IT really bothers me. My bf drive me crazy. He is jealous of everything and everybody, if he sees something or hears someone talking about doign something, he wants to do it too. I feel he cant make up his own mind or make his own choices. Is it me, or is it annoying?
It worries me because that means he gets influenced by others or any situations he is surrounded by. He is the type of person who will buy something even if he cant afford it, just because you are buying it. If I say I want to go out and do something with my girlfriend, he says well am gonna go out and do something too. If I say I am shopping on the internet at bed bath and beyond, he gets on and says he is shopping on the internet for something too...
I dont get it, like he is always so competitive or trying to one up people, or me, or copying others .........ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh,
I know, I know am losing my mind !!!
2006-11-06 14:48:20 · 9 answers · asked by Mx2 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
lol. I dont know anyone like that in all of my travels through life. hes realllly insecure and i would just get away from him before it causes you tons of aggrivation. that sounts really annoying.
2006-11-06 14:51:39 · answer #1 · answered by Thumper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not feel secure in himself and cannot make his own decisions. He had no feeling of value and looks to you to make all his choices.
Some think that when this happens its a compliment, since, if someone wants to do everything you do=you're doing something right. Often enough, it proves to be an unhealthy relationship, considering this is your friend who cannot respect what you want and value your identity enough to respect your personal authenticity. Jealous, insecure and no mind of your own. Tell him to get a life.
2006-11-06 22:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is trying to one-up on everyone. If he is trying to impress you, tell him that you are not impressed by him being a spend thrift. Tell him that he needs to value his time and money more carefully. He may be insecure but he also has money problems that need attention. Can you imagine living with someone like that? If not, get out before it is too late. Thank you for your question.
2006-11-06 23:50:19 · answer #3 · answered by BrowBrat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a cliff and jump off the end (where you can safely land at a ledge a little lower) watch the dude go flying past you
2006-11-06 22:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by Fluffy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
how old is your bf?i think he's immature...from your writing, i think he's acting like a 3 yearold kid!
my 1 year and 3 month daughter would copy my every single act!when i'm folding the clothes, she would do it too...i'm sitting on the sofa, she would jump out from her toy car and sit on the sofa too..i'm reading a book, she would grab a book and read too (well, she's just pretending to read though, as she still couldnt read any..LOL!)
see, your bf is acting exactly like my 1 year and 3 month daughter!
i think he need to grow up...seriously...
2006-11-06 22:54:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, he has no self confidence! he has to make sure he is ok in other peoples minds, which he shouldnt, who cares what others think. he reminds me of some people i know. they have to be better then everyone else to make themselves look good! they dont think they are good enough! maybe you should help him know that he doesnt have to look and do and be like everyone! let him know that you like him the way he is and you dont want everyone else!
2006-11-06 23:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he hasn't got the confidence to make his own decisions and probably never will...run away very fast
2006-11-06 23:12:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know that you need a new b/f who would wanna waste time with this guy? he sounds like he would be hell to live with or even deal with on a daily basis. move on girl before you go any furthur with this guy.
2006-11-06 22:52:32 · answer #8 · answered by roy40372 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know but my sisters boyfriend is exactly like that and it just kills me
2006-11-06 22:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by Mama 2123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋