okay well I had a baby in May and I have been on the depo every since that. I used to love to have sex now its liek I want to.. but i dont its like weird i love him i really want to make love to him I jus I dont knoe my energy feels drained but I want to he thinks I am not attracted to him/in love with him at all I try and explain that you dont have to be in have sex w/someone to love them but I did use to show it alot more I DONT KNOW HWTAS WRONG WITH ME is their anything I can do to boost my sex drive or whatever???
THANX
2006-11-06 16:54:08 · 19 answers · asked by mattysmommy18 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
does the depo have anything to do w/it.... Oh well I have been on ym period like Um 2 and a half months now LOL sorry for tha males!!
2006-11-06 16:56:41 · update #1
3 times a day---now 3 times a week THATS SOO BAD does this happen to women after they have children...maby?
2006-11-06 16:57:45 · update #2
I mena even with me doing nothing at all i feel like that... I mena him takin tha baby all day I jus want to but MAN this sux yall!!
2006-11-06 16:58:53 · update #3
I try and communicate.. but he says Im a tease and it pisses him off I dont mean too I really dont I just want to make him happy I mean weve been together for 2 years and have a child and home toether... I just I wanna be normal again i WANNA BE A FREAK AGAIN LOL when tha babys asleep LOL
2006-11-06 17:01:03 · update #4
Oh Honey. Go talk to your doctor. Your hormone levels may be low or too high. Simple medication can fix this and it is short term and you won't have to stay on it forever..a good diet, plenty of rest and exercise helps out a lot too....It takes a little while before you go back to normal..but I know what a strain this puts on a relationship.
2006-11-07 02:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by ReRe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you have to do is relax...stop thinking about it. You're putting extra strain on yourself that's keeping your body from getting turned on.
If you can get someone (other than him so he can spend the time with you and maybe pamper you some) to watch the baby for a day so you can have some time for yourself, that will really help. When you do, enjoy your day, don't think about baby or sex just think about you and relax. When your mind and body are refreshed, you won't have to try to get turned on. It's gonna hit you like a ton of bricks and he'd better be well rested too 'cause he'll be needing the extra energy!
2006-11-07 01:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by AngelEyes7780 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU JUST HAD A BABY your body is going through stuff I can't explain. tell your boo you love him and you are having some woman issues. as far as the depo that thing is crazy and will have you going through mood swings and it also affects your sex drive. the depo make you loose your period and gain weight and also makes you very aggressive and angry. get another for of birth control. if you know you are going to have only one partner or you are married or are sure you will use a condom, I would suggest getting and IUD. It's a plastic and copper T- shaped copper stick that is inserted into your uterus and stays for 5-10 years. I have much more to say but i can't
2006-11-07 01:05:56 · answer #3 · answered by sngozig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that you are too tired at the wrong time. Mothers who have recently had a baby are usually very exhausted after being up and down changing diapers, feeding baby and trying to find out why the baby is crying etc. Ask hubby to be patient for a while until the baby is a little older. If he really lovese you he should be more understanding.
2006-11-07 01:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i tried the depo i was nuts. my suggeston get some sleep..lol that helps i have 2 kids. and then go out to eat have a quiet night with the lucky man. and i would try the iud for birth control its great i swear by it..seriously look into it. i dont suggest the depo for anybody it has done something wierd to everybody i know..its not normal to have that many hormones pumped into you at once it takes like 10 months to be completely normal after that shot.
2006-11-07 01:03:11 · answer #5 · answered by entrknmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time people who have children do not have as much sex as they did prior to children. Many women after having a baby don’t feel as sexy as they did prior to it, your not alone. Perhaps it’s the body way to try and prevent another pregnancy so soon after having a baby. I would say just give it time it’s bound to come back eventually. Try and spend one night a week alone with your husband if you can, you don’t have to have sex just be together, go to a movie just to make out , or cuddle. Talk to your husband tell him how you feel.
2006-11-07 01:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that about you..but for the best part a lot of woman go through what your going through..your hormones are not where they need to you can go to your ob-gyn and have them run test on your hormone level and can give you a hormone replacement. another way you can try to solve the problem take yourself away from the everyday stress baby and spend time with your man and enjoy all parts of making love to him just relax and see if that will work.
2006-11-07 01:02:51 · answer #7 · answered by alease74 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well having a baby to take care of can drain you, try to do some new things or add something fun to your sex life like oils and toys and see if that helps
2006-11-07 00:56:56 · answer #8 · answered by Brooke R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May. This is november. It can sometimes take a year to get back to your pre-birth levels. Do NOT force it. At the very least, be physically close, even if you do not feel like sex, to let him know you still care.
And talk. Communication is the key
2006-11-07 00:56:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a baby sitter for a weekend and have a date with your husband. You are probably sleep deprived and that's the reason you don't have any energy. Eat lots of fruit that might help boost you up.
2006-11-07 00:57:28 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋