Any input on Borderline Personality Disorder, please!?

Question

I have had to walk on eggshells with my younger sibling my whole life. We are both in our 30's now, and I find that our relationship is pretty much the same as when we were kids. I won't get into the details of my sister's behavior except to say that I was doing some school research and came across a book on borderline personality disorder, and it describes my sister perfectly. I always thought she needed serious counseling, but never suspected anything to hit the mark so close.

I read the book and learned all about BPD. Now I want to know what do you think of BPD? Do you think it's B.S., or do you think it is a legitamate illness? It seemed to me that on one hand, they can't help their perspective of the world and are out of touch with reality,, and on the other hand they can control their actions but just let their imaginations get out of control.

Answer 1

It is not B.S. There have been many people diagnosed with BPD. It is a fascinating and complicated disease with almost a bipolar relationship with emotions and relationships. Through therapy in forms of counseling and possibly medication people with BPD can overcome their illnesses. I do however recommend that if you are truly concerned about your sister's well-being try to talk to her, or a therapist to go over what options you have open to alleviating symptoms if possible. You can also educate yourself about the disorder to try to understand further the problems that she is dealing with. I hope this helps!

Answer 2

Maybe you and your sister should both get some therapy. Some siblings will walk on the other emotionally and take charge. I can relate to this after reading about it. I think it's more common than most would suspect.I would also add that I think it's hereditary as well. This is why I had to separate myself from my family as much as possible. People who feel they are losing control of their lives need space to regain it not give it over to someone else. To me it's very much like burn out from stresses. There are medications but I think some people need to live simpler lives within their own means of capability not adding additional medications. She needs to be properly diagnosed by a professional. See if you could see a therapist together first. Trust issues are really important and the therapist is supposed to help with that.
http://www.stanford.edu/~corelli/borderline.html

Answer 3

Persons with BPD usually are the last persons in the world to admit they have a problem. They are usually diagnosed after they've driven other family members to seek help. No, it's not "BS", and is listed as a legitimate mental illness in the Diagnostic Symptoms Manual. See the below link for more information.

Answer 4

My brother is bi-polar bad. The situation is furthur magnified by the fact he loves himself and has no reguard or respect for anyone that can't serve him in some way. He's also smart and manipulative and believes he sits at the right hand of God and THAT makes him dangerous. Needless to say, we are bitter enemies and don't have any contact... for both our safety. BPD is very real and in my case should be left alone. I've written a relationship off for both our sakes.

Answer 5

GIRL I AM AS BPD AS IT GETS. self mutilation, anger, rage, depression, changes of mood frequently, crying a lot, i hate you don't leave me syndrome, abusive, desperate cries for help, (ie attmepting suicide but not really meaning to do it), outburts of anger that just arent controllable though others think they are., seems like dr. jekyll mr hyde living in there.

this is definitely a disease. they say it can be helped with pyschotherapy, i did that, it didnt work. some are worse than others. it does lead back to something though. there is probably a reason this happened or is happening to her. at least she knows something is wrong. thats the first step.


http://www.4degreez.com/misc/personality_disorder_test.mv

this is an excellent site. it will give you a feel for what she mgiht be like, have or for yourself. it is exactly right on for me

Answer 6

you can go to webmd.com and do a survey. BPD is thinking and actions that go from one extreme to the next. Better known as black and white thinking, there is no in between, no happy medium. It is difficult to live with someonelike that, I have it. If you want to compare notes, email me. But definitely check out webmed.

Answer 7

Do not jump to give a medical diagnosis this sounds like your relative is just an ugly American.The symptoms you list could be attributed to millions of people including yourself.Claiming someone is mentally ill when you do not like their childish personality is itself living in a fantasy world-gotcha!

Americans are emotionally deprived due to poor childhoods abandoned in front of the television.Are your best childhood memories in front of the television or interacting with people?Americans are not challenged to be rational because our economy depends on spoiled irrational brats demanding their own oompa-loompa.At my college people sat around each other in class reading the personal ads instead of talking to each other.

I knew a guy who had a nice wife and family and made more money than me because he had good people skills.He injured his back and his wife left him and he became homeless and people thought he was crazy.His environment changed which changed his personality,people are fragile and it does not take much.Telling him he is crazy and needs a job is drive by healing which ugly Americans like to practice.

Answer 8

This is a very good blog, a beginner’s guide to abnormal psychology.
Short, clear and simple; and you can even post your question and contact the author regarding particular subject you are interested in

http://sensitive-psychoworld.blogspot.com/

Answer 9

oh it is a disorder and they cannot help it, she would need meds to get it under control. I feel for you, been there done that one myself! Unless she wants help it will just go on, you might find a good article and put it some where where she will be able to read it...........that might give her the clue. good luck and bless your heart!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

its legitimate and very sad. be careful saying your sister has this.