my friend's mother just has been diagnosed to have breast cancer... so how should i react...
should i pretend that nothing bad have happened?
or should i console him?
i'm in dilemma because he seems to be smiling and happy...
and he never told me about this but i knew it from my other room mate...
2006-11-06 20:20:28 · 10 answers · asked by hypnonebula 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just tell him that you know whats happening, nothing heavy, and tell him if he needs someone to talk to or anything else then you're there for him.
Dont be surprised if he doesnt want to talk about it - guys like to bury their heads in the sand about such things, but as long as he knows you're there for him that will at least know he has someone there should he need someone
2006-11-06 20:22:25 · answer #1 · answered by Leiani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everbody reacts differently. It may not have sunk in yet or he may be a positive hopeful person.
Either wait and let him bring it up or come straight out and say mate I heard about your mum and then react to the way he responds. Just don't push it.
2006-11-07 04:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by Karen D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, maybe you should say something to him , like you know about it. I have had breast cancer and it is very hard for the children and for the person that has it.
I would tell your friend , if there is anything that you can do for him or his family that you will be there for them.
2006-11-07 04:24:00 · answer #3 · answered by Aussie Possum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a possibility that he is denying it and therefore, not speaking about it. The fact that you are concerned is an issue, and I feel that it would be best to let him know that you've been told about it, and sit down with him and talk it out. Good luck with getting this sorted.
2006-11-07 05:45:16 · answer #4 · answered by sigoviafan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you try and be nice to him for a while, and just behave as normally as possible. Try discussing it with him, and let him know that you are with him in this moment of pain. Let him know that you will help him through this. Alternatively, you can be a capitalist and decide that yourself and your life is all that counts, and compassion is for the dogs. In which case, you can choose to criticise him for feeling sad about something silly and generally be rude to him and become a caricature of a pathetic human being. I just insulted capitalists. anyway, to cut a long story short, i suggest you be nice to him and try talking to him.
2006-11-07 04:25:14 · answer #5 · answered by the long haul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just pretend like you don't know anything. You can't help. If he is not showing anything because is nobody business to know or feel sorry. Is his Mom and he can handle this situation on his own. Not just giving answer on "how is your Mom doing" is nothing "happy" to talk about or to remained him.
2006-11-07 04:28:11 · answer #6 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him come to you with it. I don't know your friend but if he is like most guys he might only want to talk about it with 1 or 2 people with whom he might have talked about it with. If he is a general dude, he might get a feeling of weakness if he reveals his emotions to too many guys. Let him come to you versus you digging it out of him.
2006-11-07 04:36:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know him best!!! Tell him you just found out and that if there is anything you can do for him ...to just ask!!! Maybe you can let him know that if he doesn't want to talk about it that's ok too!!! Just let him know Your there!!!
Good Luck... maybe he wants to be able to not talk about it so that life can seem normal!
2006-11-07 04:30:41 · answer #8 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How close are you with him? If you're friends with him then you should let him know you heard about it and that you're there for him if he wants to talk about it. Don't pity him or treat him with kid gloves; just be there for him as a roommate and a friend.
2006-11-07 04:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by jesuisbete 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him he doesn't have to do the tough macho act around you your his friend and that is not what you like him for just ask him to come to you if he needs a listening ear he can come to you
2006-11-07 04:23:34 · answer #10 · answered by whay i lost my ?s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋