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Sticky situation here. I am in the process of a divorce. I ran into my former ex bf from 5 years ago and we hooked up. Here is where it gets sticky. His house burned down shortly after we fought about nothing. He moved in with his ex wife and it's been purely like roommates. His ex and I are like friends. So, we've been seeing each other for a while now. We made a mistake and went too far, from which I could be pregnant. He called me later on that day and said that he will do whatever I want, including moving in together. I think he's already started that, becuase he phoned me saying that his ex turned out to be jealous and that she had given him three weeks to move out. He wants this to go as smoothly as possible, so he asked me not to call for a couple of weeks to avoid any more trouble. I know for a fact they are not doing anything from knowing his ex so well and having gotten close. The three weeks thing, is he really working no getting out or is he running?

I am in the middle of a divorce from an extremely abusive man. I have two children. It's not easy to just pick up and move. He was already living there when it happened, and I am still in the house, although he is not and is living with his friends. I was set to move in with my mom in a couple of weeks.

Answer 1

it's only 3 weeks. don't "what if" yourself crazy. trust him untill he gives you a reason not to. write him letters, things you want to say to him and plan on giving them to him when u are able to be with him. wheather you ever do is up to you and how you feel about it when he comes. the letters aren't for him. they're for you to get your thoughts and feelings out so you don't explode.. give him the benifit of the doubt. can you call him at work, or email him, or text message his cell when he's out of the house? be creative, understand his situation and try to make it easy for him. if you end up looking like a fool later, look at it as a lesson learned and move on. at least you'll have a beautiful child to share your life with, even if you do'nt get to share your life with him. some of us have tried for years to concieve, so i consider everyone that is able to get pregnant lucky. i know some pregnancies are unwanted for a lot of reasons, but if you are pregnant, look at this as a chance for you to be a mother. just trust him. if he doesn't contact you when the 3 weeks are up, then u try to contact him and if he doesn't tell you what you want to hear.... then to go the doctor before you get upset, and make sure that you are in the situation that you think you're in. save the emotions untill you know the whole story..... "what if" really can drive you crazy... best wishes honey..

Answer 2

You lost this battle when you let it get "sticky", so to speak.

No matter what happens now or in three weeks, this is a mess that is only going to get messier.

How could you involve yourself and your two children in such a fix while you were trying to get out from an abusive relationship and rebuild your life? You've just traded one disaster for another.

Disassociate yourself from the ALL of these people, and get your own life straightened out, legally, financially, and emotionally. Your kids deserve better than you are currently giving them.

I sure hope you aren't pregnant.

Answer 3

Why move in with his ex and not move in with you to start with? Why does he not want you to call he should tell his ex that he can get phone calls no matter who it is? Everything sounds fishy to me, keep a eye out on him.

Answer 4

After you caused him this kind of stress even though he is technically equally at fault, he will want to get away from you. Let him be.