how can divorces be prevented?

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Answer 1

In my opinion a lot of divorces can be prevented if we all learn how to uphold our marriage vows and realize that we are meant to live by those vows everyday for the rest of our lives together.

Answer 2

For some people a divorce is inevitable. I think that the key to preventing a divorce is to start working on your marriage before you even get married! That way you are better prepared for what you are getting yourself into. You may find that you're not right for each other before you make such a big committment. My fiancee (now husband) and I went to a marriage counselor before we got married and I feel that we use the things we learned from those experiences all the time. They can help you think about and prepare for things to come (finances, children, your status in the home). They also give you ideas on how to resolve disagreements and how to express frustration.

Answer 3

marriage has been an institution for the protection of wives and children for thousands of years, in all cultures. Divorce wasn't much of a problem until our world became industrialized, allowing men and women to meet in the workplace, and most important, everyone now lives longer...at least in first world countries. A child can expect to live to be in their 70's. If one is already 60, the age of death is averaged to be in the early 90's. One hundred years ago, half of all children born died before they were one year old -- (here in the u.s.) In third world countries, it is still the case. In New England, in any graveyard, there will be a man buried and his six wives next to him, all died, say in childbirth or in childbed. As well, a woman with her 4 husbands buried next to her -- all injured in logging or farm accidents. Those kinds of deaths don't happens much anymore since modern medicine can save just about any injury from becoming infected, and few women die during childbirth, or of infection after having a child. So, how to prevent divorce??? die early, would be one way.... Divorce is still rare in rural China...for all of these reasons. Divorce is not necessarily bad... there is no reason to spend good years being miserable in an abusive marriage, for example. Perhaps we should make marriage more difficult, and birth control put in the water. This way, no child would be born that was not wanted, there would be no "illegitimate" children, and therefore no law suits for child support. The government would give each couple a chemical to over-ride the water..... (Don't laugh, it has been suggested......not by me, but by some....)

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Answer 4

Marry the right person in the first place and stay faithful at any cost. Don't get married too young as that is always a problem these days. Grow up first. get married when you are about 24 or so and after you have dated the person for a few years and it should work out OK if you stay faithful to each other.

Answer 5

They can be prevented if people make better choices of who to marry and why. Most of us have a fairytale romantic idea of what love is. We get hooked on how a person makes us feel instead of being mutually hooked on each other. We put expectations on what will be, then we are disappointed when our expectations aren't met.

We often marry because it is time in our life to do so. Or we are insecure about being on our own and figure the person in our life will meet our needs. We compermise because the romantic part of love clouds our better judgment.

We marry and put up with stuff that we never should put up with because we saw our parents do it. We have children becasue that is what we are suppose to do.

We think if we love deep enough that person will love us in return. We think love means sacrifice because we think that will endear us to the one we love.

We live the others persons version of life and forget what we wanted in life. Then we are angry and bitter because they failed us.

We believe the saying that Love conquers all. It doesn't.

Do I sound jadded? A bit, but I still believe in love and commitment. I just won't let myself make another mistake.

A really good book to read is ARE YOU THE ONE FOR ME
It helped me define what sort of person I need in life and eliminate men who woudln't be good for me. I can see the red flags clearly now.

Answer 6

don't get married in the first place... so simple every one should know this one. marriage is for those that are willing to work at it everyday, knowing that all days will not be heaven on earth but living hell, learning to work together and communication between partners are just some of the keys that you need to have to build a marriage that can withstand devastating blows, even when you think you can take no more you have to tell yourself that its worth just one more day. working together is the only way to over come any problems in a relationship.

Answer 7

Don't get married. Be realistic divorce is better than living in Hell. In countries where divorce isn't legal the couples just separate and move in with another mate eventually. So the result is the same as here.

Answer 8

some people shouldn't marry each other...if they didn't get married they wouldn't get divorced. Marriage counseling doesn't always work. It's often just a "bandaid" to cover a larger and deeper wound and it doesn't work when neither spouse is willing to communicate. That is why it is so important for both partners to communicate exactly what they want/don't want in a marriage BEFORE they get married.

Answer 9

First of all both people involved have to truly love each other and be willing to sacrifice part of themselves to create a life together. The biggest part of keeping things healthy is communication and trust. You need to be able to talk about everything openly and honestly. Keeping things in allows anger to grow and dark feelings to fester... It is not about being perfect but it is about learning from each other and forgiving each other. I believe in the old adage "Don't go to sleep angry". Marriage is not just a vow you take once, it is a choice that you continue to make everyday... when it works it is God's greatest gift and when it fails it ruins lives.

Answer 10

You need to communicate with each other. There is always going to be ups and downs in marriage no one ever said that it is going to be easy. Never go to bed angry with each other. I know easier said than done. You also need to trust each other. Don't give your partner any reason not to trust you. Its going to be hard but it can be done. My grandparents were together over 50 yrs before my grandfather past away and my parent have been together for 28 yrs and still very much in love.
Just always remember that you married that person for a reason.