Just curious.. do white girls initially date black guys to get back at their parents?

Question

I just want to know because I see how some interacial couples arent evenly respected by their partner. We all know the stereotypes of how white girls are easy and dont question them about their comings and goings, will let them take their money, drive their cars, etc but what is in it for the girl?

Answer 1

I am sure that there are many people whose parents have expressed their predjudices to as they grow up. But - this goes for men and women. There are those people that grow up and do not hold onto the beliefs of thier parents and want to date outside their own race or religion. And sometimes, they do it to spite them - to try to "get back at them". This does happen. But, your question assumes that this is only done by white women dating black men which is the problem... Most people have some kind of prejudice - men women, whites, blacks - all races.. cultures have some kind of preconceived idea of how people are based on their race, culture or religion. Some people do not or were raised to and then chose not to when they became wise enough to know they shouldn't. This is not limited to white women and black men nor is the scenario you mention where the black man essentially disrespects and takes advantage of the white woman. There are tons of abusive, disrespectful, imperfect relationships in the word - that can't be constricted to the one scenario you describe.

All of that has nothing to do with race - at all. I have never heard that sterotype. A person who would let all of that happen and deal with any man who is not showing them respect has low self-esteem and would rather be with anyone, feel that they are loved by someone - rather than no one. Self esteem does not depend on someones' race - it depends on their emotions, their past, how they feel, if they feel inferior to others.. on and on. It is the way that someone feels about themselves that determines how they will let someone treat them. So, it is not about what they get from it - in this kind of relationship scenario (with any race) because someone with such low self esteem does not really want anything. That is the problem - they will settle for anything, let people take advantage of them..perhaps all they need to hear is I love you and that just makes them feel loves. In their minds, they are not worthy of anything and feel lucky that someone loves them despite how that person may treat them and disrespect them.

The reasons that someone may not feel good about themselves and let that happen has nothing to do with race. Similarly it has nothing to do with the race of the person who is doing those things. All people (meaning all races as well) can disrespect their partner, take their money, drive their cars... There are some people that think they can do whatever they want and walk all over people and they do -- and they get away with it. But that does not mean that person is black - they can be any color. A persons' actions are defined by who they are, their beliefs, how they were raised, how they feel - not based on race or anything else.

Nothing is so "black and white" - there are shades of gray. While this may be your experience - myabe you know some people who fit neatly into this very tight category, it is certainly not a stereotype or statistic. It does not relate to the rest of the world in any way.

:o)

Answer 2

Ha. Well for one, I dated a white guy who had no car, who I had to lend money, etc. My boyfriend now is black, and he has his own car. Don't get me wrong, he's not wealthy or anything, but he's in much better shape than the white guy I dated before him. As for white girls being "easy" I doubt that. I was actually extremely skeptical when I first started seeing my boyfriend, because I'm extremely skeptical of men in general, and also because I haven't met that many black men that weren't extremely aggressive in pursing sexual relations, with me, when they've had girlfriends. And I don't think I'm special or anything, I just think I look like an easy target. Anyway, if anything, I'd be less likely to date someone who is black, because I know my family might be a little uneasy. I'm very conflict avoidant, and I really didn't want to tell my family that my boyfriend is black, but I did, and after the initial shock of it, everything has been fine. My boyfriend is a good and loving person, and THAT is why I gave him a chance - and why we are still together. He appreciates me, and is reliable - answers his phone when I call, calls when he says he will, etc. Those are just a couple reasons why I'm with him, there are a lot more of course.

Answer 3

I know where you are coming from with this question. Sadly, I think for the most part you're right. I wouldn't stereotype all black males in one group... I feel that alot of the younger generation don't see color as a barrier anymore to experimenting with relationships like say it would have been in my youth (the late 70's and early 80's). Looking at this situation from the point of teenage rebellion it most likely seems like a good idea to the kid at the time... but when emotions and daily life are involved it often times turns in to more (for both parties involved). I would hope that in this day and age that the parents of both teens would look past the color issue and concentrate on the person their child was involved with. No matter what color the skin, it does not determine the soul and character of the person.

Answer 4

Those are just stereotypes. My friend Megan is having a baby with her black boyfriend and they live in New Mexico. There really aren't many black people in NM. I think they just fell in love and the color thing is not an issue for them at all. It's great that they are so happy and he treats her very well. I've dated black guys before and don't let them drive my car, I'm not easy, and they certainly don't take my money. I don't date anyone to piss off my parents (or to make them happy). I date people because I like them and value their companionship. Color has nothing to do with it for me.

Answer 5

it all depends on the individuals involved. I am white and I dated a black man--I never thought anything of it--but my family went nuts--I never told them-so i didnt do it to det even as you say--I just fell in love..actually in the end I chose my parents over the guy.. He neve treated me with any disrespect nor I him--we just both agreed it was to hard for both are families--his family thought like you --that i was all those stereotypes you mentioned--mine felt the same.They ruined a good relationship really and we let them because in the end for both of us our families came first.

Answer 6

Exactly what you said...stereotypes. for every one you mentioned for White girls I can find you a Black girl or any other race just the same. If you are worried about guys running off to other girls (of any race), those are your insecurites. Get over them. You can't complain about being lonely if it is self inflicted.

Answer 7

I'm white. I don't date black but latinos. I don't do it to piss off mom and dad, although it does. and yeah he walked all over me in the beggining but i've grown a back bone.
there is nothing in it for us girls other than we don't know we deserve and can get a better guy. trust me, that when us white girls think of the perfect guy it's not one that uses us. but some of us don't have strong female role models that teach us to get what we deserve.
sorry if i pissed off any strong willed white girls with my comments. i'm just speaking from my experience.

Answer 8

why dont white girls have any self respect

Answer 9

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Answer 10

A horse hung man! lol,. but really, Im not sure about that one.