Do you think the phrase "told you so" should be said when you know now is the time to say it if any?

Question

I told my husband something about life 17 years ago...the are coming true should I keep smiling like I always have or should I say "told you so"

The told you so was when his two daughters were very young 4 and 8 and the divorce was final and we started our life together.
All the dysfunctional stuff with his ex wife started, and he was braking our phones after slamming them down many of times...I said to him commonly you know honey when they grow up and have lives of there own just remember they will do and be what you two make them as the years have gone by he saw what I was talking about........ Funny how life has its way of working out.....Should I say " told you so"

Marko F~ is that not 4 hearts......

Answer 1

He already knows you were right and neither needs nor wants to hear it from you. You've "won" already. Leave it at that.

As Kenny Rogers once said in his famous song The Gambler,

"You got to know when to hold em, know when to fold em,
Know when to walk away and know when to run."

Well, misschatea, you're already holding a Royal Flush. This ain't the time to draw another card.

Answer 2

Yeah, but try not to mock him though. It's your chance to prove him wrong. ;)

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I just came back to this question and after I read all the answers below me, I have to stress, because I find the situation quite ironic: SAY IT. It doesn't matter whether you do or not, it's just a phrase. Besides, he probably knows it as well. He obviously realizes that you were right and that you know you were right.

And I highly doubt a mere phrase would be able to hurt him, seeing as you have told him the same thing already, even though phrased differently. Trust me, it's no big deal. Besides, he has to know how you think on the inside. Keeping this from him is like lying and it's also pretty ridiculous to hide your opinions, seeing as they wouldn't do any harm. I never hide my thoughts from my family because this kind of behaviour would kill the naturality between us and it would create hypocrisy. And if you kill naturality, then you kill the closeness.

Answer 3

Absolutely not. He can look back on his life and how they've turned out and he will remember your words. You don't need to remind him that you were right.

And Marko is right...a Royal Flush is the best hand to have.

Answer 4

Sounds like you're just looking for an opportunity to gloat, which isn't healthy and won't accomplish anything positive.

If, however, he is stubborn and you still see him repeatedly making the same mistakes that led you to make that statement in the first place it might be the time to, as diplomatically as possible, remind him that behavior didn't serve him well in the past.

Answer 5

No, you definately should not.

There are a lot of terrible phrases in the english language, but that one has got to be in the top ten!

It does NO good, is completely unhelpful to the situation, and only directs anger your way.

Answer 6

no dear....save "i told you so" for after the pain stops. in this case, it might never happen....besides don't you just know that he's all tensed up waiting for it. he can probably hear it echoing in his skull anyway!

Answer 7

what will you accomplish by saying that i told you so,but you can say remember when i said....,it is pretty much the same,but this is not going to bother him as much,as i told you so.

Answer 8

not if you want to keep your husband. just keep smiling and saying it on the inside

Answer 9

na

Answer 10

say it