men please answer why do men cheat on there wives?

Question

I have been married for 20 yrs we were engaged for 6 yrs before that. My husband cheated on me about 11 yrs ago. I found out after it was all done. The woman called me and told me about it and said I should know. My son was almost a yr old at that time. I was not working. In a new state and alone so I had a fight with him and stayed. I had another baby a year ago today.. He started talking to this lady at work now it is more than just talking checked his phone he has pictures of her just say without clothing and txt msg that say how much he loves her and she loves him. But at the same time he sends me txt msg that he loves me and wants to work things out. He refuses counceling and says they are only friends. He goes to church with her and refuses to go with me..why ????

Answer 1

"why do men cheat on there wives" correct question is "why do people cheat on their spouses" this is just the way some people can get the feeling of being younger without thinking of the ones at home and being hurt, the words "I'm sorry" may fix the glass on the floor in Pieces but not the feeling of having your partner cheating on you, you know what you need to do, get yourself out of the home and file, you need to see that there are men out there that will treat you as the queen that you are and finding one will be one of the simplest things to do, start off by treating your self as number one and under standing that this was done to you, not your doing at all. get rid of the dog and never look back. i see to many reasons why not to stay in this relationship. open your eyes and get on with your life...

Answer 2

In the prior years of my marriage I almost cheated on my wife twice. When it almost came down to it I had to stop! D*MN *T! But not later in my marriage, and for different reasons (nothing to do with the wife-but the relationship between us) I would cheat on my wife. Our marriage isn't what it used to be in those past years. We've been married for 23 years now. I almost cheated on her when we were married about 14 years I believe. I just recently, not looking, met a woman who was beautiful in everyway from personality to emotion to everyway. We started out as friends and as time went past we began having more than just friendship. I must say, we only had an emotional relationship with each other. But I never thought I could find another woman being 49! Because I'm married, she wouldn't take the relationship any further. I'm trying to get the relationship back to being at least friends again. I just couldn't let her leave me, my emotions wouldn't let her. I've calmed down, now I want that friendship that was so good, too.

Answer 3

Why does it matter why they cheat? Not all men cheat, but the ones that do just do.

The question I think you should be asking is, why do women stay with men that cheat on them? (At least, that's the question I have.)

And, by the way, this guy isn't cheating on you. He's making no attempt whatsoever to cover anything up. He is openly humiliating you and the marriage vows that he made to you 20 years ago. He has broken his promise to you. The commitment is over.

Find a lawyer and leave this loser. Get your life back and build yourself up again. You've got a lot of life left to live. Start today.

Answer 4

I am a woman. From personal experience, a nice man (not a womanizing asshole) cheats on his wife because in some way or another the wife is not fulfilling her wifely duties to him.

I have to commend you for sticking with him until your son is grown...that shows a lot of good character and a good mom. I don't really know what to tell you because maybe you are the perfect wife. Or maybe you aren't. More information in reference to your behavior would be helpful in answering this question.

Good book to read is "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" by Dr. Laura.

Answer 5

ok.like wat the previous answer says.."men likes variety".he already has you in his hands,he took it for granted.he thinks u cant divorce bcos of the children.he also wana show his friends how cool of him to have more than 1 women...i do feel angry for you now.how dare the fella walk into the church by doing this sort of stuff.wat a b_stard...i will not suggest u to divorce(think for the children..).threaten him to quit it or u will tell some1 who he respect(his mum or dad).catch him at the church and scold him publicly if u r not afraid of embarassement.or tell the priest!all this are last solutions if he doesnt want to change.actually,there is another way too...i prefer u to use this(u mite not 1 to)..make urself pretty.slim and beautiful and gorgeous.thats the peaceful way.and then he will choose u to bring to church...

Answer 6

Men cheat on their wives for the same reason wives cheat on their husbands---They are f**king IDIOTS!!! My ex wife did the exact same thing to me that your husband did to you, even down to the church part. If you can repair your marriage, great!! If he doesn't want to fix it, then I would go. Just as my wife told me: She wanted to have her cake and eat it too. I wasn't having it, and you shouldn't have it either.

Answer 7

Men cheat because their idiots, leave his cheating @ss and take him for everything he has, no woman should go through what you are going through, especially if he is taking the other woman to church.

Answer 8

of course, he's sending you messages to cover up his guilt. . now he is immature, yes? he wants his cake an eat it too?. or you or not giving him what he wants in bed. he is bored with yu. i realize you have babies. that make yu tired at the end of the day. but you have choosen to spend you life with him not your kids. he needs to come first.
i'm not trying to say that this is your fault. some men need more than others to be content. you must find out from him, what that is. men HAVE to have good sex in as marriage. and of course he's with these people more than he is with you. and it takes him away. and he needs to grow up and you must help him. good luck

Answer 9

Sweetheart...I don't want to say once a cheater always a cheater..but...I'm not sure how to say this...he's a bum...if he has problems...and he refuses help...well...I know you have a lot of time invested in him...You sound like a good woman to put up with his crap so long...and you can do better...

Answer 10

Sextual attraction towards other lady is most common and natural.As much u bother he will be more provoked to do.Try to attract him towards you by your good deeds and behaviour. I bet he will not go out for outside stuff which is always harmful and costly.