I always wanted a marriage where love and thoughtfulness went hand in hand . Well I have married a man that I did EVERYTHING for, and I truly mean everything. I could write a book! I sacrificed way too much, and I didn't realize right away that this man just gave nothing back. I guess I was just too busy to notice it wasn't coming back to me, but eventually I started to feel a void. So I have stopped doing anything for him. And even though I've told him what the problem is (many times), he continues to be his usual selfish self. This relationship seems more like Im living with a roommate, and I don't know how this marriage is going to end up, but I do know that I can't live with someone who only thinks of himself.
If he is not able to give me what I need, should I stay in this marriage for the sake of our child?
2006-11-06 20:59:11 · 7 answers · asked by Das 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What do you want your children to learn from your marriage. Children learn from us, is it OK to be selfish and not give to the marriage? Would you want your children to marry the same type of person their father is. What are you teaching them about self respect. Think about what is good for them before yourself then get them counseling. You deserve to be happy but only you can make yourself happy. Do not waste your life. You will regret it and regret is a horrible thing to feel.
2006-11-06 21:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by dettie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in that same situation. I was married to him for 5 years. The first couple of years he put on a show for his family since itw as the tradition to do a lot at the beginning. But once they weren't looking, his true sides came out. He has gotten so far as to breaking my bones. We have two young children. We are separated and I am filing for a divorce.
2006-11-07 05:14:58 · answer #2 · answered by Ding Dong 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What parents often fail to realize is that its not a bad thing to put yourself or your needs in front of theirs in this type of situation. This is true for one simple reason, if it makes you happier on down the road, then you will be able to be there more for those children as they need you. Your happiness in the long run will help to make them happy as well. You need to do what is going to make you the best emotionally and mentally in the long run, you owe that to your children.
-NmD!
2006-11-07 05:06:31 · answer #3 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never stay for the kids...............you don't want you kids growing up in an environment where they think that's the norm...............they need too see love,warmth, happiness as an example, not selfishness.
My ex was like that too...........everything was fine while I was doing it all, but when I gave up, the marriage fell apart.
2006-11-07 05:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of the men are cads after marriage.... i m not generalizing... but... the guys do tend to slack off.... try talking to him... if that doesn't work stop serving to his demands.
2006-11-07 05:46:25 · answer #5 · answered by silverfox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. move on... tell him how do you feel, if he loves you more than love himself, then he will change for you, if not, then you should leave him. why would you stay with him for your child, why can't he change himself for his child sake?
2006-11-07 05:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by Tomorrowalwaysbetter! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not a good situation for both you & he children
he is not an example
2006-11-07 05:29:50 · answer #7 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋