my husband expects a lot from me for everything.. I'm a USA citizen but he is not. We both are staying in his country of origin. He badly wants to go to usa bt i'm not comfortable with his idea. I dont want to live in USA yet. I believe if he wants to migrate to usa, he should find his own ways to get there. I dont want him to make me feel used in the process but he doesn't understand that. Sometimes he fights me on this issue. He says i'm holding on to his success while not taking him to USA. i do believe that a husband/wife should help one another but in my case, i want him to grow on his own. I want him to use his own capablities and make a difference in my heart. However, he wants the easy way out that is through me. Tell me am I wrong on this? He calls me selfish. In the past, he's cheated on me too and still does it sometimes. I've given him many chances, should i still stand by his side or should move on alone?
His personality scares me bz he is unpredictable. any advice?
2006-11-06 19:09:48 · 12 answers · asked by mind 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, ideally a husband and wife are soulmates who act selflessly for the good of the other. If you were in an ideal relationship it would seem fitting and right for you to help your husband achieve success by coming back to the USA. However, your situation seems far from ideal. It sounds as if you are well within your rights to end the relationship based on his past and current behaviour. Perhaps you are unhappy with the situation and are toying with the idea of moving on, but you feel a little guilty about it. You might consider a trial period of seperation and see how things go. He apears to be the selfish one, and does not seem to value your marriage as much as you do.
The days and months to come may be painful and difficult. But do not lose heart.
May wisdom, strength, and peace be with you.
2006-11-06 19:35:25 · answer #1 · answered by kpax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he should be kissing your butt for staying with him after he cheated. Really you must tell him this people cannot read minds. I do believe if you explain this to him he may understand.
Or he just wants to move to the States because their are more women he can cheat with behind your back. Plz wake up
you deserve better it sounds like he just wants to take advantage of you since it appears you are letting him do it. Get out of relationship and come home to a decent local.
2006-11-06 20:03:15 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-28 21:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by picart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise to you is to end the relationship. Think about this. If he is cheating on you now he is obviously telling you that you dont matter much to him. Everytime he cheats he is willing to lose you. This man is very selfish and only thinks about what benefits himself. Not marriage material at all. divorce and move along
2006-11-06 19:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by Jason C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you are his ticket to a better life and a green card. Well you are married now and it seems that he just wants his green card. Maybe that's what he married you for in the first place. If you want him why don't u just give him what he wants ?
It seems that not getting his green card makes him so uneasy and the marriage so miserable. Just give him what he wants and save your marriage. Maybee you will have a better life in America too.
2006-11-06 20:30:39 · answer #5 · answered by Bachelor boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both your mindsets are totally different. It is sad that both of you got married and now there is no way than to split because otherwise both of will be tortured for the rest of your life.
2006-11-06 19:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOST LIKELY AFTER HE GETS IN THE USA, HE WILL LEAVE YOU, ONE OF MY FRIENDS WIFE DONE THAT TO HIM, HE HASNT HEARD FROM HER EVER SINCE. WHY DO YOU THINK PPL FROM DIFFERENT COUNTRIES WANT IN USA, HOW ELSE WOULD THEY TRY TO GET HERE.
2006-11-06 19:20:29 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this but it sounds like he just married you for your citizenship and will most likely leave you once he gets to the US. I say beat him to the punch and divorce him.
2006-11-06 19:22:38 · answer #8 · answered by Leila G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right not to take him, he should make his own way there and not use you for a green card
2006-11-06 21:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get one of the other pieces of *** he has been doing to get him to the USA
2006-11-06 19:13:27 · answer #10 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋