My friend and I realised we had a strong mutual attraction, but for various reasons we couldn't take it further.
Is our friendship over?
2006-11-06 20:00:15 · 23 answers · asked by nev 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think if you really knew this person very well and had been friends for a long time, you could have got over any chemistry that was there. Lust fades in time, even in happy relationships.
However if it was a relatively new friendship, maybe it is better not to try and sustain it. In the early days of any relationship, platonic or otherwise, signals can be mis read and we can read things into the smallest smile or gesture. Some relationships are like a flower. Beautiful because of their brevity, not despite it.
If it is the former, long term friendship, have a clear the air session, say what has to be said then try and find a way you can be in the same space as the person.
If the latter, ah well, have no regrets over what could have been, enjoy the attraction you felt and the buzz you got and try to remain at least civilised acquaintances! x
2006-11-07 09:05:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No the friendship isn't over, depending on how you ended things the last time that you saw each other. If you still want to be friends with the person why not suggest going out somewhere, and talking things out and let them know that you don't want things to change between the two of you. If was a good friendship, you will be able to make it back to the way that you were eventually. The first few times that you meet up it will be uneasy and when either of you start going out with someone new it will be hard. But if the friendship was there you two should be able to make it
2006-11-07 08:25:44 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may still be friends but you will never have the same friendship disposition you once had. Once you step over that line, you can't go back. When you make new friends, think before you act. Would you prefer them as great friends who will always be there for you or would you like to ruin a spot on friendship which is a very big risk. I've done this once before and our friendship ain't ever been the same, i regret what I did but i've moved on now. We are still friends but not as good.
2006-11-07 04:57:07 · answer #3 · answered by phobzy85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confused, did you enter into a relationship or not? If you did and it didn't work then yeah, there is a good chance the friendship is over, because you can't go back to the way things were.
If you didn't, then why should your friendship be over? Talk through it, and then eventually it will be one of those private jokes you laugh about
2006-11-07 04:03:34 · answer #4 · answered by chelles_insanity 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To level with you you will be lucky if it the same friendship,you will feel awkward even if you just end up sat in the same room together on your own ,things could get back thow you might be having a laugh about it this time in few months..ps the time when everyone weakons is christmas keep your guard up a bit more...
2006-11-07 04:09:55 · answer #5 · answered by emmamo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its definitely going to be weird for awhile.
There is no reason for the friendship to be over. As long as you are both open and honest about your feelings and your reasons for not taking it further, you should come out of it with a stronger but different friendship.
2006-11-07 04:08:43 · answer #6 · answered by Charles C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. I had a friend that I had an on off relationship with for about 5 years. If we were both single and we were out for the night we'd get - how can I say it - very intimate. Eventually he became more attached than I was and relationship ended.
I was gutted - never realised how much I did love him.
2006-11-07 06:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by Lisette W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure - so long as nothing relationship-wise happened. Even if it did, if you can both put your 'mutual attraction' to one side, no reason not to be friends.
2006-11-07 12:03:58 · answer #8 · answered by Just_wondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but it will never be quite the same. you can remain friends but the friendship will not be like before.
2006-11-07 04:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by J C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe. Maybe not. depends if you can get over any awkward feelings and get back to being just friends. I hope you can. Good luck x
2006-11-07 04:14:03 · answer #10 · answered by Leiani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋