I'm talking about serious relationships. That ended for one reason or another, but that you've realised where really important to you, not just at the time but years later. You don't necessarily regret splitting, but have realised that that person is your soulmate.
You hear all those stories about people in their 80s who lost touch during the war, but then have recently found one another again, & are now living happily ever after.
Don't criticise me for believing in this please; please just share experiences (happy or sad). Thanks, x
2006-11-06 22:23:44 · 18 answers · asked by viv friend 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's going to be pretty long winded, but hear me out...
I was madly in love with a boy from school in the year above me, when I was 14. He was a bit of a lad, and we both fancied each other something rotten! The problem was that his best mate was a close friend of mine (thats how we met) and his best mate fancied me. He told him that if he did anything with me, they would no longer be friends... Obviously at that age friends are more important than girls, so we went about a very secret relationship (we didn't have sex, but did everything else!) Three years down the line, I was 17 and working in a pub, still in a secret relationship, when an estate agent came in and swept me off my feet. I left Adam behind, because he couldn't commit to me, or give me the love I wanted at the time. We lost touch.
At 19 I fell pregnant, with eastate agent guy's baby, had my daughter and got shafted by him- he left me when my daughter was a year and a half. But when i was 21 (just before we broke up) estate agent guy organised a surprise 21st party for me - got in touch with my old crew- the boys and they all came. Me and Adam met up again, and when estate agent guy left me, we started a proper relationship... We haven't looked back since!
I am now 24, he is 26 (on Sunday), he is a brilliant Step Father to my daughter, and gives me all I could ever wish for!
Cinderfuckingrella or what!!! So carry on believing, coz this stuff is true, I am living proof of that!!
2006-11-06 22:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by Coley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went out with a girl when I was 15 (she was 14) for a couple of months. I really felt something for her but it came to an end over something trivial.
3 years later, I met her when out with friends and escorted her home. What i felt was like love at first sight, as I hadn't seen her in so long. I arranged a date for the following day and took her number but she gave me the runaround for about a week. I persevered and we started going out again. We had some great times and were head-over-heels in love.
We still are, that was almost 9 years ago now and we've been living together for 8 years. This year that girl became my wife and we bought a new house as we now have a 5 week old daughter and we're happier than ever.
I consider myself very lucky. I'm living proof of love at first sight and that dreams really can come true.
2006-11-07 06:32:35 · answer #2 · answered by le_coupe 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe there is ever just "the 1" we are not designed like that.
There is the 1 for the moment and the time but there are plenty more
round the corner.
Pining for a lost love is such a waste of energy and very indulgent.
It was grest when it was happening but life has to move on.
The fantasy never lives up to the reality if you ever meet again years later.
2006-11-07 06:28:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tinks: Yep; I had the "gold" in my hand and threw it all away. She was the one for me. I was too self-important to realize what I had at the time. I cheated on her with 6 other girls at different times and she didn't know it. One day I was getting ready to go into the Army for Viet Nam and came "clean" with her. I broke her heart and she ran away from me before I entered the U.S. !! Later; when the war was over, I tried to find her but she had another guy in her life. I gave up on her and went and found another girl. About two years went by, and my mother died. At the funeral was my ex and we talked together afterwards. We fell in love all over again ... or you might say that I realize what I had, let go and found again. In war, even with your "pack" of guys with you - you are lonely. I should of quit being a womanizer when we first went out.
2006-11-07 06:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a lifetime of failed relationships, including a 21 year marriage, I finally found my soulmate three years ago. Till I met him, I didn't believe in soulmates.
My feeling is that if we had met as younger people we might well have wasted our time.
I for one had to grow up before being able to have the magic that we share now.
2006-11-07 06:30:27 · answer #5 · answered by honey lugs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I met someone a while ago but had to let them go because im already in a relationship and dont have the heart or cant deal with the hassle of ending it.
There is never any point of wondering 'what if' though. The grass may not have been greener on the other side... then again, it might have been...
2006-11-07 06:27:19 · answer #6 · answered by Chazza xx Baby born 7/11/09 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah i know exactley what you mean hun... i wish i could turn the clock back and be back with him and do things diffrentley.. and my god i would.. i was stupid and didnt realise what i had till it had gone.. and i regret it so much..
i met rob.. and he was just my soul mate.. he would have done anything for me.. and treated me fantastic.. and i messed it up.. and if i could have 1 wish it would be to spent a day with rob again.. even if it was just a few hours.. then i could just see him again..i would say i was sorry.. and try and talk to him.. tell him what a idiot i was and just try and win his heart back..i know in my heart that it will never happen but it doesnt take away my memorys of him.. that i will always have, there mine for keeps.
i know i wil never meet any1 like that again so i will always know im settleing for 2nd best ...im with a new guy now but its very early days but its just not the same.. and i doubt will see the year out .. we live and learn thow eh chick.. some say its better to have loved and lost to have never loved atall...who knows x x x
2006-11-07 17:28:40 · answer #7 · answered by cathrin j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is such a thing as the 1" as I found out 48 years ago . We are still together and know we made the right decision
2006-11-07 07:08:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi still got my one after years it was nearly over a few years ago but we stuck at it and could not be happier now,i really hope it was not what you feel to be the one that you have let go because when it happens it is you will know..
2006-11-07 06:29:03 · answer #9 · answered by emmamo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. Stupidest thing that I ever did!! I was not sensible and thinking about the future at the time. I had just enlisted in the military. He's AROUND but he was hurt so badly that he won't consider getting back with me now. I don't want anyone else so I'm alone.
2006-11-07 06:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋