I need major help wth my life.this question has to do with pain,love,car accidents,being arrested.please open?

Question

I'm 19 I live with my parents.on there insurance,got inan accident 2 days in a row,I missed a court date frome the last car reck & now have a warrant for my arrest.I started to date my ex again and he's 40 with 4 kids.a 2year old a 4year old a 6year old & a 8year old.my parents dont like him as you can emagine.I was doing this in secret,so I didnt hurt my parents.but tonight I wasnt paying attention & ran a red light.coming home from seeing him & hit some one really bad on portland ave.now I have to go tomorrow and tell my parents what happend & tell them about HIM,I'm almost positive they are going to kick me out.the 1 time we dated it was for 3 weeks the 2 time {now} 2 weeks.I love him & now he is talking about marriage.the question is.how can I break,me dating him & getting in a car accident,gently,tomorrow without making them somad andhurtand upset with me that it ruins completly the relationship with them.I dont want them to stop talking to me.IknowI deserve everything,pls hlp me.

Okay first of all, I never slept with the guy, I'm still a virgin, infact we havent even kissed, the only thing we have done is hugged, he holds me,.... hard to beleive for some one who you I'm sure think is an evil whore, but it is true, thats why it is a little easier to see wether I love him or not. and second of all Ive known him all of my life. and FYI I work in a daycare, I have 7 brothers & sisters & 9 neices & nephews. I know Ive been very selfish, in thinking just how the accident has effected me. but when it comes to my family,.... I know what my parents expect of me and I dont want to disapoint them so I'm afraid to tell them, not about the accident but about Him,

Answer 1

Now that you see what being deceitful can cost you you need to be honest. You're 19. Why would you want to marry a 40 year old man with four children anyway? You will regret it and I know it. It seems he's looking for a live in babysitter not a wife. Don't be mislead. A 40 year old man is experienced and can manipulate you into believing whatever he wants you to. Your parents will be the only ones that you can count on so you shouldn't keep making bad choices and alienating them. You tell them about the accident, the 40 year old with the four kids, and then you leave that situation alone and either drive responsibly or not at all. You could hurt or kill someone or yourself.

Answer 2

I know things seem really grim right now, but everything will
work out in time. I am not an expert, but based on my
experience this is what I would do. First of all you might
as well tell your parents that you were in a car accident,
because they will find out anyways and they might be less
upset if you tell them first. Unless he was in the accident
with you, wait to tell them about the boyfriend until things
settle down. You need to straighten out your own life
first, your relationship is secondary at the moment.
Second, you need to tell them that you missed a court
date and maybe they will know how to fix that. Maybe
they will want to get a lawyer for you. Then I would call
the court and ask them what you should do. Maybe if
you explain why you missed the court date they will
give you another one. If they do give you another court
date, then you had better show up! Court dates are not
voulentary. You also need to address the issue of why
you are getting in so many accidents? Why are you
not paying attention? A lot of people get in accidents
because they are doing things in the car that do not have
anything to do with driving. It is dangerous to use cell
phones, talk to passengers in the car, put on makeup,
or eat while driving a car. It is also dangerous and illegal
to drive while intoxicated. A defensive driving course
might help you be a better driver.

Technically, you are an adult and your parents are not
legally responsible for you, but they are responsible for
what happens with thier insurance. At this point you need
to talk to them as a less experienced adult towards two
more experienced adults and ask them for thier help.
Try to be calm and listen to what they say and they
might be able to help you. You need to take responsiblity
for your actions and learn from them.

One last thing.. making mistakes is a part of growing up.
I made a lot of mistakes growing up and managed to
survive the proccess. Good luck :)

Answer 3

If you are adult enough to sleep with a 40 year old man, then you're adult enough to sit down with your parents and tell them what you've done. I have to agree with the others that you are being very selfish in disrespecting your parents this way. They pay for your insurance AND the roof over your head and this is how you treat them?????????? Don't you think they deserve better than what you've shown them? If you love this guy so much, move out of your parents house...then they really have no say in what you do. But while you're in their house, you have to follow their rules, no matter how old you are. There's an old saying and I've told my stepkids this many times "he who pays the bills makes the rules". You have two choices here: make amends with your parents and follow their rules or leave their house and make your own rules...but leaving their house means you are on your own paying your own way in life...and that includes car insurance...but good luck getting insurance on your own with your track record. Now, sit down and talk to your parents like an adult and receive whatever consequences are coming your way due to your own actions.

Answer 4

Well you got all sorts of answers here haven't you? Some have been quite blunt but I think this is what you need to hear!!!

You are 19 years old and you really need to start behaving like an adult. You need to accept responsibility for your actions and take the consequences on the chin I'm afraid.

You do seem very mixed up and confused and I think you already know that you have fcuked things up. Its time to take the first steps in to adulthood and admit this to your parents and you need to admit you need help. Your parents are going to be p*ssed with you and you need to accept this and deal with it.

Why do you behave in this manner though? And as for dating a 40 year old bloke and thinking you are in love!!! I'm not surprised your parents aren't happy with this. Ask yourself why this man isn't with women of his own age? It makes me think there's something up with him. If I found out my daughter was seeing a man 20 years her elder I would be round his house giving him a piece of my mind.

Wake up, grow up and sort it darling before you end up at the point of no return.

Good luck ;-)

Answer 5

If there is any justice in this world you will get a prison term and have your driving license revoked. You are not only stupid and selfish but a menace on the road. Your attitude shows no interest in the fate of the person you injured only in how it will affect you.

Answer 6

OHH LORDY. I would tell my parents the one I think they wouldnt get so mad about. Mom...Dad I need to talk to you....Please hear me out....Let them know you are messing up about all the car accidents and you will take full responsibility Please don't be mad. THEY WILL NEVER STOP TALKING TO EVEN IF YOU WANT THEM TOO I WILL TELL YOU THIS NOW. All comes to the worse throw it all out now then them getting mad at you twice. You need to tell them you need help. Maybe start it off with that. I have been screwing up. I HOPE THIS HELPS. I had an abusive Mother. Let them know you arent do this to resent them. Good luck let me know how it goes. P.s. If moving out is an option take it. I did when I was 19 when my Mom found out I skipped college. But you sure dont have the parents I did. I said GOODBYE.

Answer 7

first of all you need to be an adult and talk to your parents about your accidents. As for this 40 year old man, is he married? How can you love him with only being with him for 3 weeks then for 2weeks? I think you are confused about what love is. Please find someone closer to your age. good luck

Answer 8

LMAO i THINK THAT FIRST GUY HAS A REALLY WILD Imagination!As for you sweetie hat would you know about being in love when you have dated him such a short time?I think your parents need to give you a good old fashion spanking!!

Answer 9

You need some serious Couch time.
Either you have mental problems or this question is just non sense.
No one could be this stupid or heartless unless something is wrong with them .
Your parents are the least of your problems .

Answer 10

I HOPE YOU GET PRISON TIME, AND THAT THE LESBAIN SEX FORCED ON YOU WILL CHANGE YOU FROM THE SELFISH SELF CENTRED INDIVIDUAL INTO SOMEONE WHO WILL FEAR JUSTICE FOR LIFE..I HOPE THE BUTCH THAT FISTS YOU GOES DEEP...God Bless You