I've been seeing my stepfathers nephew. I guess he would be my step cousin(no blood relation). He is 30 w/3 beautiful boys and devorced. I'm 23 and have no children. We have known eath other since I was 8. He recently told me he has liked me since I was 15. Everthing is just sexual, but we get along really well and if things go bad I can always call him. I just think things might get serious. (I do like him) He mentioned that he was getting a visectomy (excuse the spelling) but he said he wouldn't do it if I wanted kids and I do. I'm not sure what my family would think about that. If you were in a situation with or without children what would you do? Opions accepted also, But please don't be mean.
2006-11-06 15:43:21 · 12 answers · asked by jessi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We are not blood related!!! And he doesn't have shitty family values she left him a long time ago and cheated.
2006-11-06 15:52:14 · update #1
Since not very many people know what I mean by serious. I'll explain. Yes sex is serious, but I'm talking about what we have turning into a relationship. Everybody need some type of physical contact.
2006-11-07 04:01:51 · update #2
If u truly love him go for it. But if u aren't sure remember there are 3 kids involved so be careful. I would take it slow and see what happens but I would not involve the kids until you know for sure. and the vasectomy part wait, use protection till u decide what you want to do. My advice don't rush things .
2006-11-06 15:49:17 · answer #1 · answered by blondeclan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think a 30 year old divorced man with 3 kids is the best match for a 23 year old. Doesn't say much for his family values, and he certainly doesn't need to create more babies with yet another woman. Find a younger man who is free of family obligations and create your own family rather than picking up the broken pieces of some other woman's. Dating your stepfather's nephew is just icky anyway.
2006-11-06 23:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No blood relation, no problem. I think it's kind of cool that you refered to his three boys as "beautiful". What I don't get, though, is that you say "Everything is JUST sexual..." and that you think "things might get serious". Ummm, seems to me that sex is serious, girl. So, you've had the test run and it's all good, right? I think it's time for you to decide if you want to spend the rest of your life with this guy and MARRY HIM. If so, move in that direction. If he backs off, you probably don't mean as much to him as you thought you did. In which case, stop wasting your life and move on.
2006-11-07 00:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with marrying him. He is no relation really, but I can see you wanting kids someday. You should really think long and hard about taking on his 3. It is never easy. It is possible though it just needs to be thought out thoroughly.
2006-11-06 23:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Jessie,
I don't think its a good Idea,he decided he wont have any more Children,so I think he don't care about you and your Wishes, he thinks of hem self,he is looking for someone to take care of his Kids,further more,even he is not blood related,stay away,you can do better.You are young,you have everything going for you,live and enjoy your Life,don't bring up Children who are not yours,and can have your own.Please do yourself a Favour,Ks
2006-11-07 01:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by karl s 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Honey you are no blood kin to this man! If you really love him and except him for what he already has and you think he will return that love to you. It does not matter what people say nor think...
2006-11-06 23:47:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quick call Jerry Springer, you're going to Chicago!!
2006-11-06 23:49:13 · answer #7 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with dating him. They shouldn't make a deal out of it but I don't know them.
2006-11-06 23:48:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You "think" it might get serious? What is having sex with someone?? If that isn't serious, what is? You sound extremely immature...I would rethink the whole situation!
2006-11-07 00:08:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
hmm
im not sure wut ur family might think of this
but if u marry relative 1 or 2 of ur kids will have a problem like 1 of them will be kind of blind and cant get any glasses bc this is a relative thing a doctor cant do anything bout it
2006-11-06 23:48:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋