okay...i have a son that turned 1 a week ago. i have another son that is due in 1 1/2 months (if he can wait that long..i have already been in pre-mature labor 1 time). when i was pregnant with my first son, i freaked out over everything. his room had to be perfect, i had to have all of the clothes and cribs and everything. but now with this new baby, we have done NOTHING to prepare. i kept some of my baby clothes that he grew out of, but we dont have a crib anymore (we moved and something broke on it and i completely went insane and "killed" the crib - it was very cheap and poorly manufactured). i have a bassinet for this new baby, but i feel like a bad parent b/c with the first child, i went "all-out" and prepared. now i know that newborns dont need much, i learned the hard way with my 1st..but i feel bad that i haven't done anything to prepare for this next child. i had a baby shower with my 1st..should i have one for this baby too??? did anybody out there do what i am doing?
2006-11-06 18:14:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Like you say, you know what they need now...
I think the anticipation is different for baby #2... I think part of the frantic shopping for a first baby is actually nervousness over labour and delivery and anxiety over what to expect when you actually HAVE a new baby in the house. I'd say that the fact that you're not freaking out is actually a good thing. It shows that you're very comfortable and confident about this baby coming.
If you're worried though, then rather than feeling guilty about not doing (or feeling that you need) as much stuff this time maybe take a short & special shopping trip to get your new baby something really special that they'll treasure always. I got my baby a cradle medallion and a silver bracelet for her baptism and something to wear home from the hospital that I could put away for her to have later. I also saved the newspaper from the day she was born and put all that stuff along with all the cards I got in small pink Rubbermaid tote box as a "time capsule."
Good luck with your new baby (and your 1-year-old!!) I'm sure you're doing great!! Take care.
2006-11-06 18:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax you have everything you need. A cot/crib can wait a couple of months. The baby will only want love and food and I am sure you have that in abundance. The reason you went all out with your 1st child is that you did not know what you would need and wanted everything to be perfect. You know better now so just sit back and enjoy
If you feel like you would like a baby shower, and you have the time and energy, then have one.
You are not a bad parent just a wiser one.
2006-11-06 18:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by Born a Fox 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
theres nothing wrong with not buying all that stuff but you should eventually get a crib cause you can only use a bassinet for a couple months i have three kids and my oldest is almost 7 and my second is 5 and she cant wear any of my oldest clothes my youngest shares her clothes with my 5 just the shirts anyway i go to the thrift stores and buy my 5 yr old clothes its cheap and the clothes are in really good shape and im tired of spending so much money on clothes when i dont have to
2006-11-06 19:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by Avis S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop flapping!
You are 7+ months pregnant, hormonal, tired and, if you're anything like I was with my 2nd in 2yrs, huge too!
I had my son 4 days after my daughters 1st birthday.
It doesn't sound to me like you'll have forgotten anything, it sounds like you've got the hormonal guilt's because you fussed over your first one pre-birth and did like all first time moms do and bought everything in sight 'just in case'.
I went and bought a few neutral baby-gro's, nappies, new newborn teats for bottles and a new car seat for the car. Even then the new car seat ended up being for my 1yr old and the baby inherited the 'old' one.
Take my advice, your life is about to get VERY busy and you're gonna be beyond tired for a while. Make the most of the next month or so and RELAX. Spend quality time with Hubby/Ptnr and your 1yr old and get plenty of rest.
Oh, and good luck!!
2006-11-07 01:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 08:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a typical Momzilla with the first kid. It seems rather "normal" that with the first kid everything has to be just so. Now with that under your belt, you can focus on what truly will make your new kid happy. Its going to be 3 times the work with 2 kids than it is with just one kid but you ll get twice as much love back. Lots of happiness to all.
2006-11-06 18:26:45 · answer #6 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really don't understand. You have some experience now, and you know what's necessary. So get whatever is necessary - you still have at least a month to do that, and you really don't need more than 1-2 days. Just go to a store and buy whatever you need. So, there is no reason to feel guilty, just correct things if you feel something's wrong!
2006-11-06 18:19:24 · answer #7 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No that is normal I think, I did with my first I had all the trimmings and more, the second it wasn't like that we had the basics but no cot, babies don't need as much as we think they do they need somewhere to sleep, something to eat, cloths to wear, and lots and lots of love... Don't feel guilty. good luck with the birth and I wish you the best in the future.
2006-11-06 18:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, I wish I could be like that. I am pregnant w/ my 3rd & each time need to get it all (they are not far apart) I throw out what we do have & have to get the brand new. My husband thinks I am nut & so do I, my kids never used ther swings but yet I will buy another for this one , thinking well maybe. You are right I am wrong!
2006-11-06 18:29:38 · answer #9 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋