What does a mean REALLY mean when he says "It's a woman thing."?

Question

I told a "friend" (I've been a great friend and listener the last few months as he recovers from getting his heart ripped out by a woman) who, when I said that on my 40th birthday I'd like swim with dolphins (and I've been through a lot the last decade and he knows it) said "Oh, yeah, that's a woman thing." He's said that several times before about other things and each time I feel like it's really condescending. Is that a sexist comment? Seems to me anyone with an open heart, a love of nature and animals and any sense of fun, would enjoy swimming with dolphins. So what's he really saying?! Thanks much...(and no replies from the abusive losers who just like to show the world how much pain they're in by posting abusive or flip responses. I will report you.)

I don't buy the "men are more logical thing." They really enjoy/need our attention/support and empathy but can't bring themselves to offer it in return? That argument works for me if men didn't need the very thing they claim they are incapable of offering in return. And this is the guy who told me more than a few times "I should feel privileged" when he chose to confide something to me. Hours of listening to him without judgement and when you need support in return -- sorry, he's a man, wired differently, can't give back. You're "just a woman". If that's truly the case with men, then they need to recognize it and stop asking women to take three hours out of their life every night to validate their pain.

Answer 1

I think it means he is still swimming with the sharks of his mind,Dolphins Rule by the way,did you go ,do not delay it is awesome

Answer 2

I think you should ask him and Ms. Switch here has some good suggestions. You bring up some excellent points and yes, we should validate you especiallyt if you have spent hours validating us (guys.)

Women are great; we can talk to you about almost anything. Women are very supportive and many times it takes a woman to help a guy get out of his shell/achieve out of life what he is supposed to.

However I've read that it doesn't always translate back that way (that us guys don't always have enough patience with you ladies.)

I think being aware, being open and trying to learn are important per communication. Women and men lead seperate lives and have different tastes and ideas.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Saying a 'woman thing" isn't condescending it's just pointing out a fact. The thought process of men vs women is very different. Try reading "Men are from Mars and Women from Venus." A female friend recommended it to me and it was surprisingly enlightening. Women in general are more romantic and men more logical.

Answer 4

i always get this feeling that men say this, when they really mean, " I dont understand you"...which means they just dont get it..there is no such thing as a man or a woman's thing...it's a personal preference that's all. Tell your friend that it's ur personality to love animals, and this is what you dreamt of doing, and it has nothing to do with gender....it isnt liek all the dolphin trainers are only females..huh...ermmm......

Answer 5

I'd find out from him if I were you. Just say "I don;t know what that means..." or "I'm not sure what you're telling me."

If you can do this without being frustrated with him, you may be surprized at what you learn about him.

PS Or maybe the woman who ripped his heart out swam with dolphins ....

Answer 6

It sounds like it is just his one liner. Don't take it personally.

Answer 7

What do you mean what does a mean mean?

Answer 8

he probably didn't mean it