I'm 19 years old and beginning to feel like I want to have a baby.?

Question

I know it's not a good idea. That I should get my education and get a steady job and relationship. But lately I've been having very strong maternal feelings. I feel like I can't wait to start a family. Is this normal? Do other girls my age feel this way?

I know it's not a good idea. That I should get my education and get a steady job and relationship. But lately I've been having very strong maternal feelings. I feel like I can't wait to start a family. Is this normal? Do other girls my age feel this way?

Okay I guess I need to clarify something. I am in school. I'm at a University, in fact I'm in the honors program. I never said that I was planning on having a baby. I said I know its a bad idea. Don't worry I will wait until I'm done with college. I don't even plan on getting married before graduation. Also I ment to say this before but I'm not an average teen, never have been. I don't like partying, drink, etc. I'm a home body. I like to hang out with my family and crochet, and that kind of stuff. I'm smarter than what some people think I would not be stupid enough to bring a child into the world now. I just thought it odd that I'm having these feelings.

Answer 1

Yeah don't worry, I think it's a normal part of being a woman. At your age though, I'd be getting a puppy first. A puppy has definitely put me off the idea of having kids any time soon. He costs enough money and takes enough devotion in that I could only imagine a child would be a million times harder.

Answer 2

I had these urges since I was 15 years old.

I waited and waited and waited to have a child. I'm now 23 years old, high school and college education under my belt, ability to get a job anywhere (gotta love the nursing field), and I have a nest-egg built up. I have a 3 month old daughter.

Let me tell ya - the wait is WELL worth it.

So honestly, if you want to have the best time of your life, finish out your high school/college education, save back some money, make sure you have a great job, get married (or make sure you have a significant other who is definitely going to be there for you and the baby, longterm), THEN have the baby. Trust me - you'll thank yourself for waiting!

*hugs*

Answer 3

I was 18 when I was pregnant (now 28) Had my daughter right after I turned 19 and it wasnt easy. I had to learn to mature quicker than other girls my age. I was lucky though. I learned to be a better parent over the years and I think it helped in learning responsibility at 19. There are downsides. You loose alot of freedom u once had. I just moved out of my parents house and a year later I was pregnant. Oh, and married. So, I didnt have much time to have fun. But, I love my daughter and I get compliments on how great of a mother I am. She is a blessing to me and oh I almost forgot..... she is into jeans, diaries, boys without cooties and still picks flowers for her Mother.

Answer 4

Just what the world needs. Another mouth to feed because "you feel like you want a baby".

Strong maternal feelings are the reason that the human race continues. But be sensible. There are lots of very young, regretful mothers who got pregnant because they "wanted a baby." No thought beyond that.

You have time, you are 19. Remember you will be 40 some day. Do you want to be a grandmother at 40 because that could be a real possibility if you had a child next year.

Answer 5

I think that it is awsome that u want a baby and want to b a mom but just remember they arent babies long they become children and then teens and then adults, trust me i have 3 they r HANDFULS and a newborn needs alot of attention. R u willin to give up everything is the question u need to ask ur self. I love every second i spend with my kids, but its hard to find a sitter to get out 4 a feww minutes. I would really wiat if i were u cos u have ur whole life.

Answer 6

Do yourself a favor, and give yourself a chance to live your own life before you devote your life to someone else. Children are a full time commitment, and you will be a better parent if you have your own life experiences to tell your child about. It is normal for some women to have strong maternal feelings, but you should consider babysitting for a friend instead of rushing into having your own child now.

Answer 7

I think is great and completely natural that you want to be a mother. But make sure that you truly want to be a mother who will benefit your children. Children do best when they are in the care of two loving parents who will support them and be able to provide for them properly. That means that it would be irresponsible of you to go out and get pregnant now, because your future child/ren would not have the benefit of being born within a loving stable family with two married parents who could take care of them. Wait until you are married.

Answer 8

I think some girls just have a stronger maternal instinct than others. You sound like you're on the right track with school...once you finish and you're in a solid relationship, if you still feel this strongly that you want children, go for it! It's difficult, but rewarding.

Answer 9

its very normal to have this kind of feelings. this normally happens if u are a protective kind of person and always running around to protect your friends from difficulties. then you feel that u want someone of ur very own as the friends desert u. but let me tell you that reality is not so easy. once you have child your life is going to change by 180 degrees. so its better to wait and enjoy your singlehood life to your fullest. else you will get frustrated after 1-2 years of child birth and start hating the child itself. so wait and watch. you seem to be very smart and matured.

Answer 10

I never did that young!! School girl, school!! I'm thinking maybe you're around people that are having babies, friends/family? The good thing is you know what you want and you want children and to be a mother. Just give yourself time wait. In the mean time babysit for some friends or family with a young child. I'm sure after that you'll want to wait..lol