I am a married wife with two kids. He is a married husband to 5 kids. He is 20yrs my senior. I have had an affair with this man for 2 years. He treat me like a true man should. I believed he wanted something more with me but he has left and called me once when his wife was on vacation. I dont know what i should do. am i wrong? should i stay away from him? or am i just his play thing? Help yahoo people tell me what should i do?
2006-11-06 18:34:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes you should give up. it might feel good but its wrong. you should stay away from him. you are his play thing. forget about it and go on.
2006-11-06 18:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by rhonda3826 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's over. Instead of putting all this energy into a relationship that is nothing but a fantasy, put this energy into fixing the sure thing you already have.
Keep in mind that affairs always seem better because you don't have to put up with all their BS 24/7 like you do your husband's (and he with yours). You only share the good times together, so it seems like total bliss. Chances are if you were to leave your spouse and marry your lover in a short time it'd be the same old same old, just a different face waking up next to you every morning.
Affairs are fantasy and nothing else.
2006-11-07 02:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You are 'the other woman' and always were. When it's convenient, then the two of you may share some togetherness, but to think that this is more than an affair at this point would be naive. If you continue to rendezvous with him, just know that although he may have some feelings for you, it's primarily an act of lust without commitments...not that this is necessarily a bad thing, but it is what it is, so best accept the reality.
2006-11-07 04:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by seattlego 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is over probably with you and him. You are going to be hurt by leaving him behind, but you need to do that and get back in the marriage. If you are bored with the marriage or unhappy otherwise, then confront you partner in a good way about your needs for affection and love. The man on the side was always going to hurt you, even if it does prove your ability to love more than one man for different reasons. You are going to have to go back and make one relationship as rich as two were for you.
2006-11-07 02:41:30 · answer #4 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true man would never do something like this to his wife, kids, or to you. Anyone can pretend to be a gentleman for a while but his true self has emerged and unfortunately or maybe fortunately you were left in the dust. He phoned you to keep the chance of a lay should he ever be in town again open. You should forget him and concentrate on your own family. good luck!!
2006-11-07 02:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by tamster 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He has taken the easy way out, and he has moved on.
You should thank him for that, and wake up, and you should do the same.
It might have been fun while it lasted, but the commitment was never on his mind, and (YES), you were his play thing.
The main reason he treated you good,was because he was getting carefree sex, and all it benefits with out paying,for the family plan, and out of pocket money. Your husband was paying for that, without the benefits for him.
I think this guy was just playing you; he has 20 years on you, he knows the ropes.So count your blessing and move on.
Make things wright for all.
Good luck, and open your eyes..
2006-11-07 06:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by meatball288001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your married with kids and your asking if you should continue to be unfaithful to your husband........are you for real?do you really need some one to tell you that you should stop?...not trying to be mean but it seems to me that you dont love your husband anymore ,maybe a divorce should be on your agenda,no one likes living a lie and your man deserves the truth,who knows maybe youll like being single at least you wont need advice on chasing married men,in closing if you were more then just a fling to him ...why has he not done something about his situation.....you were just that ....a fling
2006-11-07 02:45:13 · answer #7 · answered by gry w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a clue lady. Put this dude in a history book and move on. Focus on your own husband for once! LOL
2006-11-07 02:42:02 · answer #8 · answered by pureblessingfromabove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 kids? shoot, with 5 kids , of course he doesn't have time to call you, sheesh, how'd you ever have an affair?........If he's avoiding you and relocating, i'd say yea it's pretty much over and good riddance, the coward, not able to tell you he wants to end it, don't go chasing after him
2006-11-07 02:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by evers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go sweetie. he has obviously gotten back with his wife and has decided to leave you alone slowly but surely. sorry to say but they never leave their wives. maybe you can work things out with your husband and things will work out for the better. good luck
2006-11-07 02:43:02 · answer #10 · answered by chrisarea_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋