My friend started smoking pot a few weeks ago because of major family problems. He wants to stop, but he feels smoking's the only way he'll get out of this mess. I've tried to get him to talk to a counsler, but he wont do it. Please help me help him.
2006-11-06 18:15:44 · 8 answers · asked by female optimus prime. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
maybe you should be his counselor. you are a close friend and know all of his business so it should be easier to talk to you. let him know that you are there for him and you love him and will help him in anyway that you can. let him know that pot will not solve his problems and think of other ways to relieve his stress.
2006-11-06 18:49:41 · answer #1 · answered by chrisarea_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using the family problems as an excuse. He's the only one who can stop himself from smoking pot. Fortunately, pot is not addictive the same way other drugs often are.
Other than making sure there is no smoking pot when he's around you, and making it clear to him you aren't going to put up with it, there isn't much you can do.
Because he could get himself in deeper than he is right now you may want to start cutting back time you spend with him to some degree. I know it sounds cruel, but as long as he's in this "mode" he'll drag you in on the whole business with all his problems. (Already, you're on here and asking what you can do to help him stop. Already, you are beginning to feel you need to do something.)
Other than telling him, "I know you have family problems, and if you need to talk to someone about them you should talk to a counselor; but I don't accept that as an excuse for your pot smoking." - there's nothing much you can do.
2006-11-06 18:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's the only person to decide if he wants to quit but it does not necessarily mean that you cannot help. First, tell him, "A problem cannot be solved by doing another problem or wrong deeds". It will certainly put him in a lot of mess. Tell him to face the problem 'squarely' and not like escaping from the problem. I understand that it would be easier said than done. Be at his side to support him as he goes through to this difficult time. As I have said, it would not be easy but just FIGHT ON. Remember a bad habit is always hardest to break.
Good luck to you and with your friend.
2006-11-06 19:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm truly sorry to hear this is happening, how ever if he refuses counseling and doesn't want help there's nothing you can do short of telling him good bye and when he smartens up you will come back but not until then, unfortunately you cannot make somebody change if they don't want to but please don't allow yourself to be dragged down to that level, drugs are a cowards cop out and they do nothing to help the situation, if he really wants to stop he will, you need to set boundaries for your friendship and see which he values more that will be your answer. Good luck
2006-11-06 18:32:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no human power can stop nor prevent someone from using Drugs, alcohol, or any other unhealthy , dangerous, addictions that may put him at risk for serious consequences & perhaps even death. he has to find his own way. all we can do & be is a power of example & support. if he wants help; make suggestions to him or provide him with pamplets, brocures, reading materials from AA, NA, Dual Diagnosis, & other 12 step groups in his or your local area. he must want the help & have the key of willingness to do something about his problem. if he doesn't there's nothing you or i can say that will help him or benefit him.
i'm a friend of bill W in in portland,maine. & am speaking from my own personal experience. i hope what i have said has helped .
2006-11-06 18:37:56 · answer #5 · answered by amtrakcafe2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best and only thing you can do for him is to be there for support. If he does indeed want to stop, then he will. He just really needs his friends to be there to support him as he gets out of this "mess"
2006-11-06 18:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by Greg M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Got me. What's wrong with pot?
If he knows its wrong, you know it is wrong... then I don't see the problem. He's pretty stupid if he thinks smoking will get him out of problems... that's a recreational thing only.
puff puff pass
2006-11-06 18:32:30 · answer #7 · answered by cruddypantz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
merely be there for her. i might say sit down her down and talk to her show her what she's turning her existence into an show her what's going to take place if she retains to try this. If she pulls the i don't furnish a **** ********, then I say slap her.... not extremely even with the undeniable fact that heavily she extremely demands to drag it mutually how historic is she in spite of everything? She's dropping her existence on drugs and if she is often happening with of that she will have the potential to continuously bypass to rehab to get out of going to detention center then she's by no potential going to provide up. tell her that if she would not provide up then she'll bypass to detention center through undeniable fact that her opportunities have run out, an there is not greater get out of detention center unfastened enjoying cards. Be common including her and don't sugarcoat it.
2016-11-28 01:21:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋