my mother in law hates me...i dont know why...but i guess i have not lived upto her STANDARDS..ot whatever...
finally me and my hausband after 4 years are moving into my own house...only 10 days are left for that...but she is not tlaking to me and giving me a lot of attitude...i wanna leave and goto my oms and stay there till my new house is ready to live in..
u think it is the right decision..
my father in law will do whatever my mother in law says....i have no support sys there...sometimes not even my husband..
please help
2006-11-06 17:59:55 · 15 answers · asked by happinezz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You only have 10 days left. You put up with her all these time already so 10 days will fly by. If I were you I would just stay there, try to avoid her whenever possible. You moving to your mother's house will make this situation worst. Tell you something your mother in law will never be happy if she's not willing to accept you in the family , That's her lost! You are moving out soon and you will live your life. You don't have to see her again. If she's going to be mean and rude than cut her out of your life. If anything your husband should support you. My mother in law is the same way too. She never have nice things to say about me or towards me. Good thing she lives out of state where I only have to see her once a yr. Bottom line is treat her the way she treats you. If she's not nice to you don't be nice to her. Let her taste her own medicine.
2006-11-06 18:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Study and Job both together good must be very tiring and then taking care of the home. Following suggestion may help. 1. It is better you hire someone to take care of your mother in law. 2. You cant change your mother in law so adjust to the situation. Move out frequently for dates with your hubby and enjoy life. Watch movie do things that make you happy. 3 Keep your self busy at home, Just ignore bitter words and move on, everyone has right to speech. Mother in laws are special give her some care, buy her some dresses, take her out too and see the difference. Best of luck
2016-05-22 06:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear you are in this situation it sounds rough not having anyone but think of it this way after 4 years 10 more days isnt alot, if you find it absolutely unbearable then do what you must i dont think you are wrong for leaving but if you can stick it out thats cool as well I think your getting anxious and the tension in the house is bothereing you more then it would be so to get you through this short time just think about how happy you will be in your wonderful house and how soon it will be happening right in time for the holidays have fun and god bless
2006-11-06 18:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by kingpin420420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mother in laws can be a pain. You just need to be you and not let her change you. Remember that it is your husband that you love... the in-laws just come along as part of the package. Most of the time people are always going to think that their kids could have done better... it is not a reflection on you. I believe you should stick to your guns and live where ever your husband is staying until your home is ready... screw them! Remember too that the tension puts your husband in a bind... sure he loves you but it is hard to be caught between your wife and your Mom... it is a no win situation for him... just never allow your mother in law to drive you away from your husband!
2006-11-06 18:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is true with 80% of indian bahu's. reson is very simple , at time time of her marriege she has not enjoyed so much respect,love,sharing,outing form her husband , now she is old and her beuti has gone she also has jeulous of uer beuti and more-over she has joulous to share their son with a woman who takes more care of his then herself. so dont feel panic , u shld be confidnt enough to face uer m-in-l coz if u believe in uer self , she couldnot do anything harm to u ,uer happyness and uer happily married life , when u have spend 4 yr then why u want to go to uer parents just for ten more days , u just pass on time , u have everythiong which that poor lady dont have so dont move from uer house and dont do any silly things which make u answerable in eyes of uer husband , u have to just use uer brain and feel that u have everything i.e. beuti,love,.care and trust (if u have) that no one have, man only want to see u happy without any trouble so make him feel that u r comfortable in every situation u r in , but also tell uer problems when he asks u .all the best , may uer married life do well ,
2006-11-06 18:17:05 · answer #5 · answered by satya c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must be happy for your id is happinezz...am just making the situation light. i have same problem with you. do not worry about what others says and what your standard must be....you are definitely perfect...what is important is the relationship between you and your husband......mother in law are naturally like that, sometimes they are just jealous or insecure with their son..... stay with your husband, extend your patience anyway it will not take long you will have your own home and you will be the queen there. as of now you have to respect your mother in law. if she says that is hurting just ignore as long that it is not true, let her talk and in that way you will win your husbands heart more.....and in God's eye you will be precious because HE ask us to respect our father and mother... you earn credit and you will be more at peace within you .... no burden at all....and earn the respect to yourself and others. Good luck and God Bless!
2006-11-06 19:29:05 · answer #6 · answered by picturesque 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She dont hate you honey......she just loves her baby...(your husband)....and it sounds like she is having a problem coming to terms with the fact that you will have him and she wont....(Have you live with her for 4 yrs???).....Try to be civil, but don't plug into her attitudes and moods. Its really not about you, but its easier for her to project her anxiety and fear of losing her son onto you.....God....some mamas and their boys.......father in law aint gonna say nothing honey.....he's gotta live w/her when you'all are gone......He just want to survive on the down low......Good Luck...I feel for you.....My mother in law gave me HELL.....I learned how to work around her....smiling all the while....
IT aint easy...by no means...but it can be done
2006-11-06 18:10:53 · answer #7 · answered by Lrn'dTheHardWay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you do you're wrong. I'm divorced so I'm not the best person to give advice on in-laws. Either way, I won't let them bully me. Treat them the way you treat people you have to work with and don't like. Professionally.
2006-11-06 18:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Worst Person is......mother-in-law.
I think she is oxic parent.
Her words are calculated to make people feel guilty.
And the obtain what she wants by underhand means.
2015-05-30 11:33:04 · answer #9 · answered by Yhahoou 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stick it out to show that you are taking the high road. After you move and have your own house then you can be on equal ground.
2006-11-06 18:24:30 · answer #10 · answered by sugarmonkey47 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋