My best friend and i were planning to go on a holiday. We wanted a holiday were we could just sit on a beach or beside a pool and relax for about a week. We had been talking about it for about a year but we had both been too busy. Now i am not busy and neither is she and i asked her if she wanted to go to bali because flights were pretty cheap and ive bee nthere before and it was really nice. And anyway, she said to me "oh well this person (another friend of ours) has asked me to go to queensland on the gold coast for a week so i dont think i will be able to afford both". Now i am really angry with her and i am trying to control it and just get over it but its not like she invited me or asked me or anything like that, its just the two of them going and im angry because we had been talking about going on a holiday for ages. Do i have a right to be annoyed ?
2006-11-06 15:52:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The thing was that i am in a serious relationship and could have asked my boyfriend but she would have been annoyed if i went with him. So when i told my boyfriend about it he said we should just go together which is good but i still feel really rejected by my best friend who i have known since we were 4
2006-11-06 16:04:11 · update #1
YES, you have a right to be annoyed, but hey, be thankful for your boyfriend, go on the trip with him and have a great time.
2006-11-06 16:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by shadowdancr17 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like she did anything wrong. You said yourself that you both had been too busy, so what is your problem. I think you are jealous; and that is not a reason to be annoyed at her.
People have the right to live their lives, and to have more than one friend. She didn't diss you, she just made other plans with another friend who was less busy. It is not to say that she doesn't want to plan a holiday with you, it means she doesn't have the money for both right now. My advice is to give her more notice so she can organise money; and set a date to go...not just some day.
Sounds like you are going to have a nice holiday with your boyfriend, so you all win.
2006-11-07 03:43:50 · answer #2 · answered by chelles_insanity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, but being annoyed won't change things. Your best friend sounds very self-serving. Time for some new pals... and maybe find a singles travel group to go to Bali with. Don't forgo your holiday on her account! In fact, devote the energy you would have used being annoyed into finding a travel group to go with.
Contiki, Goway, Uniglobe, etc. all have travel for packages for singles.
2006-11-07 00:00:16 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are hurt more than annoyed, am I right ? and yes you have the right to feel that way.. I suggest you sit down with the *friend* and ask her why she made those plans and stood you up on the plans you made together.. maybe there is more to this than meets the eye, and maybe not... maybe your *friend* is not your best friend after all... but talking about it would be the adult thing to do, and then you can move on.... God bless
2006-11-07 00:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i can understand why you are upset but she may have been saying the same to the other one as well because she seems two faced & Bali is a bit scary also with all that has been happening there so that may be the reason as well.
but either way she is not a good friend to do that to you
she could have asked you to go with them.
I wouldn't trust her anymore really because that was mean what she did
2006-11-07 00:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She didn't do anything wrong. The other person asked her to go first. Unless you have the extra money to pay her way then you need to get over it and find someone else to go with you.
2006-11-06 23:59:19 · answer #6 · answered by tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should be upset, i would be. I cant tell you how to react but I would just tell her straight out...YA KNOW WE HAD PLANNED THIS FOR A YEAR...just to point out what she pulled. good luck
2006-11-07 00:00:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋