ok so heres the thing first some background, i have 2 really good friends from high school and my husband has 2 really good friends from high school. and my 2 best friends married his 2 best friends, leaving us a really close little circle i ride to work every day with the two other guys but we all work in different departments
so i almost always go to lucnch with my friends husband but the last couple weeks i have been eating at work and he has still been going out to lunch with this girl that just started in his department. and the other day i say them talking and i could sware they were hard core flirting. i blew it off thinking that it was my imagination. then today i noticed it again. and another woman i work with noticed too and asked me about it. and then someone else mentioned it to me.
so my question is: is this something that i should tell my friend? it seems unusual to me. or am i over reacting? would you want to know?
2006-11-06 20:09:55 · 10 answers · asked by insane illusions 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I do not believe there would be any benefit in telling. Perhaps this is a momentary interest between these two that will fade. Wives usually have a sense that something is wrong in their marriage and, if you tell, may be something she does not wish to face publicly at the time. She may be needing more time while she decides what to do and she may have more information than you do about the state of the marriage. Don't get into the position where they have "to shoot the messenger" should the marriage continue!
2006-11-06 20:18:34 · answer #1 · answered by jom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're on very thin ice here...
It's very likely that you correctly interpreted what you saw - he's been taking a female co-worker to lunch and indeed they've been, as you put it "hard core flirting"
Problem, if you tell his wife, she will more likely than not get angry at YOU - even once she realizes that he's actually cheating on her (or planning to in the near future)
She'll actually be madder at you if you tell than if you act like you don't know anything...
If your lucky, this office flirtation will end and your friend will decide to not risk his marrage...
If he doesn't ... then youre tight circle of friends is in serious danger of blowing apart...
Sorry - I feel bad for you
2006-11-06 20:16:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would approach your freind in a sort of accusing way towards your husband,(I noticed my husband flirting with you. . . .you could prolly come up with better choice of words) and then vice versa with your husband. This is sleazy, but it gets both sides and then you have something to work with. Good luck. Oh and Im sorry I read the question before realizing it was adressed to girls.:)
2006-11-06 20:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by kissphantom05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good it quite relies on how definite the ultrasound professional used to be. Personally at 20 weeks there will have to had been no confusion they usually will have to have identified for definite. I might get a 3D ultrasound to be definite. They are most effective approximately 50-seventy five$ and they're cool. But I feel you need to be like 27 weeks despite the fact that. well good fortune and congrats.
2016-09-01 08:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you noticed his flirting and you are worried he is headed for trouble. If he doesn't cool it tell him his wife will eventually find out. That tells him you don't intend to rat on him but it puts it in his mind that it will come out one day.
Some people are just flattered by flirting and it doesn't always get physical but keep an eye on it. At least he is not hiding it or you wouldn't see it. He may not even realize what is going on.
2006-11-06 20:17:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
illusions: Sit your man down and have a good strong chat with him about his display of flirting with this girl. Tell him plainly, how you feel about it and that it makes you feel uncomfortable. You are not over-reacting and I wouldn't go around advertising this , either. Is this girl your husband is flirting with his subordinate? If it is, your husband is pressuring his new employee to go along with his flirting through obligation. Good luck on this one.
2006-11-06 20:20:03 · answer #6 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is very complicated, a lose-lose situation. if you tell her she'll be mad at you (first reaction is always a denial and accusation of the messenger), after she confronts her husband he'll be mad at you and consequently your husband will be mad at you.
all problems as far as you can see.
but if she's a real good friend you just tell her that you heard some rumors and that she should have a talk with her husband.
2006-11-06 20:16:33 · answer #7 · answered by avril r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch them for a while longer, if it doesn't stop and gets more intense then tell your friend.. There is nothing more devastating than being the last to know. I wish someone had told me!
2006-11-06 20:21:43 · answer #8 · answered by gemma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your close knit- discuss it with him before you discuss it with his wife...
dont ripple the waters until you have all the facts
if you talk to him and get a weird vibe and think the flirting could be more... than maybe discuss with the wife
2006-11-06 20:13:27 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda A 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes nip it before its to late
2006-11-06 20:36:54 · answer #10 · answered by foamcrash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋