would you ever date someone who had dated your friend ?

Question

are there any times this is ok?are there like time limits?what does it depend on?

Answer 1

Hello,

It is my opinion that once a relationship has ended that both people in it should be able to date whoever they want.

Think about it this way, if your ex-boyfriend liked one of your friends and your friend liked him back - would you want to be the one who stopped them from being together? I'm guessing not, because that would only result in both of them resenting you for keeping them from being together, if they choose to respect your wishes.

A boyfriend I dated in high school was previously in a relationship with one of my friends. They had only dated for 3 weeks. We ended up dating for 3 years, and we are still incredibly good friends. I approached her when I started to have feelings for him (which was a few weeks after they had broken up), and she told me that was completely fine with her. She realized that they weren't right for each other, and ultimately wanted us both to be happy.

I think that any good friend would ultimately realize that. However, if you are thinking about dating one of your friends ex-boyfriends, I would talk to your friend first. If she is ok with it, than go for it. If she isn't ok with it, then I would give her a day or two to think it over - and discuss it with her again, but say it like this "He and I have feelings for each other and we would like to try dating. But I would not be happy dating him without your blessing. But I think I have a change to really be happy with someone, and I hope that you can understand that. Please don't make me do this without the support of one of my really good friends."

If she truly is a good friend, she'll understand.

I hope this helps, and good luck!

Answer 2

My best friend dated my xbf. Then married him. I dated him after a major break up so it was never serious. When she began to have feelings for him she asked if it would bother me. I told her not at all. They have been married now for 12 yrs. So it would depend on how deep your relationship was with the other person and how good friends you are with the friend.

Answer 3

I once was set up for a blind date. As this guy and I were having a few drinks he began talking about his ex-wife, not mentioning her name. I must of asked a question or two because he mentioned that she was raised in a small town in Michigan. Hmmmm, me too. lol I asked where in Michigan. He said it was in the Upper Pen, near Escanaba. Hmmmm, me too. Name of town.....wow that was where I grew up. He was my sisters best friends ex. No way! Too close for comfort...just seemed like an uncomfortable situation. Get out quick, go home and shower! It is funny now. My sister, her girl friend and I have laughed about it many times.

Answer 4

It depends if u like him and if so I would ask my friend first since it is after all her ex and u will feel much better trust me. Thats what happend 2 me and my friend I asked her and I felt awhole lot better.Good luck.

Answer 5

i think it all depends on how the guy treated your friend you know if he was sweet, faithful, etc... i think it also depends on how the relationship between your friend and the boyfriend went. it also has to be ok w/ your friend you know so it wouldn't ruin the relationship between your friend and you.

Answer 6

I really wouldn't do it. You never know, he might be asking you for a date to get even with your friend.

Answer 7

I would say "no". Too risky to ruin a friendship and cause a lot of drama that you do not need added to your life.

Answer 8

i would say no i would never do that even if your friend said it wouldn't bother her believe me it would friends are forever no men are worth losing friendship

Answer 9

Yes, I would and have done it. I have had it "done to me," too, and don't have any ill will towards those who did.

Love comes to you, and you follow...

Answer 10

sure depends how hot she is.