I'm the Director and sole heir to a multi-million dollar family business in Malaysia while my boyfriend is an employee of a multi-national company in Singapore with an income of US$ 35,000 a year. He asked me to marry him but I'd have to move to Singapore because he refused to come and live in Malaysia. I am allowed to go to Malaysia to take care of my business 7 days per month, yet I know that the company won't survive without constant supervision. I love him but I also do not want to disappoint my parents by leaving the family business. Do you think I should get married to this guy? What would you do if you are in this kind of situation?
2006-11-06 22:28:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's all up to you my dear. If love your man, you'll anything for him. If your bf really loves you, he will do anything to keep you happy. Love is a strange thing, you can't have everything you want in a package as we all are living in imperfect world. Sometimes, we need to lose some to get what we want. It's just like doing business, you some to gain certain profits. Talk to you bf about your feeling on this, if he understand your desire & dreams to be a fillial daugther & a good wife at the same time. I think he would support your decision if he really loves you & want you to be happy. After all, travelling from Singapore to Malaysia are not that difficult with the airline service right? But in the end, you're the one who must decide which is more important to you.
2006-11-06 23:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by CM C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If things don't work out with noir I'll take his place.
I keed
Ask yourself some questions: Why wont he come to Malaysia? How important is the family business to you? Can your parents hire an outside director? What will you do if you go to Singapore? How would leaving affect your relationship with the family?
I know what i would do but I'm not you.
Luck
2006-11-07 00:00:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, no, no....do NOT marry this man!!! Why do YOU have to give up your family business??? Why doesn't HE give up his job? This is crap that can be smelled for miles away. What else will he want you to give up in your life? Never compromise your life to fit someone else's....if it's right, the whole thing would fit right into place without you having to sacrifice your family. If I were in your situation I would tell him to take a hike.
2006-11-07 00:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any man that asks you to give up something like that must be crazy and very insecure. i would not do it. that business needs you. you stated it yourself. Second, you want to know if you are 'allowed'? you don't have to ask anyone for permission to do anything regarding your life. if you want to stay where you are and run the family multi-million dollar business, then do so. if you want to give that up and leave, the do it. regardless you are in control of your life and you don't have to ask anyone for permission or be 'allowed' to do anything that you don't want to do. take control of your life and live it to the fullest.
2006-11-07 01:02:17 · answer #4 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not marry this man. He is alredy controlling you. You are "allowed" to go take care of your business? Give me a break! This isn't 1952! Find someone who appreciates you for the businesswoman thta you are. Dump his butt!
2006-11-06 22:52:25 · answer #5 · answered by SheRa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends if you really love him or not, love is something which come from soul and not from mind, money comes from mind, money will never give you satisfaction, love will complete you. even if you marry some-1 else will you be able to complete him, or do u think gap created by his departure can be filled by some-1 else ? if yes then don't move to Singapore, if he is the one, then leave everything and complete yourself by being his. that will complete you
2006-11-06 22:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by shashwat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should marry me instead. I don't work, so I can be your house husband. I don't mind if you are rich and wealthy. In fact, I think it's better for a woman to be strong. I will help you, in fact, by becoming your assistant and slave. Also, I can cook and I give great massages!
2006-11-06 22:31:44 · answer #7 · answered by noir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a tough one there. I hate to say it but sometimes love just isnt enough you need to follow your heart and put your own needs first because if you don't nobody else is going to. Too bad he refuses to come to you. If he loved you enough he would.
2006-11-06 22:34:22 · answer #8 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget your bf, and stay with the family business, you will find someone who deserves you. This fella is not worthy of you, and in time you would come to regret your decision, and it would be too late to change your mind
2006-11-06 22:40:52 · answer #9 · answered by txcatwoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to go to singapore and show him the complete situation. once he agrees then do both.
2006-11-06 22:38:21 · answer #10 · answered by nandru_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋