My husband use to tell everyone that I was the best thing that happened to him.Now he is telling me he is sick of me.When I called to ask him if he can pick me up from work because the weather was really bad I had woken him up.Thing is he was not asleep at home.I know he spent all afternoon with his other woman because he was still in his work uniform 7 hours after he finished work.She lives in town.If he was coming from home he would have taken 30-40 minutes.It took him10.Now he is smoke screening his adultery by being nasty because I did not put away laundry done before I went to work.This isn't the first time he's cheated but about the 5th and I am fed up with it but where do I go when I've got no family and friends just do not want to get involved?I am 24wks pregnant
2006-11-06 22:32:36 · 18 answers · asked by JUSEve 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How many more time does he have to cheat on you and bring hurt into your life before you realise he just isnt worth it anymore, If he didn't change the first time after cheating on you then he will never change, people say everyone deserves a second chance, well, he's had more than a second chance.If you let him walk all over you then, yes, he will keep on using you as his door mat, You say your friends won't get involved? maybe they won't but there has to be someone who can help you, even if its to just put you up for a couple of nights. If not, you say you work? then save up to put a deposit down on a flat of your own. But if I was you, I wouldn't stay with anyone who cheats on me, maybe the once but after that, then I would draw the line, he's had more than enough chances to put things right between you two. Maybe now is the time to look after yourself and your unborn child, that is what you priorty is now, if he wants to be foot loose and fancy free then kick him out of the house as he clearly doesn't deserve you hun. Good luck.
2006-11-06 22:49:59 · answer #1 · answered by ojay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry but why are you still with him he clearly doesn't love you. kick him out the house love send him to go live with his other woman and if he begs to come back don't let him. you can obviously do much better without him. he's slowly chipping away at your confidence and soon your gonna feel like you need him. well you really don't you don't need a man like that.
you should have left him after the 1st time he cheated on you but maybe the love was too strong. you have no excuse no he's done it 5 times. the fact that you are preganant is not a reason to stay with him. do u really wanna bring a baby up in that world where his father is always yelling at his mother and cheating on her. you have to think of the baby now and it will hurt you and the child a lot more when you husband actually leaves you for another woman.
your friends don't need to get invoveld but you do need people to talk to so don't shut out your friends and try and find some family.
Good luck with it all.
2006-11-09 22:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by A New Mrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a child, and he does it because you let him, and he will keep doing it as long as there aren't any negative consequences for him - why the hell shouldn't he? Get your strength together, get some advice on housing and support if you need to, and just get out of there, because he won't change, not after 5 times. He sounds as though he's covering his own disatisfaction with the marriage by making you feel bad, and that's never going to get you anywhere. People will help you out as best they can when they see that you are trying to help yourself.
2006-11-06 22:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by rainy-h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just like the idea of marriage. As for your situation, you really only have two choices. Stay, or leave. You can force your husband to pay support, and all of your maternity bills. You have a job, so you can find a place to live. Suggest you consult with an attorney if you're thinking divorce.
2006-11-06 22:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a good idea to ask him if he would go to marriage counseling and try to start over. You dont just throw a marriage out the window. It says death till you part in the vows...not until you get tired of it all.
I wouldnt sleep with him anymore until he was faithful long enough to be cleared on some HIV tests though.
If he wont straighten up then you have the right to tell him to leave. Does he know you are pregnant? Is this when he started cheating when he found out you were pregnant? If so be careful.
I feel for you. I know what it is like to be alone in the world. Will keep you in my prayers.
2006-11-06 22:48:19 · answer #5 · answered by Mary N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can either stick around and get cheated on some more or get out before you are raising a child to believe that adulerty is a good thing. Doesn't seem that tuff to me, but that's because I'm seeing it thru the eyes of logic and not emotions....
2006-11-06 22:37:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get out of there!!! You are storing up a lifetime of misery if you stay.
The retard will never change. Don't let yourself become a victim.
Think of your baby and make a life for you both.
2006-11-06 22:36:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you have a big problem. I'm not sure where you can go but I do know that you need to leave. You can continue to allow yourself to be treated this way. You deserve better and the only way your going to get it is to get out now.>
2006-11-06 22:46:41 · answer #8 · answered by Captain Comment 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's trying to make you feel bad to cover his guilt!!
Walk away from him if you can, and start a new life afresh!! I know you say you're expecting his child, but if he's cheating on you, he's cheating on your baby too - he doesnt deserve you!
2006-11-06 22:41:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guy is pure unfiltered scum. You should pack your bags and move back to your hometown because you'll not want to bring a kid up around a douchebag like that.
2006-11-06 22:42:33 · answer #10 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋