what is management of envy?

Question

how you show your envy?

Answer 1

Contentment is the answer. Thenhow to be contended with what we have. learn to appreciate when an other person is better than you and the hatred and envy will disappear. This also helps a calm mind to do better in your interests.
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Answer 2

I'm among the people who don't have a shred of envy, so my instinct is to say that you don't manage envy - you just tell yourself to get rid of it altogether if it shows up.

I've never understood why people will be envious of others because the person next door or next cubicle down could win the lottery or the Nobel prize or the Miss Universe contest or could lose his/her home, money, health, and looks - and either way, it really is of no consequence to anyone but the person who goes through or has whatever it is that someone else envies.

If you realize that there's room for everybody to be wealthy or educated or beautiful and that when other people are whatever it is its of no consequence to you; you may be able to stop feeling envy (I'd think).

If you generally like other people you won't begrudge them their good things. If you generally like yourself (even if you don't quite have everything you wish you did) you won't feel threatened by what someone else has that you don't. If you generally like yourself and have the right priorities about what you value in life and in yourself you can probably generally like other people.

Finally, if there's something someone has accomplished or has that you wish you had realize if you work hard and make the right choices you can usually have whatever it is you envy. (I'm convinced it could be envy that is the root of all evil, so work on thinking it all out and coming around to realize that life isn't a game everyone is playing. Its a journey that is your own regardless of who has what along the way.)

Answer 3

Don't listen to LemonTea, she's full of crap.

We all have it, it is part of our biological makeup. To deny this is like denying that we need to breathe.

Envy by definition is wishing you had what others appear to have, that you admire. There is nothing wrong with this; it's a human emotion and a part of ALL of us (even YOU, LemonTea). It is NOT "the root of all evil" and should not be denied.

We should never attempt to control our emotions. That's about as realistic as attempting to control the rate at which our blood carries oxygen.

We CAN, however (and should) have total control over our behavior and our reactions.

It would help us to understand that our emotions are guided by our perceptions, which in turn are guided by our self-image and our past experiences.

The way we can manage our envy is to realize that we are ok as we are. We can allow ourselves to become motivated make some self-improvements. We should not allow ourselves to feel lacking (though it would be natural to feel that way). We should remember that there is ALWAYS somebody better, and worse than ourselves. There will always be those that have more than us, and less. We can appreciate ourselves for what we are and what we have by realizing that there are those who are worse off than us.

We could also compliment those we are envious of. We can turn our feelings of envy outward, into admiration. This is the best course of action in managing envy. It feels really good to make someone's day.