Do you think that it's wrong for me(female) to have a girlfriend, even though I have a boyfriend already, and I had a baby with him 3 months ago? He's totally fine with it. (Not like a threesome or anything.. just me and him, and me and the girl.. understand?) Anyway, I don't want any gay-bashers answering this. I'm asking the gay-bi community only!!
2006-11-06 19:18:15 · 19 answers · asked by Pretty Mommy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
oh thanks to the nice people!! lol well... also, if anyone has any suggestions on where to meet other bi girls, please help.. lol I mean.. almost all we have here is Wal-mart.. :p So, what am I supposed to do? Just go up to a random hot girl at Wal-Mart and start flirting with her???? lol thanks
2006-11-06 19:22:55 · update #1
just one more thing.. If there ever is a girl, my baby will only know her as my friend. I know it doesn't sound very nice, but.... My boyfriend didn't realize his mom was gay/bi until he was 15.
2006-11-06 19:26:55 · update #2
DONT YOU GET IT "SPRINGER"??? MY BABIES GRANDMOTHER IS GAY!! IT DOESNT MATTER WHAT I DO ANYMORE!! SHES ALREADY DONE IT!! SO.. get over it. I like women... i like men.. thats the way things are with me. I just want a short answer not a million word essay! (thanks to everyone else, though!!!)
2006-11-06 20:15:32 · update #3
You need to decide upon your own sexual standards and not let others, society, the media, places of worship, faith leaders, people of influence tell you what is right and what is wrong. Just don't forget you are the mother of a 3 month-old child. Keep your child your #1 priority.
2006-11-06 19:58:23 · answer #1 · answered by Kent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult. What you do is your business. But you have to consider your child. Children should be kept from certain things that thier minds are not mature enough to deal with. You live in a small town and that would be hard to do. Also know that you can catch a disease mixing all this stuff up and some of them have no cure. One day this could have a great empact on your life. You will be suprised what things that you will regret when you are older
2006-11-07 03:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, my only problem with your problem is this: If you have a girlfriend and a boyfriend, you are not being faithful to uh...someone here. I'm just saying, pick one and stay with him or her. Everyone deserves loyalty from their partner. It would be nice if you chose the baby's dad...but two moms is great too! But do you really want your baby growing up and seeing you go from relationship to relationship without being faithful to someone? You are shaping your baby's future with your behavior, so...there is food for thought for you I suppose.
2006-11-07 03:24:29 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a girlfriend but I want one I just don't know how to go about it, what will my husband say, u think, when he gets back from the air force? No not wrong for you to have a girlfriend and boyfriend? What do u do with your girlfriend or sorry, what is it like. I haven't done anything yet. Hope you can help me...
2006-11-07 03:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by ashley b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ask the question perhaps you are focusing on that there might be something wrong.
It could just be that you have fallen out of the basket of the ordinary and feel on a big trip. Just follow your own compass and enjoy the ride, Just keep enjoying the wonderful things you are enjoying in your life NOW.
2006-11-07 03:30:30 · answer #5 · answered by nischal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife had a girlfriend for the first year and a half of our marriage. We did have a threesome a couple of times, but usually it was just the two of them while I was at work. I kind of liked it. The more sex my wife got, the more she wanted... so I would come home to a wife exausted after spending hours with her girlfriend, then after dinner, she was ready for more.
2006-11-07 11:02:31 · answer #6 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weather or not it is "wrong", depends on a persons personal beliefs an what they perceive to be moral.
They are both fine with it, so it's fine....for now. What happens if one of them decides that they want you for themselves? Jealousy might be a factor further down the line so watch for signs.
Hmmm, the kid? Parenting issues are in a different category so no preaching from me on that subject.
2006-11-07 03:55:16 · answer #7 · answered by She-ra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.. You know there's actually a book/ novel qritten about the exact same thing you're going through, but it's for teenagers' stuff kind of book. It's somewhat related, it's called Royally Jacked.
2006-11-07 03:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by MissIntimidate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's perfectly fine for anyone to pursue his or her happiness. In your case, just make sure to set the environment right for your baby. Because it's totally up to you if you wanna make your baby aware of such sexual orientations at an early age. Just be sure to be there for your baby as much as possible. Try not to let your happiness get in the way of your child's welfare. Best of luck! We all deserve to be happy. \m/
2006-11-07 03:37:46 · answer #9 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a bad idea, i just ended a friendship with someone who just had a baby and her boyfriend was okay with her talking to me. In the end it's not worth it because someone is going to end up being hurt.
2006-11-07 03:22:48 · answer #10 · answered by ~Twisted Sister~ 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋