i dont know if i love my future husbent i think i still love my exboyfriend but we cant be together.please tell me what can i do to love him
2006-11-06 17:03:02 · 11 answers · asked by dollface 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't make yourself love anyone anymore than you make someone love you. Let him go so he can be with some one who will love and cherish him.
2006-11-06 17:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easier to leave someone you don't love than to stay with him .
You can't do anything to fall in love with someone, love just happens. You can't make it happen. But you sound confused, and you're not even really sure if you love your fiance?! Why are you leading him on and letting him think that you do love him? A marriage is hard enough when you love someone, let alone when you don't.
You should leave that poor man that is engaged to you so that he can eventually find someone that will love him the way deserves. And as for you, you need to be on your own for a while to figure things out. In time you will stop loving your ex boyfriend as well, and then hopefully one day you will find and marry a man that you actually love.
Do the right thing. It will pay off in the end.
2006-11-07 03:16:47 · answer #2 · answered by Das 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really lvoe your boyfriend anymore than you do. If your ex and yourself can't be together anymore, then it's time for you to move on and focus a little more on your current boyfriend. What's past is past, no matter how much you want it, you can't change what happened. Tell yourself that your futire boyfriend deserves love too. If he's your future husband, then you may be in for some hard work. Love takes hard work too dear. I'm not saying completely FORGET your ex, just focus less on him and more on your future husband. :)
2006-11-07 01:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by <*) ) )>< 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dollface if you 'don't think' you love your future husband but seem to "know" that you love your ex, whether you can be with him or not, I'd say check out of the situation you are in.
If you love someone you know it. If you don't love your future husband, let him go for someone who will love him.
This sounds like a situation of convenience, all for your own sake.
Noone can make someone love another! That's rediculous!!
2006-11-07 01:14:28 · answer #4 · answered by opinionative_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to learn to finish your cup of tea you have prior to ordering another. you need to be honest with your present BF and put everything on hold, this will come and haunt you farther down the road if you don't fix it now. you are about to stand up and repeat to each other words of trust, honesty, loving only one till death do you part, and among others that really don't mean anything to you so my next question to you is will the words from your husband telling you that he's been cheating on you bother you? you need to grow up, playing with others isn't the way to start off a relationship.
2006-11-07 01:21:45 · answer #5 · answered by brian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa? You think you're still in love with someone else? Don't get married. This will come back to haunt both of you and can only lead to a terribly messy, painful, and destructive divorce.
2006-11-07 03:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay single for awhile till your emotions settle down. When you have some part of your life to share with someone, rather than just wanting them, you'll be able to maintain a relationship.
2006-11-07 01:18:49 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not possible for you to make yourself love someone. First you need to put the past relationship in the past then you will be able to move on.
2006-11-07 01:12:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My goodness!!! You also cannot decided for yourself how can you asked others to decide for you. The best way is to make your own decision.
2006-11-07 01:06:25 · answer #9 · answered by Larisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not sure about the love for this man don't get marry, that would be a big mistake.
2006-11-07 01:08:42 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋