i.e. the guy you'd be with if you hadn't met your husband/fiance/current long time boyfriend etc. Why do you think this happens (reminiscing about the past relationship etc. etc.)? Please see additional detail in the same post in "Singles & Dating." Thanks!!! I want to understand why this happens to me and how to stop.
2006-11-06 18:25:31 · 7 answers · asked by Mishy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Perhaps it's not Mr. Second Place that you are missing, but rather the time and place you were in your life when you knew him. You were younger then with fewer responsibilities. You had the chance to let your wild side out for a stroll. You had the excitement of dating and exploring your youth that you no longer have. You also mentioned the loss of your mother while he was in your life. So many thoughts and feelings are coursing through your mind that it's hard to sort them out and put them in the proper perspective. Being alone and away from home is scary and thrilling at the same time. Perhaps the combination of events is drumming up thoughts of the past that will quickly disappear when you are back in the loving arms of your husband. The feelings may crop up from time to time throughout your married life. Try not to dwell on them and be thankful for what you have. Why not call your hubby for some words of encouragement? He's probably missing you too.
2006-11-06 19:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by AileneWright 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married right out of high school. I've been married for twenty nine years. I don't really think about the second place guy because I've always told myself that I was worth the best. When you meet a guy and you are everything to him... you make his day and his night and brighten his eyes, then you have a winner... if he does the same to you. Love is awesome but don't go looking for it... let it happen.
2006-11-07 03:35:03 · answer #2 · answered by Tara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only natural to think and daydream about "what might have been".
I'm not saying that anything is wrong in your current relationship, but I know I tend to do this when I am frustrated or let-down by my husband (i.e. he knows it's my bday and because he's a typical guy doesn't do anything special). I think daydreaming about our "perfect" ex gives us a way to silently vent and cope with the current situation.
2006-11-07 02:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by < Roger That > 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely agree with Roger That.
It is a way to cope silently with the frustrating situation we need to deal with.
It is funny how after some years the "EX" that has been placed there for a reason is remembered as a "flawless" guy.
Just something to think about I guess.
2006-11-07 02:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the time. Me too. However this isnt necessarily a bad thing. If you like your guy then these thought will be just thoughts.
2006-11-07 04:04:29 · answer #5 · answered by linda g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u believe in Jesus? if not believe now and turn away from ur sin, i don't need nothing from u but, the only think is that u repent from your ways can u? the kingdom of heaven is near, thank u and have a nice day, we love u. when u done help the poor people please
2006-11-07 02:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by PEDRTC 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well i never miss the 2nd place guy but did wonder how well is he in making love!!!
2006-11-07 02:35:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋