. children.. Forever..
2006-11-07 07:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wring right verbage---I'd wring his bloody neck for divulging information as to a disagreement you and he had---To wrong the wring you'll have to get that hubby of yours in check--
Confidentiality in a marital relationship should never be partnered with an X wife. Just because the 2 have a child together doesn't give that person the right to cry on his X's shoulder!!
I believe you and he are both wrong----Because you've not only involved a 3rd party--you've both used the children as a pawn in your disagreements---
Mend your fences before getting a 3rd party involved and especially if that 3rd party is your husbands X wife!
2006-11-07 07:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I can understand where you're coming from. My husband has a son from a previous relationship and even though they aren't exactly fond of each other I still wouldn't want him telling her all about a problem we're having. Anytime he tells me that they've had a discussion about anything that has to do with our life it bothers me. (Like the other day she asked him when he was dropping their son off if we were going to have more kids - we have two - and why would we because we'd never be able to buy a house, blah blah blah. It really bothered me, it's none of her business!) So, yes, I do agree with you, he was wrong to tell her all the details. If it affected him picking up his daughter then he did have a right to tell her why, but he did not need to go ino detail. And honestly he could have used a little tact here and told her something else entirely!
2006-11-07 07:25:21 · answer #4 · answered by jenieatworld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their ideas, values and mistakes are theirs and they have the only voice in their daughter's upbringing. Just agree with him because it is his daughter and your opinions are not valued by them. Keep out of their spats and you will be better off and happier in the long run.
2006-11-07 14:36:35 · answer #5 · answered by peppermint_paddy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's wrong you never confide in the ex about your current wife/husbands problems. he may have just been upset and reacted and feels guilty but of course he couldn't admit that to you. sit him down and explain why this made you so mad and ask him if he would have been upset if you had told your ex about it.
2006-11-07 11:36:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your spouse know that what happened between the two of you should be kept between the two of you. I agree that he may need to let our steams sometimes but he should respect you that you're now his wife.
2006-11-07 07:20:18 · answer #7 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right he was wrong, he should have never told his EX about your problems.
Tell him what happens in this house stays in this house! or he could end up with another EX!
Hope this helps.
2006-11-07 07:17:54 · answer #8 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should hit him over the head with a book, its none of her business.
2006-11-07 07:20:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong, but he was venting to get the child. The ex knows him better, so will just nod and laugh him off.
2006-11-07 07:17:16 · answer #10 · answered by brilliantyetconfused 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋