me n my bf have been using condoms, n i just found out im pregnet. im only 18 n cant deal wit a kid. i dont like abortions n dont want to give the kid away. im adopted n i know wat it feels like to find out that the ppl u lived wit rnt u real parents. i dont know wat to do plz help!
2006-11-06 19:15:53 · 20 answers · asked by shaneberry22 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
ok so your b/f and you were using condoms but what about you and the football team? too late now, flip a coin
2006-11-06 19:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Well sweetie condoms don't always work. I am 26 and have a 3 year old to prove that birth control pills don't always work either.....lol. Anyways, you really only have 3 options. Abortion, adoption, keeping the baby. Whatever choice you make will be the right one. Don't let people make this decision for you, you have to decide whats best for you. There are many people to talk to, you don't have to go at this alone. If you can't talk to your parents you can talk to school counselors or whoever. Just make sure you have all the information so you can make an educated decision. Good luck.
2006-11-06 19:23:33 · answer #2 · answered by samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks your going to be a mother,concidering you don't like the options available to those who don't want to be parents right now. Because you were adopted,this should give you more of a reason,to keep your child. Don't say you can't deal with a "Kid" right now,because you will fell much different, once he/she's here. Don't take your child through the agony of finding out,that the people who raised her,are not her real parents. (NOTE:) What I'm about to say is a "TRUE STORY".
When I was 9 year old,my sister,who was 18 at the time,gave her "First Born Daughter" to our "Next Door Neighbors",to raise because (Just like you!) "She did'nt want to deal with a kid!". (Now) My neighbors could'nt have children of their own. The husband paid all the medical bills,and when my Niece was born,they came to get her from the hospital,and stressed that my sister was never aloud to contact them. My parents were heartbroken,that they would not see their "First Born Grandchild". Because my sister was 18,she was of Legal age (In Indiana), to do what she wanted to do. My Niece was never adopted,just "given away". Then, my sister found out where the coupled moved, and year after year,she followed her daughter growing up,in the shadows. On my Niece's 18th Birthday,my sister contacted her,and told her she was her real mother,and wrote her a very long letter,explaining this. My Niece was so devestated! She felt betrayal. She never forgave my sister. When my sister died in 2000,my Niece did'nt attend the Funeral,but she did send a "Condolence Card" to me. (The Moral of this story:) Don't take your baby through what you've been through. Weigh your options very carefully,and follow your heart. You will be able to make a decision sooner than you think! (Good Luck to you!)
2006-11-06 19:50:49 · answer #3 · answered by Squeakers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello i know how you feel I got pregnant at the the age of 15 and had my baby boy at 16. My baby father didn't have nothing to do with me I thought it was the end of the world but I still graduated from high school and going to college to be a veterinary assistant. It's not easy but trust me it's all worth it. when you go to your ultrasounds and find what it is. When you have it and your first time seeing that bundle of joy you carried for nine months it's a beautiful experience. I didn't have the best family either my daddy got shot when i was twelve my mom was by herself and i had three younger brothers that was 10, 1, and 3. So i had to grow up fast. there were nights when me and my mom didn't eat just so my brothers can. Everybody got a sob story. So have your baby a give your baby the love you didn't have. Trust there are times when i wanted to break down and cry but it's going to be OK.
2006-11-06 19:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by sugirl225 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey darlin im a 20 year old mom of a 1 year old i got pegnant when i was 18 i was on birth control and using condoms. they are only 99% effective and there may have been a hole in the condom or something. I know what its like to be in your situation but im sure your families will raligh around you and give you as much support as you need and id may seem like a daunting task but i wouldnt trade my daughter for the world! if you need to talk more feel free!
2006-11-06 19:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by Kevan S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready to be a parent then don't hesitate to adopt the baby out. You will not be able to give that child the love it needs and deserves. Don't have an abortion. Every woman I have ever known that has had one has regretted it sorely. And in the future abstinence is the best BC.
2006-11-06 19:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by polarviolet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep your clothes on and your knees together. I have no sympathy for irresponsability. Now a kid is going to suffer because of an umprepared parent. Thanks for making the world a crappier place. You really want help? Stop having sex. If you can't handle the consequences you shouldn't be doing it! Seriously! I know I'm being a bit harsh but geezzzz... You really need to think before you act.
2006-11-06 19:24:06 · answer #7 · answered by dww32720 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
condoms are never 100% effective- no birth control ever is...
you seem to already have made up your mind- you dont want an abortion and you dont want to give it up... theres only one thing left....
you need to sit down with your boyfriend and go through this together... talk to your parents and anyone else who maybe able to help...
hopefully once you have shared the problem and have support it wont feel so weighty...
good luck
2006-11-06 19:20:12 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are all products of Lust- 70% pregnancy are unwanted.
So, how was the sex? Enjoyed fully. Now enjoy baby burden. In case if baby suffers whole life it is because of you.
But what ever happens, keep enjoying sex as more positions you need to try.
2006-11-06 20:38:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to go to a Christian church and the Pastor there can pray for you and give you Godly counselling. etc...There you will receive alot of support and help in anything you need.
God wants you to keep the baby. God wants you to trust, love & have faith in Him.
I pray all goes well for you, your bf, and baby.
God Bless!
2006-11-06 19:58:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is why it is not good to have sex before marriage... maybe there's a leak at the condom causing the sperm to get in u... are u sure by the way? make a doctor check up is more secure and tell ur parents...
2006-11-06 19:19:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋