Should I stay friends with a guy that chose to be gay?

Question

His name is Raymond and I am David-in bible college he got caught doing it with another guy that advanced on him-like happens but usually these days we blame Jesus and the nursery school rather than the person that choses to be a homosexual/lesbian.

well anyways we had been friends-and he was alowed to stay till semesters end -the other guy-had to leave. Well I still hung out with Raymond and others started saying I was chosing to live as a sinner too like raymond had done cause I was hangin out with him, and he would admit doing it was against Jesus.
anyways we stayed friends and wrote after he left school-I visited him and his family once a state away-they were very nice-well he would send me letters and try to tell me being gay was ok-i would stay his friend but let him know no way-and sent him an article by david wilkerson and then he prayed-Jesus im sorry for my sins come into my heart and save me, be my friend, amen. Rev. 3verses19&20 -he is changed joy!
Stay friend!

Answer 1

The Bible tells you exactly what you should do and I am surprised that you would even ask such a thing!.

John 15:12

12My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.


Luke 10:25-37

The Parable of the Good Samaritan
25On one occasion an expert in the law stood up to test Jesus. "Teacher," he asked, "what must I do to inherit eternal life?"
26"What is written in the Law?" he replied. "How do you read it?"

27He answered: " 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind'[a]; and, 'Love your neighbor as yourself.'[b]"

28"You have answered correctly," Jesus replied. "Do this and you will live."

29But he wanted to justify himself, so he asked Jesus, "And who is my neighbor?"

30In reply Jesus said: "A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, when he fell into the hands of robbers. They stripped him of his clothes, beat him and went away, leaving him half dead. 31A priest happened to be going down the same road, and when he saw the man, he passed by on the other side. 32So too, a Levite, when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. 33But a Samaritan, as he traveled, came where the man was; and when he saw him, he took pity on him. 34He went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. Then he put the man on his own donkey, took him to an inn and took care of him. 35The next day he took out two silver coins[c] and gave them to the innkeeper. 'Look after him,' he said, 'and when I return, I will reimburse you for any extra expense you may have.'

36"Which of these three do you think was a neighbor to the man who fell into the hands of robbers?"

37The expert in the law replied, "The one who had mercy on him."
Jesus told him, "Go and do likewise."

John 8:1-11

1But Jesus went to the Mount of Olives. 2At dawn he appeared again in the temple courts, where all the people gathered around him, and he sat down to teach them. 3The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group 4and said to Jesus, "Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. 5In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?" 6They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him.

But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. 7When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, "If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her." 8Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground.

9At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. 10Jesus straightened up and asked her, "Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?"

11"No one, sir," she said.
"Then neither do I condemn you," Jesus declared. "Go now and leave your life of sin."

Romans 2

God's Righteous Judgment
1You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge the other, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things. 2Now we know that God's judgment against those who do such things is based on truth. 3So when you, a mere man, pass judgment on them and yet do the same things, do you think you will escape God's judgment? 4Or do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, tolerance and patience, not realizing that God's kindness leads you toward repentance?
5But because of your stubbornness and your unrepentant heart, you are storing up wrath against yourself for the day of God's wrath, when his righteous judgment will be revealed. 6God "will give to each person according to what he has done."[a] 7To those who by persistence in doing good seek glory, honor and immortality, he will give eternal life. 8But for those who are self-seeking and who reject the truth and follow evil, there will be wrath and anger. 9There will be trouble and distress for every human being who does evil: first for the Jew, then for the Gentile; 10but glory, honor and peace for everyone who does good: first for the Jew, then for the Gentile. 11For God does not show favoritism.

12All who sin apart from the law will also perish apart from the law, and all who sin under the law will be judged by the law. 13For it is not those who hear the law who are righteous in God's sight, but it is those who obey the law who will be declared righteous. 14(Indeed, when Gentiles, who do not have the law, do by nature things required by the law, they are a law for themselves, even though they do not have the law, 15since they show that the requirements of the law are written on their hearts, their consciences also bearing witness, and their thoughts now accusing, now even defending them.) 16This will take place on the day when God will judge men's secrets through Jesus Christ, as my gospel declares.

Answer 2

Your friend did not choose to be gay. He just is. I was homophobic when I was still in school and then I had a huge reality check when I found out that my 2 bestfriends hooked up. What was I supposed to do turn my back on them. Absolutely not. Instead I took a long hard look at why I was homophobic and realized that it was because I was trying to suppress my inner feelings toward women. I am now ok with gay men and women and understand that I too have feelings for other women and I'm ok with that too. As far as Jesus is concerned, He doesn't make mistakes and he loves all his children. Remember that it is not your place to judge. You should definutely remain friends with this guy. He hasn't done anything terrible to you has he? He's still the same person he was when you became friends and his sexuality should have no bearing on how you feel about him. What if he was your brother? Would you disown him for his lifestyle? If so, I think you need to take a long hard look at yourself and ask why it affects you.

Answer 3

Reported

Answer 4

I would like to write what a really feel in regards to this question, however I will maintain my outrage and argue this question from an scientific point of view. As far as most scientists are aware, homosexuality is not a choice, but rather a born trait determined by genetical information.Therefore, your stance towards your friend could be likened to disliking your friend for having blue eyes. When you look it from this point of view it seems that your attitude is somewhat hypocritical. I thought it was wrong to judge others when you have sin yourself, or am I misguided.

Answer 5

so wot if he is gay or woteva, if he chooses 2 b like what he is, its nowt 2 do wiv u, his personality and everything is the same 2 u, and he ll still be da person u knew, aprt from he will be gay
so wot, besides, hes ur mate, so uy abndon him when he probably needs u rite now, like wot if ppl start 2 say stuff 2 him, then wot ru goin 2 do, turn ur back on him, like Saddam Hussien turned his back on Iraq when at war
and oh yezah, i am a Muslim woman saying this

Answer 6

People are who they are, Gay people are Jesus people also, and remember he loves everyone!
Don't judge your friend by his private life, judge him by the way he treats you, if is he a great friend then why dismiss his friendship because of his preferences, would you stop being his friend if he liked a different car type than you?

Answer 7

Yes.
Im gay and if one of my friends decided not to be friends with me for that simple reason i dont think they would even be worth trying to keep. If you are a half decent friend then despite you religon you will definatly stay friends with him. What helps is to remember that one's sexuality does not in any way shape or form define one's self.
Stick with him.

Answer 8

See, this is the problem with close-minded Christians. If Jesus were alive today, he'd be hanging out with homosexuals, hookers, methheads and gang bangers, not the self-righteous, close-minded idiots who claim to follow him.

Answer 9

Noone chooses to be homosexual (as a matter of fact it even says this in the book of Deuterotomy in the Bible: it says that one becomes gay by turning his face from God). Understand this though, as a Christian you are suppose to be as "Christ-Like" as you can, and Christ would NEVER turn his back on anyone.

Answer 10

I think you should . dont make him feel left out becaus e this might get him very depressed. If you cant handle it, pass me his contacts and i will be his frend......THe pope says that we should not discriminate gay people and you refusing to be his friend means that you are indirectly discriminating him.

Answer 11

Why do you lie? Do you not know that Bearing False Witness is against your religious beliefs?