Cheating husbands do you feel guilty or regret cheating on your wife even though you never did anything to rebuild your marriage?Were purposefully horrible to your wife so that she will distant herself so you will have an excuse and threatened to move out if she did not accept your behavior knowing that she still loves you?Did you ever regret your behavior knowing now that the grass is not always greener?
2006-11-06 22:41:34 · 25 answers · asked by JUSEve 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
d b, I am not assuming that cheating is a one sided thing.I just wanted to hear the men's side of things.Sorry if I offended anyone
2006-11-10 00:56:09 · update #1
yes, yes, and yes. but that didn't repair the marriage so eventually you have to take your licks and move on.
2006-11-06 22:42:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. Additionally your question is biased. You are assuming that the cheating is all the mans fault, that the man caused termoil in the marriage so he would have an excuse to cheat.
What about women that do not live up to their responsibilities? During the dating phase the woman gives the man all the sex he wants. When they get married some women begin to ration the sex and then expect the man to do without and get it when they ( the woman) feels like it.
Then there are the women that suck the life out of the man. They do this by trashing the mans dreams or being unsupportive of the mans attempts to start a business or change careers. He trys to talk to his wife and all he gets is negetive energy from the one person that is supposed to work with him.
No, I do not feel guilty because after I attempted to work out these issues she did not want to nor did she attempt to change.
Thats why I not only cheated on her, I divorced her too.
2006-11-06 22:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by d b 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no person is born as a cheater in the different case. yet there are circumstances and different themes which makes one to cheat. Altogether that isn't any longer a issue one won't be able to conquer yet an greater ordinary thank you to come back out of the subject. the guy who choses that is consistently interior the minus zone. remember GOD helps people who're with the actuality and believes HIM
2016-12-17 05:45:12 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No guilt I have in my mind decided that if she wont put out I will find it elsewhere. Incidentally it wasnt my cheating that broke the marriage it was hers. I was never ever horrible to her in fact the cheating allowed me to continue staying with her and provide her a steady place to live. She was grateful I wasnt always wanting sex from her anymore and she could come to bed knowing I would stay on my side. No I do not feel guilty in fact I am relieved now that she is cheating I dont have to hide what I am doin as well.
2006-11-06 22:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have never cheated but about 3 years ago my hubby cheated and i found out.He actually was horrible to me during that time,so i knew what was up all the signs were there,I did move out..But we worked on the marriage while separated, and it worked for us..he says he does regret what happened and he treats me better that he ever has since he cheated..So for us it has worked for the best.our marriage has never been better in 17 years
2006-11-07 01:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by Shem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean before or after she screwed the other half of town? Do I regret trusting, loving, and being honest in our marriage for years? For BETTER or WORST, for RICHER OR POORER, UNTIL DEATH DO WE PART?
Yes I do have regrets, I regret ever meeting her & beliving all the lies. Other than that she was a nice woman.
P.S. I'm over it after 10 years, and I've found greener grass. I also feel sorry for her now, she has an STD instead of our SUV.
2006-11-06 23:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is a reaction or result. It dosen't have the ability to resolve a fight, take back an accusation or ease the pain of a couple's behaviour.
It dosen't give you any answers, that is why we have brains. If you practice using one, looking at problems and talking about them, then maybe marriage is one of your problems, not infidelity.
Food for thought. (this is not to be taken as an accusation but from someone who has lived on each side of the fence.
2006-11-06 22:57:46 · answer #7 · answered by peppermint_paddy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not even a little bit. Before we got married we discussed this and said that either one of us could date others if we wished to do that. It has worked out fine for us because we are honest about it. It is the lying, sneaking around, and deceiving that hurts a marriage.
As johnk says above, it helps sustain our marriage by adding a little excitement to it. Think of how excited you used to be before marriage when you got all dressed up to go out on a date on Friday night? You can do that again if you and your spouse agree. You just gotta make sure you keep the marriage the primary relationship.
2006-11-10 08:13:44 · answer #8 · answered by Ricky 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cheating is wrong no matter how you try to justify it. You married that person for better or worse. It is very disrespectful and degrading. I would never cheat on my wife. If there is a problem I sit down and talk to he about it and we work it out.
2006-11-06 23:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good question. No I don't feel gulity - the 'cheating' relationship I am in (with a married woman who, like me, has children) is the most important in my life, even though I appreciate it is 'wrong'. Yes I have been purposefully horrible - it is easier to justify cheating (at least jn your head) when your wife is treating you badly. I have no regrets - for me the grass is greener and I intend to make my current 'cheating' relationship the centre of my life when my children leave home.
2006-11-06 22:48:39 · answer #10 · answered by misbehave4me 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Sorry I know Im female but can answer this question, I have cheated a long time ago and I also 'saw' men that were married or who were already involved with someone else, and yeah I used to feel bad about it but it wasnt until I had it done to me tha I truely appreciated just how bad it is and how it can mess up someones life. I would never ever do it again now- really learned my lesson. But needed to do it in order to learn the lesson.
2006-11-06 22:48:03 · answer #11 · answered by Georgie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋