me &this guy (my exmanager but i quit that place, one year older)were hooking up &kind of talking &then we would just talk like randomly every once in awhile the next couple of months usually him calling to check up on me..but a couple of days ago i told him i dont think i could just be friends &that i liked him too much and then he kept saying lets be friends for now is that ok &i said if u dont like me just let me know uve been leading me on for 9 months &he said its not like that i like u u know me i just put my job before anything &anyone...he also never goes out and stays home mostly &hes not a very sexual guy, &a worryfreak whats wrong with him? &now im talkin to his friend whose a very good guy but i cant seem to get my mind off that other guy for some odd reason i really like him wat should i do? i feel like im just talkin to his friend (whose very sweet) to make him jealous or show him what hes missing &it gives me a better chance to see the other guy since theyre roommates
2006-11-06 19:59:37 · 2 answers · asked by tragickingdom 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i think that if they guy you like is reluctant to take your relationship to the next level then just let him get on with being lonley and miserable but defo don't use his mate to make him jealous becasue he will be the one to get hurt. try talking to the guy you like you have nothing to lose, but you still have to move on with your life and find someone who wants to love you like you deserve to be loved.
2006-11-06 20:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by john.katrinacox@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absorb the clue already. The guy can't love you. He definitely feels you're just not the right girl for him yet. Somehow, he can't admit that to you just yet because, maybe, he's got reservations -- meaning, he might decide later to end up with you instead. Therefore, he wants your relationship to remain as friends so as to keep you close to him -- keep you handy even. However, asking him to move into the next level would only seem that you're rushing him into an engagement -- mostly assumed really. Do you really want to love him? Give him time to learn to love you, too. Intentionally making him jealous will only mean driving him away so you might want to reconsider your "sweet talks" with his friend/roommate. Good luck.
2006-11-06 21:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by Mike N. D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋