would it make me a bad person if i made a decision on what other people said?

Question

im 17 and pregnat and not sure if i should keep it if i made a decision based on what people said would it make me a bad person?

Answer 1

It would not make you a bad person. You should talk to independent people who are out of the equation, eg on here, or call Brook (you can find them online too) or Connexions, as well as people you know you can trust. Think of the pros and cons of each situation and do what is right for you, regardless of what anyone else says. It is YOUR life, nobody else's and please don't let people pressure you into anything you don't want. Best of luck.

Answer 2

There is no right answer in what you should do. And no-one can tell you what to do. All you can do is listen to advise and try and take from it what you think is right.I was 19 when I had an abortion and it was the best desicion for me.I did not want a baby
and the father did not want to know. I went into the operation knowing that I could not provide for the child that was growing inside me and I also didn't want to. I ofcourse mourned the loss of the life however the life that child would have had would have been unsutiable. I now have twins with my boyfriend 7 years later and they have a future I could not provide then. You need to think about the future and not how you feel about now.This is a life desision not to be taken lightly or by following others pressures.
You have to live with the desision not them. I didn't tell anyone that I was preganant other than my partner and asked no advise and told no one for years later. My abortion was my choice my secret and anyhting to do with it I did not share.Ultimatley I was alone when I had it done but at least I know It was me making the choice

Answer 3

Of course it would not make you a bad person!
You are very young and you need advice. However, in the long run, it has to be YOUR choice, YOUR decision. Do not let anyone pressure you one way or the other. Listen, read the answers in this thread, weigh the options and go with the one that you feel is the best for you, your circumstances and your future. It is not just your whole life that is going to be affected, but also, if you decide to go on with your pregnancy to full term, the life of another person.
Whatever your decision, IT DOES NOT MAKE YOU A BAD PERSON.
Good luck!

Answer 4

Miss Unsure, I realize that by the time you have gone through everyone Else's answers before mine, your head is problem spinning. It is a tough situation to be in because you are in the middle. You really need the support & advise of those before you that have both the education & life experiences that you lack. Unfortunately, you can only rely on their " Opinion". YOU are the only one that can look into your heart, your soul, your head, to make the final descion. Even though they have had more life behind them then you, Ultimately YOu are the one that will live with all the heartache & joys that come from your choices..... For the rest of you life. Tp answer your question..Does it make you a bad person?
The only thing bad about it would be that you did not make the choice yourself, & totaly from your heart. This usually leads to alot of heartache & confusion in the future. Be wise enough dear to listen to all, consider all, but take all of it into your heart, just you & your thoughts, your feelings & Make the descion yours. Good Luck Dear!!

Answer 5

It wouldn't make you a bad person, but since it is a decision based on what other people think, you may regret it later. Make sure the decision you make is one you can live with. Good luck!

Answer 6

Following what other people say will not make you a bad person but if you follow your heart you won't regret it later in life. Remember you do have more options out there don't be afraid to ask people you trust for help but in the end the decision is yours and yours alone.

Answer 7

This is waaaayyy too important to listen to other people. Sure they can tell you what to do but the ONLY person who will live with the consequences is YOU. So it wont make you a bad person to listen to them, just a dumb one. This is all about you and your life ahead of you, don't make a desicion you will regret based on what other people say. Im not going to tell you what do do, but if it was me, I would keep it. The guilt of killing a child whould not leave me alone for the rest of my life. I realize how hard it will be and what people will think of me, but they will forgive and forget and life goes on. The real question: CAN YOU LIVE WITH THAT DECISION. If you can then theres your answer.

Answer 8

It wouldn't make you a bad person. Nothing like that can make you bad. It might make you very unhappy however in the long term. Please make the decision for yourself, and do what will bring you happiness. Listen to other peoples opinions if they give them, but base your decision on what is best for you and what you want. Good luck and don't beat yourself up over it.

Answer 9

no it would not make you a bad person but what you should really do is make this decision based on what you want after all you wouldnt want to end up regretting it now would you and once you have made a desicion you cant very easily undo the situation if i was you i would speak a counsellor like someone from pregnancy crisis first

Answer 10

You are thinking about your life yet to come after an event that put you in this position?
It must occur to you that your preferences now will effect a life that only you were responsible for, and a life that didn't have any choice in the matter?
When that life comes to fruition you will be a mum.
A mum I repeat, where just its sound makes any child feel comfortable and loved.
Nothing can equal the qualities shown and gladly given by a mums.
Mums are the world's angels.