My husband is addicted to porn. I won't allow it in our house. I am a christian and don't believe in it. So he goes to the porn booth to veiw it. About ever 6 months or so he has sex with a hooker ( a different one each time). He doesn't tell me until 2 or 3 months after. We have a 9 month old daughter together. I love him, but have a hard time trusting him. Where do I start? Is it possible? I am dedicated to making our marriage work but how?
2006-11-06 22:57:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He has admitted he has a problem. he is seeking help. He won't take money to work just so he won't go to the booth.
2006-11-06 23:07:41 · update #1
HE COULD HAVE SEX ANY TIME HE WANTS AT HOME. I'm not taking any of the blame for this. As far as sex goes I am open for him to discuss what he would like from me.
2006-11-06 23:27:27 · update #2
This is really sad! I realize that you are a Christian so your first priority is to try to make your marriage work but, God doesn't expect you to stay in a relationship that could be devastating not only to you but to your child. First, if he's admitted he has a problem get him to counseling immediately!! You should probably get some type of counseling for yourself too. You've been through alot and I'm sure your self esteem has been compromised in all of this. After you have tried counseling & he continues to act this way, you have to save yourself & your child. You shouldn't allow this man to ruin 2 more lives.Think about your child & their future.
2006-11-06 23:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's looking at pron it's probably because somewhere down the line he wasn't getting something at home. Of course it was his choice to turn to porn but you were definitely a catalyst. He was big enough to admit he has a problem you should be big enough to maybe consider what you husband was lacking to make him turn to porn.
If you're a true christian then sex is seen as a naughty and only so you my very well have some hang ups about it. My wife is christian and did have some hang ups but with love and patience we worked through them. I was raised catholic but have renounced any religion because they are all non-sense and I'm a much better and loving person than most of the christians I know.
I think you christianity may be at the root of the problem. Your intelligent. Don't let a religion dictate the way you live your life but rather make those decisions yourself. Trust me you'll feel empowered like never before.
2006-11-06 23:19:12 · answer #2 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to your pastor and talk to him about this. You need a good Christian counselor. If your husband is not a Christian ( he certainly is not acting like one ) maybe you can get him to go to church and possibly get saved when the Spirit leads him. The bible says that the husband will be won over by the actions of the wife. You being a good wife etc.
Be very careful because he is very liable to bring you a present you dont want in the form of AIDS.
Have you talked to him and asked him why he feels he needs porn and hookers? Perhaps he is wanting to experiement in bed and you are not willing. The marriage bed is undefiled. As long as you do not bring others into your bed then you two can experiment. Be open to trying new things with him and maybe he will drop the fantasy life and the women. But make him go get tested and ask him if he really wants to kill the both of you for sex with strangers.Pray. I will be praying for you too.
2006-11-06 23:09:54 · answer #3 · answered by Mary N 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm in a similar thing with the porn issue NO hookers! but I believe that once they get into porn it can lead to anything. I'm a supportive wife & do everything sexually & mentally for my husband & see no matter what I do has nothing to do with him. If our husbands are into to garabge they have to realize there addiction and get help if they know how it makes us feel. I discovered that God will take care of me in process so I wish you the best of luck.
2006-11-06 23:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little con fussed. Are you saying your husband has sex with a professional whore every 6 months, and then tells you about 2-3 months after each time?!!!!
If so what point is there in re-building any trust in him?
If you could clarify that in additional details that would be great, but if I based my answer on your statement I would say your husband should have ''dried up on his mothers ***'' if you know what I mean, he ain't worth trusting.
2006-11-06 23:02:57 · answer #5 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well since it's a Hooker I'd leave completely because that is just NASTY and can give you all kinds of diseases.
If it was another woman and it happened once and he was really sorry and never happened again maybe I could forgive him. Since he's had sex with another woman more than once I'd be totally done with him.
Do you not know you are worth more than this?
2006-11-06 23:00:40 · answer #6 · answered by SheRa 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Open up your own savings account, save up some money. That way, if you need to move out and/or hire an attorney, you've got the peace of mind knowing that you CAN and that door of opportunity is open to you.
Try a therapist, on your own AND also with him.
2006-11-06 23:01:34 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have your child to think about, I wouldn't be able to accept him sleeping with other women, let alone a hooker.
There has to be strife in your home, why would you want to raise your child in such stress.
Get out before it gets worse.
Good Luck.
2006-11-06 23:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has to be willing to admit and fix his problem before the two of you can work out your marriage and honest and communication is what makes trust not lieing and being decitful.
2006-11-06 22:59:25 · answer #9 · answered by christina c 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you can install software NetDog Porn Filter
2006-11-07 12:58:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋