peroid... help!!! PLEASE!!!?

Question

okay so I am on my 1sh period and I can't sleep because I have been up for hours crying because the cramps are so bad, and it makes me feel so dirty, the cramps are so bad I threw up and got really dizzy and felt like I was gonna pass out, and this was with the Midol and the heating pad

how long dose a peroid usually last and are everyones as bad as mine or am I just 'special'

god I hope it isn't like this every time

you see its my 1st time and im 16 but late bloomers are common in my family my grandma was 16 and my mom was 15, you think this has anything to do with how it seems to be unuasally painful

I also have to go to school tomorrow and alot of my teachers don't let girls out of class when they 'need to go' and I'm afraid I'm gonna leak through because I don't think I'm ready for tampons yet

dose anyone have any advice for me

PLEASE HELP

Answer 1

First of all – congratulations!

When you're feeling better make a point to celebrate your first period as it is something important in a woman's life, not to mention a good excuse to talk your parents into giving you gifts or treats.

I know you are having a bad time right now but I promise you periods are good things, you just need to learn how to deal with them as you don't need to suffer menstrual cramps and there is also nothing at all dirty about periods.
It just feels that way because you are used to hearing people saying it is dirty or things such as television adverts that imply menstruation is dirty. Periods are only as good or as bad as you make them, if you think they are dirty or otherwise negative they will be.
If however you have a positive attitude and you learn all about them then you will feel better about them as well as know how to best deal with them – such as by learning how to prevent period pains all together and learning about better menstrual options like padded panties and menstrual cups.

Each month the lining of the uterus builds up in preparation for a possible pregnancy. If a pregnancy occurs, the fertilized egg attaches itself to the lining to be nourished as it develops into a baby. If the egg is not fertilized, the lining is not needed. It breaks down and hormones called prostaglandins are released. These trigger the muscles of the uterus to contract and squeeze the lining out.
Often larger pieces of the lining are mistaken for blood clots, as menstrual blood has few platelets than normal blood it doesn't actually clot enough to make clots to the size you see when menstruating - these being forced through the cervix can cause added pain.
The muscles are the same ones that push a baby out during childbirth, so they are very strong. Some women may have higher levels of prostaglandin's and this is thought to be what causes painful muscle spasms in some women and is why often if your mother suffers from painful periods you may also have this problem.

Your first periods can be rough as your body is not working together as it would normally when you are an adult, your body is rather like a factory where all the machines have only just been turned on and some of the machines are not quite up to speed.
Normally your menstrual cycle will last for around 28 days, sometimes longer and sometimes shorter, this is the period between the first true day of bleeding on your period to the next true day of bleeding on your next period and your periods will last on average for 7 days.
Don't expect this pattern to happen straight away, you may not ever have this exact pattern, but you may want to note these days down in a calendar so you have a better idea when to expect your period next month.

This might make you more prone to cramps, PMS and irregular periods, don't expect this to calm down until you are fully developed physically and sexually, but know that you certainly don't have to suffer like this.
If you are this bad it might be worth going to the emergency room or getting an emergency appointment with your doctor, that way they can make sure there are no problems and give you something to ease the pain.
This is not necessary but if you are this bad heavy medication might be best for now until you can prevent menstrual cramps and illness like this during your next period.
Be careful however as many GP's avoid doing work by putting your on hormonal birth control, this does not solve the problem it simply suppresses your menstrual cycles so the problem is hidden, possibly coming back when you come off hormonal birth control. Also with the additional problem that at your age you need to be able to learn what is normal for your own menstrual cycle to better care for your health.

Your teachers have to let you go, it is a breach of human rights for them not to so don't be scared of getting up and leaving if they try to stop you, you might want to let your mother know this is happening in your school to avoid you getting into trouble for walking out in class or so she can have a word with the school if you are really worried about this.

If you are worried about leaking then make sure you are protected, if using external options like pads use the most absorbent, if using internal options then go for menstrual cups as these can be worn for up to 12 hours without leaking or health risks like those you are at risk from if you were to use tampons.
You may also want to use layering, there are a lot of women who do not use any menstrual options, no tampons, no pads, no cups, no sponges, etc. they will either bleed onto their clothing, layer their clothing to catch the blood, or even learn how to recognise when they are going to bleed so they can empty their blood into the toilet – these are called free-flow methods – you can use these sorts of ideas to help you in school, wearing dark colours and layering of your clothing will help prevent you from leaking through.

As for your cramps, you can actually prevent cramps all together, there are also far better ways to deal with cramps than taking painkillers – my personal top-tips are raspberry leaf tea and using clarity of sage on your stomach. Here are some cramp prevention and cure ideas;

•Do not use painkillers, these actually increase period pain over time as your body build immunity and gets used to the painkillers being within your system, not only that but they simply numb the pain they do not actually do anything about the cause of the pain – pain is your bodies way of telling you that something is wrong, don't ignore it. Coming off painkillers if this is what you normally use can be hard because the next few periods after stopping using painkillers can seem more painful, but if you use other methods to prevent or cure menstrual cramps it does get better.

•Take herbal teas, many herbal teas are ideal for menstrual pains as well as other menstrual or cycle related problems including curing PMS, reducing flow, inducing your periods and regulating your menstrual cycle. Herbs to try are as follows; Lemon balm, Black Haw, Blessed thistle, Camomile, Wild marjoram, Red raspberry, Wild strawberry, Valerian, Yarrow, Raspberry leaf, Blue cohosh, Dong quai – Check with a health store to make sure they are right for you, some stores will also sell women's blends that would help as well.

•Don't use tampons, as well as being very bad for vaginal health many tampons are also made in such a way that they expand lengthways meaning that they can expand straight into your cervix, which is already delicate due to menstruation, and increase cramping.

•Avoid salty foods and alcohol, these can increase bloating by retaining water, and so make you feel generally sluggish as well as making cramping worse.

•Drink lots of water, this can aid in avoiding bloating. This will also help with headaches or migraines brought on by menstruation. Also adding lemon juice, a natural diuretic can decrease bloating.

•Eat your greens, and a healthy diet can make you feel a lot better at the best of times, but during menstruation it can be a good pick up and help avoid that sluggish feeling.

•Avoid foods like dairy and caffeine, generally these can cause problems for people, during menstruation this can be particularly true, many find these increase period pains. Also avoid soy products; these are notorious for causing menstrual cramps.

•Take up yoga, this is a very good exercise tip because as well as being gentle exercise it also has stretching that can help even further and breathing exercises that can help relax you and so further aid in relieving menstrual cramps.

•Take a bath, a nice warm bath can help relax you and the heat can ease period pains as well, avoid things that can harm your vagina like bubble bath, however some nice natural salts or essential oils can make a nice relaxing bath.

• Breathing exercises, some people find this a little strange, that breathing is something we do naturally anyway, however we often get out of practice and taking the time to understand how your body moves as you breath and mental exercise can help calm you down.

•Essential oils can work wonders; a little lavender oil in a burner can make a lot of difference to your mental state and calm you down. If not lavender oil then there are many other oils that can be used, a lot of stores also carry relaxation blends. Better still small pots of oil and flower blends, which can be applied to your temples, can provide a discrete but effective means of relaxation. Clary Sage is actually fantastic to massage into your stomach to relieve menstrual cramps.

•Regular cycles, although in your teens this is not going to be easy for you as your body is still maturing sexually and physically your cycles are unlikely to be very regular – however there are things you can do to help, some of the above mentioned herbs can help, but you might also want to try taking Evening Primrose Oil that will help regulate your cycles and so help with menstrual problems.

•Sex, or in your case masturbation given as you are underage, during orgasm it is believed that a hormone which causes uterine contractions is released calls Oxytocin, which can help to push out menstrual material. The relaxation and improved circulation to the pelvic area after sex can also ease period pain. Although masturbation during menstruation can be messy there is no reason to avoid it, using a towel over your bed, having sex in the shower, or using softcups or soft tampons are all options for mess free during your period.

•Heat or cold – most people say heat packs are good, you can get all sorts of really good reusable heat pads with lavender in that help a lot, but for some people cold packs work a whole lot better when applied to their stomach, so try them both and see which one helps you best.

•Acupressure/acupuncture can help a lot, although it might be too expensive for you to go to a therapist for this you may want to get yourself a basic book on acupressure/acupuncture to teach yourself some basics to help with your cramps.

•Cell-salts, these are a natural-mineral your body needs, so if you are lacking this can affect all sorts of things in your body, you can take these daily to help prevent cramps or take them when you get cramps upping the dose every 5-10 minutes until the pain goes away.

•Up your intake of magnesium, calcium, and potassium, also couple with zinc to help your body absorb these easier. These are all things needed by your body to help the uterus lining shed.

•Get regular check-ups, a healthy uterus means an easier period, if you are in good health menstrual cramps will not be as common a problem for you, it may be because you are young and cycles irregular that this is causing more of a problem for you.

•Supplements, not just the ones mentioned above (magnesium, calcium, and potassium) but also Omega 3 & 6, Multi B with high B6 and B13, vitamin E is also a good anti-inflammatory.

•Good attitude, more from the first comments, but also bare in mind menstruation is not just about your body getting rid of waste uterus lining but also everything else from the month that it does not need - this includes bad emotions - it sounds hippy-like but it is true, the more stressed you have been during your cycle the more problematic your period will be.


Some sites you might find interesting on menarche;

http://www.debuinc.com
http://www.celebrategirls.com
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Menarche
http://www.birthwithsol.com/firstperiodkit.html
http://www.geocities.com/coqrico/apachedance.html
http://www.natracare.com/help_for_schools/learn_about_index.htm
http://www.ritualwell.org/shabbat/daily/sitefolder.2005-07-25.5896672727

Some sites you might find interesting on menstruation;

http://www.scarleteen.com
http://www.onmyperiod.com
http://www.onewoman.com/redspot
http://www.shoal.net.au/%7Esandral/WIF7.html
http://www.chicklit.com/words/words1.html
http://www.ralphmag.org/AY/tampon.html
http://www.menstruation.com.au
http://www.redwebfoundation.org
http://www.sisterzeus.com
http://www.sacredcycle.com
http://www.moonhutnaturals.com
http://www.imericaonline.com/likes/blood
http://home.comcast.net/%7Etheennead/bean/products.htm

Some sites on different menstrual options;

http://www.lunapads.com
http://www.gladrags.com
http://www.divacup.com
http://www.mooncup.co.uk
http://www.keeper.com
http://www.softcup.com
http://www.reddyspads.com
http://www.gynotex.com
http://www.natracare.com
http://urban-armor.org/urban-armor
http://www.myvag.net/blood/free
http://www.wen.org.uk/sanpro/reports/makeyourown_web.pdf

Answer 2

Don't worry I think every young lady has these issues at one time or another also. If the cramps are as bad as you say, you might want to see your doctor. There is medication you can take to reduce the severity of your periods. As far as how long they last, it could be anywhere from 3-10 days. Just continue taking the midol and relaxing, it will soon pass. Just talk to your mom or whoever about getting you into a doctor. And as for your teachers, when you can, excuse yourself...I would hope any teacher (especially female teachers) would have to let you go. If they put up a fight, have your mom talk to the principal of the school.

Answer 3

WOW! I remember I was 15 when I started and I felt exactly as you are feeling...smells like bad hamburger meat doesn't it? I felt dirty and mine hurt so bad that when people saw me throwing up, pale and sweating, they thought I was having a miscarriage!

I don't understand why mine were like this when I was a teen ager until my mid 20's. Not every period will be this way though. Some will be easier.

I suggest drinking calcium/magnesium and taking vitamin B complex everyday. Magnesium makes you relax and calcium helps everything.

I hate to suggest this but it might help and make you panic less but I would take a pain killer even before I felt pain...it seems once it started, it would get extreme and hard to control. (I might get black balled for saying that but, I used to do that. I might try for a different alternative now but I did it and there may be a better solution.

I remember sitting in class at school sweating, having splitting head aches, feeling nauseous and sure everyone could smell me. I understand what you are going through...it will get better.

Answer 4

I can understand your pain. Rest assured! This is called dysmenorrhea (ie painful periods). It very common with first timers just like you. Periods usually last between 2-7 days and may be heavy, moderate or light. You can benefit from taking some pain medications like ibuprofen with an anti-spasmodic (e.g. buscopan/scopolamine). However, you should consult your doctor for this prescription. It is not available over the counter. Please I do not advise for you to go on tampons for a first timer. It is quite unsafe. It may cause SSS (Staphylococcal Shock syndrome) which could be life-threatening. This just means tampons encourage breeding of the staphylococcus bacteria. Sanitary pads will be better for you. I trust if you approach your teacher(s) in a courteous manner they will oblige you leaving class to change pads. Dysmenorrhea usually subsides after the first or second baby is born when the period returns. Rest assured!

Answer 5

Try taking some moltrin ,that worked for me when I had that problem. Also you could put a hot pack or a heating pad on your bed and lay on it., with it pressing up against your tummy. This sill pas in a few days. Don't worry,We all go thru it. Good Luck..Tell your mom you have bad cramps and you wanna stay ome tomorrow. You should just rest if it is that bad.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

ow, i have the same experience.. it was just normal for me.. i produce many eggs and as a process it fertilizes and that comes out during the period.

i have my periods for 4 years now, and in that circumstance, i got used to it.. remember that it is ok that we release much, with that we are cleanse..

Answer 8

Use a tampon.
They make slender ones.
And tell your teacher you NEED to go to the bathroom. They HAVE to let you go.

Answer 9

dont worry its only your first time im sure as you go on they will get better good luck and dont worry

Answer 10

im sorry i cant think of anything